Tabitha Graham - 10/13/00 13:18:30
My Email:XxPatchouli420xX@aol.com
age: 17

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This is one of the best sites i've seen on rape. I love all of the poems, especially "The Rapist". It is so moving.... Tabitha

Connor Hartwell - 08/03/00 00:36:19
My Email:chsk8er@excite.com
age: 14

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Dear Sarah, My name is Connor, I am nearly 15 and I just read your tragic story. Yesterday when I was with my friends, one of my friends sometimes likes to be a little more violent than most people. My mom said something to piss Rob off, Rob then replied with "oh don t worry, I won't kill you..." And so not realizing what I was saying, I jumped in and said,"Yeah, you'll just rape her." I was meaning it to be kind of joking, but I didn't realize exactly how powerful that statement was. And then, as my mom flipped out as a punishment she said that I should research and find out more about rape and what it does to people and how it affects their lives even afterwards. So today, while we were surfing the internet, my mom stumbled upon your website, and I began to read it. As I read your story, I realized how truly serious getting raped is, and I felt so sorry that you ever blamed yourself, or that anyone else made you hink it was your fault. It truly was not. It really shocked me when you said that the school was defending the rapist instead of you and the other victim, because that is pretty messed up. One line that really got to me was when your vice principal sai to you, "roll your socks up and get on with your life." I don't know how he could of said that, its as if he had no sympathy or sorrow for what you were going through, and letting it be okay for people to rape others. I can't blame you for dropping out of school, considering what all those people were saying to you and not believing you. It's insulting that they put him in some of your classes. I would be so furious in your place, I don't understand how you refrained from hurting or killing him, or kept yourself from suicide after all he put you through. If I were you I would have dreamed of bringing an end to his life. Then finding out the he was only given 2 months of open custody, and 18 months of probation instead of having to go to jail, (where he might have been the victim of rape himself...and get a dose of what he dealt out to you and others)must have devastated ou and the other victims because it seems totally unjust for what he's done. Even though his actions lasted only an evening, the effects have lasted well over a year and no doubt will continue to be skeletons in your closet. I really admire how you have held yourself together, I realize that you had times great depression, but for all you were put through, it seems that you are doing pretty damn well. I think that you put up your website was a terrific idea. It can give con idence to women when they know that they are not the only one this happened to, and that it can show them that it isn't their fault. It might show guys that even though they are only actively assaulting a woman for a brief time, what they did will haunt he woman for such a great time, most likely ruining their victim's life. Having read your stories, I too got a differnt view of rape. It is more that just a sexual assault, it is something that truly messes someone's life up. I now, having researched it, have promised myself that I will not joke about rape ever again, and wil do my best not to let anyone else joke about it. I hope that as your life continues that you will be able to meet men again, and go out with your friends, stop using drugs and alcohol and have your life be normal again. I too used drugs, got caught, and am not doing it any more. I hope that you have the same blessing and that your life will gradually get better and better. Sincerely, Connor Hartwell p.s. email me

Kathryn Hartwell - 08/02/00 21:49:46
My Email:katharsis2@juno.com
age: 47

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Dearest Sarah. I know you must hear all the time about what a heroic woman you are. You crashed and burned, survived and prevailed. My prayers will be withyou, as I know your work is still cut out for you in healing. I accessed your site because my son made a reference (jokingly) to someone raping me, his mom. I went balistic. He is 14, nervous about beginning highschool, and unaware of the terrible tragedy that rape is, and how it haunts the victim for years, or thr ughout their lives. I am having him read much of your site, and write to you as well. If we can keep one more boy on the good side of the ledger... He is a good young man, but there is too much public violence to let any comment like his go. I appreciate greatly your site. All the other information I found was not appropriate to his age, or did not have the emotional content of yours. Thank you for helping us, Sarah. I wish you couldn't have...I wish your experience had never happened. I h pe it will be some balm to your wounds that you are actively contributing to the deterrence of rape. Has your website been made into a booklet for students or parents? I realize you may have no time or inclination to respond, but I'd love to hear from you. With great respect, Kathryn H. Palos Verdes, California

Amy - 06/22/00 21:12:55
My URL:http://www.coolnurse.coim
My Email:coolnurse@coolnurse.com
age: 41

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So glad you put this site together...great poem. I am also a survivor. It takes time, but life does go on. It has been over 10 years & there are times when I almost forget. Keep up the good work!

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Great site ... You Are Very Brave!

