An abbreviated compilation of resources for learning more about spirit/spirituality and leather.
I became aware -- through observation, direct experience, and reading -- that it is possible to integrate spirituality into one's leather life; indeed into all of life.This is offered here as a tool for others who seek that integration.
- Looking for the presentation on Leather & Spirituality?
- Quick definitions
- Books
- Books -- short list
- Web sites
- Cathartic flogging
- Thanks!
- How this came about
- Personally helpful
- Officer Wes' personal journey of leather heart & spirit
First off, some quick definitions:
Spirituality 1. The state, quality, or fact of being spiritual.Spiritual 1. Of, relating to, consisting of, or having the nature of spirit; not tangible or material. 2. Of, concerned with, or affecting the soul. 3. Of, from, or pertaining to God; deific. 4. Of or belonging to a church or religion; sacred. 5. Pertaining to or having the nature of spirits; supernatural.
Spirit 1. The vital principle or animating force traditionally believed to be within living human beings. 2. The soul, considered as departing from the body of a person at death.
Religion 1a. Belief in and reverence for a supernatural power recognized as the creator and governor of the universe. 1b. A particular integrated system of this expression. 2. The spiritual or emotional attitude of one who recognizes the existence of a superhuman power or powers.
Books that touch on leather and spirit
- 5Bound to be Free: The SM Experience by Charles Moser and J. J. Madeson (Continuum Publishing Company, 1996)
- Compleat Slave, The, by Jack Rinella (Daedalus Publishing Co., Los Angeles, 2002)
Discusses the topic of altered states, a type of spiritual experience, in "SM Travel" pp. 137-144.
- Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook, by F.R.R. Mallory (Unbound Books, Rohnert Park CA, 1998)
Has the chapters "Space" (with "Sub Space", "Dominant Space", "How to Access Sub-Space", "Moving Within Space", "Q&A" and "Altered Mental States") and "The Threshold of Flight" (with "The Threshold of Flight", "Blended Space" and "Lost in Space")
- 6Five Stages of the Soul, The: Charting the Spiritual Passages that Shape Our Lives by Harry R. Moody and David L. Carroll (Anchor Books/Doubleday, 1997)
- Four Agreements, The: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz (Amber-Allen Publishing, San Rafael, CA, 1997)
This came from the Butchmann's SM Academy recommended reading list. I haven't read it yet, but see that the agreements are: Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best.
- Gay Body: A Journey Through Shadow to Self, by Mark Thompson (St. Martin's Press, New York, 1997)
"Although it's primarily an autobiography, because Mark is a spiritually focused leatherman, there is a lot of profoundly moving material about his experiences integrating spirituality and SM."
- Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice, Mark Thompson, Editor (Alyson Publications, Boston, 1991)
This has "Spirit and the Flesh" as its fourth and final section, with eight essays in it.
- Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player, by Joseph W. Bean (Daedalus Publishing Co., San Francisco, 1994)
This has an 8-page chapter called "Leathersex and Spirituality."
- 7Magic of Ritual, The: Our Need for Liberating Rites that Transform Our Lives and Our Communities by Tom F. Driver (Harper, San Francisco, 1991)
- 8Masochism: The Art of Power by Nick Mansfield (Praeger Publishers, 1997)
- Philosophy in the Dungeon -- The Magic of Sex & Spirit, by Jack Rinella (Rinella Editorial Services, Chicago, 2006)
- Queer Dharma: Voices of Gay Buddhists, edited by Winston Leyland (Gay Sunshine Press, San Francisco, 1998)
"The chapter entitled Zen in Black Leather by Vajra Karuna."
- Radical Ecstasy, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Greenery Press, Oakland CA, 2004)
This book was a delight to read -- open, accessible, deep, light; all at once.
- 3Red Thread of Passion, The: Spirituality and the Paradox of Sex by David Guy (Shambhala Publications, Inc., 1999)
- Sacred Contracts: Awakening Your Divine Potential, by Caroline Myss (Harmony Books, New York, 2001)
"This is not a leather/BDSM book, but rather a discourse on the nature of spiritual archetypes and archetypal relationships." It may provide some insight into the spiritual dynamics of Mastery and slavery.
