Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood
and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how
he
was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I'd be twins!" He was
a
natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was
there
telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Michael
and asked him, "I don't get it. You can't be positive all the time. How
do
you do it?"
Michael replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'Mike, you
have
two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose
to
be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something
bad
happens, I can choose to be a victim or choose to learn from it. I
choose
to learn from it. Everytime someone comes to me complaining I can choose
to
accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I
choose the positive side of life."
"Yeah, right. It isn't that easy," I protested.
"Yes it is," Michael said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut
away
all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to
situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to
be
in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line is: It's your choice how
you
live life."
I reflected on what Michael said. Soon there after, I left the tower
industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought
about
him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several
years later, I heard Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling
some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and
weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods
placed in his back.
I saw Michael about six months after the accident. When I asked him how
he
was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my
scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his
mind as the accident took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was the well being of my soon
to
be born daughter," Michael replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I
remembered I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose
to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
Michael continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I
was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and saw the
expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.
In
their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said
Michael.
"She asked me if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I said. The doctors
and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep
breath and yelled, 'Gravity.' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am
choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead'."
Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of
his
amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have a choice to
live fully. Attitude is everything.