Christina LaMere - 05/09/00 03:28:46
My Email:christinalamere@netscape.net
age: 17

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I too was raped by a dear family friend. It only happened in August 99 and am still going to court. He is now out on bail and I am scared to even leave the house for fear to see him. It took me a while to come out and tell for I was being threatend. My fa ily was being threatened and so was my dear boyfriend. I tried to committ suicide 4 times and ended up going to a hospital to get treated for depression and I believe it was the best thing I had done for now I am working again and about to attend a tech c llege for phsycology and computer graphics. I wish you the best of luck with your life. I know if I can make it through this, anyone CAN!!!!

butterfly - 04/22/00 08:57:06
My URL:http://www.angelfire.com/or/emergence
My Email:lunamoth33@hotmail.com
age: 17

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nice opening poem. your strength is evident and awesome. keep it up. please visit my survivor site if you have a moment.

Laura Hartley - 03/29/00 20:33:49
My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/i_sang_holy_holy
My Email:laura_lea_72@yahoo.com
age: 28

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Lovely site you have. Please feel free to visit my site sometime at http://geocities.datacellar.net/i_sang_holy_holy. Together in the journey, Laura

Aunt Liz - 02/22/00 02:23:20
My Email:bdeanliz@aol.com
age: 33

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Dear Sarah: I feel your pain so much. I only wish I would have known and could have been there for you too. Hang in there because life does get better, I know from experience. You underestimate yourself so much though. You are a very intelligent, loving woma and you can do anything that you want, just believe in yourself. I'm so proud of you for sharing your story and your soul. You are a very strong young woman, and you ARE A SURVIVOR! You can do it Sarah. I love you very much and thank you for sharing his page with me. I love you very much, Aunt Liz

J. Dalton - 01/09/00 04:39:47
My Email:Stapt@webtv.net
age: 27

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Some of the things I've just read almost makes me sick to admit I'm a guy! This site helps me understand what a friend of mine may be going through. It's nice to see your courage may help others!

diana palese - 12/13/99 22:16:11
My URL:http://www.angelfire.com/va2/silentrage1
My Email:missssworld@compuserve.com
age: 15

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Your poems are beautiful...I got a lot of strength out of theme...Hold on, You'll make...

Crystal - 10/27/99 19:02:11
My Email:angelgirl1981@excite.com
age: 18

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You are an inspiration to me and to thousands of women like me. I was 15 when I was raped by my boyfriend. As a result of that rape, I became pregnant, but I never reported the rape. I wish now that I had. Thank you for your inspiration. And yes, if you are wondering, I did keep the baby.

Sarah Mitchell - 10/07/99 19:59:32
My Email:ayngel24@hotmail.com
age: 15

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age: 22

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Sarah - 07/25/99 23:09:41
My URL:http://www.pilgrimpage.com/novisiblescars
age: 26

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GREAT PAGE!

rather not say... - 06/24/99 00:57:49

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Hello. I was raped 2 years ago and still feel like crap. My boyfriend doesn't understand and thinks I should just "get over it" and stop dwelling on the past. He makes comments about my weight a lot, (jokingly of course so I shouldn't take them seriously, so he thinks.) He also makes sexual comments a lot. He's always "joking" about the fact that he doesn't get any "lovin" or something or other about the fact that we don't have sex. We haven't had sex for almost 2 years now. GEE! I WONDER WHY? I used to th nk it was just because of me, but I don't think so anymore.

katie - 04/10/99 07:32:02
age: 21

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Thankyou for making me feel less alone. Rape takes away so much, it's easy to forget life altogether with so much trauma..... I just wanted to write 'I survived' ... i was raped by a friend 6 months ago who did not get convicted .. like many cases and is at my university. Anyway, keep going and fighting - we are worth so much more than those animals who commit such crimes.

