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I am a 21 year old Gay male living in the UK. I am worried about my embarrassing penis size, it is about 16-18 inches long when erect and about 12-14 inches when soft!!
Am I a sexual freak?? or am I just blessed?? Should I go see my doctor about it?? or start to work for porn film makers??
Anyway most of the guys I have tried to have a relationship with long-term or otherwise they have run a mile when seeing my penis. Am I destined for a life of self relief??
Can you give me any help / ideas on what to do
Thanks,
Tim in UK"
Tim,
One of the largest concerns that I see expressed by males (gay OR straight) has to do with penis size. Although I must admit that most of the concern revolves around being "too small" as opposed to being "too big", the answers to either are virtually the same.
First, roughly 80% of all males fall within what is considered the "normal" or "average" range. It is important to understand that "normal" in this case was determined by charting the sizes of a limited group of test subject and then selecting a range containing the majority of the subjects. Masters and Johnson report the average erect penis measures between 5 and 7 inches while the average limp or flaccid penis measures between 2.8 to 5.6 inches measured from public bone to tip. According to the book Mandens Krop (which is translated from English, but does not give the original title) the average is 15cm and 90% are between 13 and 18cm. The records for a fully functional penis are 1.5cm and 30cm (12 inches). This would, of course, put you well outside the range of "normal" size.
The statistics on erect penis lengths for white college men, in quarter-inch lengths measured by The Alfred C. Kinsey Institute for Sex Research (from the point where the penis meets the body along the top to its tip):
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So the average penis length is 6.16 inches.
The average girth is 4.84 inches.
More recent studies have produced the following results:
A sample of 60 men studied by researchers at the University of California at San Francisco determined that the average size of their erect penises was 5.1 inches long and 4.9 inches in girth. A Brazilian urologist who measured 150 men reported that the average size of their erections was 5.7 inches long and 4.7
inches in girth.
There are several reasons this may be considered a problem especially in a male-male relationship. In fact, there are instances when it could be downright dangerous - especially in the area of anal contact.
While 18 inches would be in the area of record setting, I would never recommend that anyone go into the porn business. While I enjoy a good flick as much as anyone, the reputation of the industry for exploiting and then discarding its' employees is hardly reassuring - not to mention how dangerous it is to engage in mutiple partner activities (many times without protection) these days.
In short, the only "good" answer I can give you - if indeed your problem is preventing you from getting and maintaining a satisfying relationship - would be to consult a urologist to check on the availability of reduction surgery. While it is not common, nor highly documented, your doctor should be able to provide you with additional information.
In the meantime, there is no substitute for honest, open communication between you and your partner. You may find that a simple discussion of each others likes and dislikes will go a long way toward aiding you in maintaining a long term relationship. Understand that just as you may be uncomfortable about your large size, your partner may be just as uncomfortable about his size in comparison to you.
Good luck - and keep me posted on your progress!!
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Needless to say I was (and am) devistated. I am still in love with him and want to stay together, but I can't stand the idea of doing his laundry so he looks good on a date someone else - let alone a woman! Will he change? What should I do?"
David in Illinois
Dave, I sympathize with your situation. I've been in several "questionable" relationships. This may not be what you want to hear but.... GET OUT of the relationship and GET OUT NOW! Now I know this probably sounds pretty cold - but there are several things you need to consider:
1) This guy seems like he is just using you - any relationship MUST be a two way street.
2) If this guy says he's not gay - he's NOT gay. He may have "put up" with your contact as a means to an end (like a place to stay or someone to do his laundry!) OR he may have actually been unsure of his sexual preference.
3) It seems like you are a real nice, sensative guy and I know you can do a LOT better in a relationship. Believe me, there is someone out there for you!
Anywho - it seems like your situation can lead to nothing but pain and heartache for you. Please keep me posted on your progress.
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