Some people believe that in most relationships there is one person that identifies as butch and one as femme. In the olden days, you had to choose to be one or the other. If you talk to people though, you find that there are many butch/butch couplings as well as femme/femme. Yet there is a school of thought that one is always *femmier* than the other and visa versa. So, let's see what you think!