Martin Battaliou - 03/09/99 17:59:04
My URL:http://www.angelfire.com/mb/bbep/javascript.html

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Rock on people, this is a great site. Thanks for letting me sign your guestbook. Keep up the good work. Re ards Martin Battaliou /table> Gayle - 03/07/99 01:51:32 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/HotSprings/2402/ My Email:stormf5@yahoo.com age: Ummm.... I forgot? *g* Comments: Thanks for taking the time to create this terrific page. I really like where you told survivor's of acquaintace rape to believe in themselves. How often we do forget this! Thank you for helping to defy a rape culture. Becky - 02/10/99 07:52:11 My URL:http://home.worldnet.att.net/~pixiestix My Email:pixiestix@worldnet.att.net Comments: I really enjoyed your page. Your poetry speaks for many. Great Job. Candice Cravey - 01/08/99 15:30:21 age: 16 Comments: I feel your pain!!! Lisa - 11/14/98 04:32:50 My Email:ljs96 age: 30 Comments: Your poems touched me deeply. You are not alone, and what you have done for your personal healing has helped others, at least it helped me Wendy Matthews - 11/12/98 18:42:14 My Email:wmatthew@notes.cc.sunysb.edu age: 18 Comments: I love your poem. I had to fight back the tears. I was never raped, but over the summer my best friend was raped. I wrote a story about it and I am going to construct a web page about it. I don't know the address yet, but I will definately make a link to this page Al Gardner - 10/15/98 12:59:47 My Email:alg@rg-canada.com age: old Comments: James Webster (the Mysterious Jokerson) - 09/22/98 23:27:06 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Paris/Bistro/2923/index.html My Email:sonofjoker@hotmail.com age: 18 Comments: Sarah, if I had known you had a link to my poems, I would have put a link to your site, too. I hope things are doing alright for you. How are your poems coming? I've just about finished manuscript four. Guess I had better go back and make them better nd put them on the comp huh? Nice to be by here. Keep it up hun, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and if you lose your way, I've always got a flashlight. Judy Savauge - 09/20/98 21:26:55 My Email:jsavauge@spartan.ac.brocku.ca age: somewhere between 50 & death! Comments: Sarah, what can I say? I feel as if I went through a lot of the 'stuff' with you, and I am so proud of you. Proud of you for your survival, your courage, your drive to share your experiences to help others, and proud to know you. You are a terrific rol model, and I'm so pleased we've kept in touch. I think I've learned some things about survival from you, even at my age! Thank you. Steve - 08/23/98 18:43:47 age: 19 soon enough! Comments: You know that those of us who love you will always be there for you in your times of need. This definatly classifies as one of those times. No matter how many miles away I might be, I can always come back and kick the crap out of anyone who stands in th way of your haopiness and sanity. I will miss you but will always bew thinking of you. You have made us all very proud but especially me. I know what you had to deal with, I know how far you've come, it is people like you who can help others concur th re problems, whether similar or different. It all starts with a problem, peaks with torture, anguish, pain, sadness but nothing is mightier then the will to set things right and the strength and courage to concur the problem. You have done it, you have ON and everyone knows that now. Love You Forever Sis... Allison Werth - 08/23/98 17:19:55 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Wellesley/Garden/4506/ My Email:allison@kanza.net age: 30 Comments: Come check out my site- SURVIVING THE SHADOWS OF RAPE-!! I'm just getting started on it so be sure and check back soon. I have already posted some of my own ANGRY poetry on my "POLITICALLY INCORRECT" RAGE page and would like to have more so whoever reads this (that includes you too Sarah), send me your angry poetry and I'll probably add it to my page. Allison Werth - 08/11/98 03:40:33 My URL:http://kanza.net My Email:allison@kanza.net age: 30 Comments: I think your poetry is great. I am a victim of sexual assault also and I write poetry too. I'm presently working on a book called "Surviving the Shadows" which is a compilation of all types of writings and drawings from several sexual assault survivors. I would love to have some more material so if you would be interested please contact me by email. Taimoor Ali Khan - 08/08/98 19:12:11 My Email:taimooralikhan@hotmail.com age: 25 Yrs. Comments: CONGRATULATIONS for winning your court case !! Well, Sarah, me advice is that from now on, start living your life from the begining. I know that may sound somewhat absurd to you but this is the best advice I can give you and the best thing which you must do at this time. What has passed has passed and whatever happened did not involved your assent at all; so what it is to feel guilty about. You cannot go on living like this for the rest of your life. I hope you can unserstand