Some transvestites believe that as they do not feel appealing in their male persona and get an erection when dressing, that it is a sex based thing. (Turn on!) well this is something personal is it not !
Who is to tell you what is right or wrong. This may be the case for some but I can assure you that after a period of time the sexual feelings do subside.
However a TV does not then give up his dressing. Why? because
it is something that goes a lot deeper than that. Believe it or not it
is something that is born in you.
Feminine
clothes :
Lets face it the fabrics have improved over the years for the male gender, but they can still be harsh or coarse and who said it is only the women that can wear the pretty stuff, in some countries the males dress is more elaborate than the ladies anyway.
It is only our Western culture that makes what you are doing so odd and maybe it is about time we changed it, even a Mallard Duck is more attractive than its mate and they mate for life.
So there
must be something in it.:-)
1) The feeling that crossdressing is wrong.
2) The fear of the feminine traits and qualities you
have.
3) Wives and other people prefer that you do not do it.
Regardless of the reason, the crossdresser will not be successful in his efforts to suppress his desires for long periods. What you must consider are these two points:-
1) You should learn to accept yourself without feelings
of remorse or guilt.
2) You should put all you fears to rest and take each
day as it comes.
If you feel you must tell your wife or partner, wait for acceptance do
not rush things.
1) Do your best to become best friends.
2) Try to go out once a week together as a couple.(If you feel comfortable dressed, and you are sure of a secure place to go! ) Do not immediately believe in your ability to pass in public. Most of us have exaggerated views of how we look when dressed :-)
3) Ask for their help and advice as you develop your feminine qualities.
4) Make her believe she is the most important person in your life.( If she isn't then why did you trust her in the first place! )
5) Let your love grow and develop and do not be scared to show it.
6) Let her help you with your problems and needs.
7) Never ever walk away when she is crying. ( If she has helped you through your problems, then the least you can do is be there for her! ) After all it is usually MUCH harder for the partner than it is for you.
8) Never talk to her in any other than a normal tone.
9) Never physically abuse her-(save your strength for Love).
10) Do not criticize her unjustly. ( Unless you are willing to accept
critisism too and act upon constructive advice! )
11) Do not let /run her down in front of others. (This means not
even family!) she has supported you so the least she deserves is your full
support.
12) Do not try to destroy her pride or self esteem. ( She has tried her best to build yours so always respect her feelings too.)
13) Always treat her as a Lady.
14) Give her little present now and again to show you care.
15) Tell her your negative thoughts but in a kind, soft and gentle way.( If you have followed the steps above then she will only be too pleased to try to help you through.)
16) Remember that your partner will also expect you to go out in
your male persona at times. This is not too unreasonable is it?
17) Always remember your commitment to faithfulness.
Finally if you always try to keep your partner involved when you are out making new friends and make her feel part of the experience, then you can expect her long lasting support.
In my humble opinion they are not catered for enough in todays society.