- 1Sacred Pain: Hurting the Body for the Sake of the Soul by Ariel Glucklich (Oxford University Press, 2001)
- 2Sacred Sexuality: Living the Vision of the Erotic Spirit by Georg Feuerstein (Jeremy P. Tarcher/Perigee Books, 1993)
- Sexuality and Spirituality, with the Kundalini Yoga Sets and Meditations of Yogi Bhajan, by Dr. Gururattan Kaur Khalsa and Ann Marie Maxwell (Yoga Technology Press, Coronado, CA, 1989)
kundalini -- in Yogic tradition, spiritual energy that lies dormant at the base of the spine until is it activated and channeled upward to the brain to produce enlightenment.
- 4Sins of the Spirit, Blessings of the Flesh: Lessons for Transforming Evil in Soul and Society by Matthew Fox (Harmony Books, 1999)
- SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude -- Principles, Skills and Tools by Guy Baldwin (Daedalus Publishing Co., Los Angeles, 2002)
Highly recommended for anyone wishing to manifest their slavery
- TRUST -- The Hand Book: A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing, by Bert Herrman (Alamo Square Press, San Francisco, 1991)
Part Two of the book, "The Spirituality of Handball", contains "The Kundalini" and "Questions and Answers".
- Urban Aboriginals - a celebration of leathersexuality, by Geoff Mains (Gay Sunshine Press, San Francisco, 1991)
"A classic!"
- Velveteen Rabbit, The, by Margery Williams (Delacorte Press, New York, 1922 and 1991)
What one believes is real, is.
- Way Of The Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman (H J Kramer, New York, 1980)
Experience joy right this moment.
A note about sequence, notes, numbers, etc.
The above books are presented in alphabetical sequence for ease in finding.Notes are included to help explain why the book may be relevant to the topic. At this writing, I've read a little over a third of the books. Notes-in-quotes are comments by one of my friends (see Thanks!) who suggested the book.
Numbers precede eight of the books because the friend who suggested those put them in a "sort-of" order of applicability. Note that he mentions "I'm afraid these books are a bit too academic for the mentor program. (See How this came about.) But I do think you might find them interesting. ...in regards to how they relate to the two topics of BDSM and/or spirituality... Some of these hit right on target. Some you have to make some mental leaps to apply the theory to the subject."
If the list seems overwhelming, check out the short list below.
Definitions came from the American Heritage Dictionary, Second College Edition.
Short list
- Philosophy in the Dungeon -- The Magic of Sex & Spirit, by Jack Rinella (Rinella Editorial Services, Chicago, 2006)
- Radical Ecstasy, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Greenery Press, Oakland CA, 2004)
This book was a delight to read -- open, accessible, deep, light; all at once.And the spirit sections of two books:
- Leatherfolk's fourth section, "Spirit and the Flesh", has eight essays with diverse views of how people perceive their leather work spiritually
- Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook has the sections "Space" and "The Threshold of Flight" which articulate a leather spiritual experience as best I've read.
Web sites that touch on leather and spirit
- SlaveMaster's essays, particularly "Spirituality & SM", in the "literature" section of his Born Slaves website at www.bornslaves.com.
- Master Steve's "Heart of slave" and "Heart of Master" essays at the APEX Academy website at www.arizonapowerexchange.org, which also includes a description of slave kirk discovering his pony spirit.
- www.leathernroses.com
"I came across an amazing essay by a European author named J. Michael Togneri entitled "Spirituality in Slavehood." It was so insightful that I was astonished that I had never heard of this man before. I did a websearch on him, and came across some of his other writings that also resonated in me, including "The Seven Pillars of Dominance." You can find both of these essays, along with some of his other stuff, at www.leathernroses.com."
- The Defenders, www.dignityusa.org/defenders -- Integrating Leather Sexuality with Christian Spirituality
Cathartic flogging
Here is a copy of Master Skip's handout for his cathartic flogging workshops. The workshop focuses on the integration of radical sexuality and spirituality through the mindful use of a flogger to facilitate catharsis, and the handout explains in detail the "why and how" that occurs (based on his experience, of course).
Thanks!
To my friends and fellow seekers, Master Steve, Master Skip Chasey, and Sam Jeske, who suggested the bulk of these resources when I sought their counsel for this project. Here's some background about each.
- Master Steve
Grandfather, father, Master, student, columnist, owner of slave kirk and slave randy, mentor, friend, educated professional, ordained minister, International Master 2000, and founder of BUTCHMANN'S SM Academy (now Arizona Power Exchange's APEX Academy: Carrying on the Butchmanns Tradition). My loves and my passions are Spirit, Harleys, mountains, deserts, and training men and women. Everything else is subject to change, and that's a Good Thing. WOOF!
