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My father continues to suffer from his cold but he does not stay at home all day. He still does not understand his attorney's advice but has stopped throwing tantrums about his ignorance. It was torture being in the same room with him, let alone the same car. He cannot bring himself to behave like a human being with his family. He uses all his charms on everyone else, his venom is for his family.
I set up the irrevocable trust despite his aprehensions and ignorance. He is not moving any more money this month to it. He prefers to complain about life instead of living it. I am understandably unhappy with him.
I was in a bank recently to talk to his financial advisor there becasue he has given me a CD but didn't have my ss# or birth date. She was easy to talk to and knowledgeble about my parents. She said that she had known them for 14yrs. She confirmed and validated things I have already stated about their relationship and mom's symptom history. She said that mom was businesswoman or at least seemed to understand her advice better than dad and for the most part he did let her do every thing in the bank that needed to be done. She did not remember any symptoms before 1995. She said that they are opposites in temperament and that he seems to be having trouble dealing with the changes as well as the financial aspects of life. Oh and he has told her he is dying. He expects to live only a couple of more years.
I am still unemployed and have to figure out what I want to do with my life. I doubt I can deal with a stressful job such as in advertising.
The rabbi of my temple finally said the misheberach for mom as promised. It was the high point of the month for me. Mom remembered it long afterwards.
We were called up by our Hebrew names. I was called up to say the blessing over the Torah reading. Mom was called up for her blessing alongside me. She was up close and personal to the Torah scroll. Since it was Shabbat Shirah, I was able to show her how the poetry in it was written in a way to form a brick wall. Our ancesters wanted us to feel safe, that God was protecting us, guarding us and that she should feel safe and secure. The rabbi chanted the blessing in between the aliyahs(people who are called up to bless the Torah) and then she was still able to stand near the sacred scroll seeing the handwritten parchment closer than she had ever done before in her life. Afterwards, one of the well wishers was the rabbi's son, Ishi, a very sensitive 3yr old.
I have to document my father's mental lapses. He did not remember my birthday, he has to write notes to himself for such important things as getting copies of the medicaid recertification form, he refuses to have his hearing checked, he cannnot understand the lawyer's instructions about the trust and it was explained to him by me, my brother and the lawyer a few times for each of us. He also wanted the bank to set up something so that he would not have to pay bills, they would pay it for him from his account. However he was told to bring in the bills he wants them to pay. Instead he sent me to see the person setting it up for him. She didn't need me, only the bills. What does this mean?
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