what I mean. I really care about you and that's why I want you to be happy. With love, Taimoor. Susan - 08/04/98 16:37:32 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Athens/Ithaca/4073/ My Email:goldnpot@aol.com age: 25 Comments: Been there know how you feel. Thanks for being strong enough to share with others. anne marie owens - 07/31/98 19:18:29 Comments: good for you sarah. be strong. Cynthia M. (Yarde) Kiernan - 07/26/98 16:07:42 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/Athens/Parthenon/2150 My Email:equinox@bit-net.com age: 26 Comments: Very nice site!! I think it is very well done! ** Congratulations ** on your victory. Please visit my site : ) Narcoleptic-Boy - 07/20/98 02:41:13 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/SunsetStrip/Alley/4241 My Email:yu212516@yorku.ca age: 18 Comments: Sarah, your page is amazing, your writing is amazing, and you are amazing. *Puff* *Puff* It's all good =) Miss you too!! You won, and you kick ass -- Luv Robb The Great Imperial Llama - 07/19/98 18:08:39 My Email:rkillick@niagara.com age: Guess Comments: I like the flashing "I WON" banner. I told you I Would visit so here I am. Now I must comtinue on my tour of your page. Later The Great Imperial Llama Cuthbert - 07/16/98 18:13:40 My Email:youknow age: 19 Comments: Hey, its me i liked the poems "the only true friend i ever had" it was good along with all the others give me a mail back when ya have time C U S :) April aka Rose - 07/08/98 15:50:39 My Email:rose1583@yahoo.com age: 14yrs. Comments: Sarah, I feel your pain and anyone else's who has ever gone through this. The raping doesn't have to last long but it will still leave lasting scars that will be there with you until the day you die. They don't understand the pain and torment that a per on goes through when they are a rape victim. But God does and he will heal. He is the one true since of peace that I have found.... Zaraus DES - 07/08/98 02:07:19 My URL:http://geocities.datacellar.net/SoHo/Museum/1833 My Email:zarausdes@yahoo.com age: 29 Comments: Again, I really like your work!!! Nice site also Sarah! ZD Craig Zeunges - 07/08/98 00:24:42 My Email:flybysoul@hotmail.com age: 18 Comments: Hello, I just found this off of Severed Deception! I want for you to know that no matter what may have happened, there is always a light within the vast darkenss of despair...that is what keeps me going, take care!! Lisa - 07/05/98 01:26:44 My Email:poohbear_181@hotmail.com age: old enough Comments: If you ever want to talk to me, you know you can....I'm only a phone call away....... Uncle Steve - 06/22/98 13:17:49 My Email:usmc96@fls.infi.net age: Ancient Comments: Hi Sarah, Finally finished your web page. Fantastic writing abilities !!!! I can feel your pain, but more importantly, I can also feel your healing. Hang tough, you're still gonna make your journalism goals with such writing talents that you show! More healing a d determination will get you anything you want! I imgine your page is helping somebody else cope with their dark and painful secrets, as we speak! Super Job Sarah, we're very proud of you and your awesome display of courage! :~) Keep Smiling :~) We're h re for you if there's ever anything we can do to help!! Uncle Steve Kevin - 06/21/98 17:56:07 My Email:tinkerh@rocketmail.com age: 40 Comments: Sarah, Your story really touched my heart, This is one Homepage that I am sure will help a lot of People in many different ways..... I Wish you all the best in the future Stephenie Williams - 06/21/98 00:54:22 My Email:Gunthersw@mailexcite.com age: 18 Comments: I love you sarah..... I will call you sometime soon.!:) Doreen Chapman - 06/20/98 20:07:07 age: older than dirt Comments: Hi Sarah, Just found your "page". I understand it, unfortunately. Writing is good for the soul - and you do it well. Stand tall! :-) Love (Great) Aunt Deeny Your Mother - 06/19/98 06:18:21 Comments: To my daughter- Sarah- I have read your web page...I am so proud to have a wonderful daughter like you.. Sarah I knew some thing was wrong, My gut told me. I am so glad that you told me, you where raped. When you are a Mother you will understand how important it is, when your child tells you things that you might not want to hear, but It makes a MOther so dam proud , that her child can come to her with good and bad news, and talk about these things..together!!! LOVe you for trusting in me. I have made mistakes in my life, and You know that I am the first to say this to you !! Sarah , never let any one tell you, its time to pull up your socks and move on!! Get on with LIFE.... Only you know when the time is right for this!! YOu call the shots LOve .. You listen to your heart. Love you with all my heart and soul.. I am so lucky to be your MOther.. Barb Gardner Aaron M. - 06/19/98 03:37:29 age: 20 Comments: I am very proud of youfor doing this home page. barb - 06/18/98 20:50:46 My Email:bgardner@niagara.com Comments: Good stuff - 06/18/98 20:46:59 Comments: My Home Page | Visit Wellesley/Garden | Explore GeoCities | Get your own free homepage