The Cancer/Aquarius combination will require a lot of patience, tolerance, and acceptance from both parties. Cancer, a water sign, approaches life entirely from an emotional point of view, while Aquarius, an air sign, approaches life from a cool, objective mental standpoint. Cancer reacts to people and situations through gut-level feelings, and Aquarius, although capable of deep emotion, strives to separate herself as completely as possible from emotionality.
Obviously, these two women do things very differently. The Cancer woman will be frustrated at times in expressing her feelings with her Aquarian partner. She will feel that certain things that are very important are hard to express in abstract intellectual terms. The Aquarian woman tends to want to be completely divorced from personal, emotional needs and will find the Cancer woman's desire for emotional reassurance exasperating at times. To the Aquarian woman, mental rapport is the most important connection, and she can feel uncomfortable with a lot of emotional intimacy. The Aquarian tends to be independent and self-reliant and may feel smothered by the Cancer's tendency to nurture. The Cancer woman often finds her Aquarian partner cool and aloof, and the more the Cancer woman reaches out to her Aquarian partner, the more the Aquarian woman withdraws onto a high, detached plateau.
These two women will have to work hard to overcome these differences. The Cancer woman must learn not to take the things her Aquarian partner says or the actions she takes to detach from closeness so personally. She must realize that the most important thing for an Aquarian is the freedom to take an objective view of life. The Aquarian woman must learn more respect for her Cancer partner's feelings and sensitivity, and her need to nurture and support. The Aquarian must realize that this emotionality represents another side of life with which she needs to come to terms.
Once these two women accept each other's differences, they will find that they enrich each other's personalities. The Cancer woman will be able to approach life more objectively and see things from a broader perspective, and the Aquarian woman can be helped to get more in touch with her inner personal feelings and to become more balanced emotionally.
Sexually, these two women may have to work to attain compatibility. The Cancer woman is very warm and caring in her approach to love, and the Aquarian woman is more reserved and needs a lot of verbal interaction, as mental rapport is more important to her than the physical expression of love. The Aquarian needs to learn to express the feelings she may feel very intensely, but tends to keep under control.
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