- Master Skip is a new friend I met through Steve. He is the one who suggested all of the Web resources, many books, and authored the cathartic flogging presentation.
Master Skip spoke as an openly gay Christian leatherman to a crowd of almost one million people at the Millennium March on Washington. He has presented workshops on various aspects of SM, spirituality and Master/slave relationships at Avatar (where he is an active member), Threshold, Orange Coast Leather Assembly, APEX, Shibari, Southeast Leatherfest, Club X LeatherFest, Thunder in the Mountains and the Leather Leadership Conference. In 1999 and 2000 Master Skip, at the invitation of his friend SlaveMaster, co-facilitated "Path of the Obedient Heart," a series of retreats for leatherfolk and others open to utilizing SM as a tool for spiritual evolution. He is an occasional instructor at the monthly Leather Lab in North Hollywood and the annual Sampler weekend in Palm Springs, a core instructor at APEX Academy:Carrying on the Butchmanns Tradition, and a co-founder of People of Leather Among You ("P.L.A.Y."), a social and educational group for Southern California leatherfolk interested in the integration of spirituality and radical sexuality. A certified Grief RecoveryTM counselor, Master Skip lives in Los Angeles, where he heads a family of fun-loving, spiritually grounded leathermen.
- Sam is a longtime friend and we've had some delightful times together! Like Master Steve, Sam also has a seminary background. He was a long-time leader of NLA:Austin and GWNN Group With No Name, and also served on the Executive Committee of NLA:International.
How this came about
First, as I mentioned in the intro, I became aware -- through observation, direct experience, and reading -- that it is possible to integrate spirituality into one's leather life.I was involved in SAADE's Austin Mentors' program and began mentoring on Spirituality and SM. For helping people connect, I hoped to convey a sense of getting grounded in the moment and "being here now." That part I felt pretty comfortable with. Each apprentice would be with me for a month, but we'd only have two face-to-face meetings. To help make the rest of the month educational, I hoped to choose a set of reading homework that was informative but accessible; readable within a few weeks. I'd been compiling a list of books that cover Spirituality and SM in some form or fashion. I proposed having the apprentices read the spirit sections from two books: the eight essays in Leatherfolk's fourth section, "Spirit and the Flesh" and also the sections "Space" and "The Threshold of Flight" from Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook. But I also sought input from my friends. (See thanks). They really helped this become the richer resource that I hope it is.
Some things I personally find helpful
- Avoiding "HALT" -- getting too...
- Hungry
- Angry
- Lonely
- Tired
- Meditation to quiet and focus the mind
- The loving-kindness meditation:
May all beings be filled with lovingkindness.
May all beings be well.
May all beings be peaceful and at ease.
May all beings be happy.
- Concentrating on the breath going in and out at the end of the nose to quiet the mind
- The principle of "attachment" -- accepting that everything in life is ultimately transient and not becoming permanently attached to anything
- Having a working vocabulary of some spiritual principles to focus my mind
- honesty / integrity
- open-mindedness
- willingness
- humility
- faith / trust / hope
- surrender / acceptance / non-attachment
- commitment / perseverance / steadfastness / self-discipline / patience
- love / unconditional love
- selflessness / service
- forgiveness
- courage
- Three things I find harmful to the spirit and things that help counteract them
- Fear (love and faith help counteract)
- Impatience - a fear that things won't happen in my timeframe (love and faith help counteract)
- Self-pity - a fear that things won't happen the way I want them to (love and faith help counteract)
- My personal realization:
For me, all emotions boil down to love or fear.
For me, my anger is a fear-based response. The spiritual antidote is to shift to a love-based response.
- Being mindful of my ultimate personal values
- Health
- Love
- Some sayings that resonate with me
- We must love on you more!
Joyfully said by slave dave when he would see that I was having the start of a fear-based-anger response. Usually people responded to my anger by getting quiet or getting angry themselves. So "We must love on you more!" was a real brain contortion for me. I didn't understand it. But slave dave did. he intuitively grasped that what was really going on was fear. And fear responds to love by dissipating. Powerful stuff. This is one of my greatest life lessons and has nourished all of my relationships but especially those close to me where I am most emotionally naked -- with a corresponding possible increase in fear. It was a great gift and I am deeply, humbly, grateful.- Every movement is a sacrament.
(Every moment is a sacrament.)
David Moreno- "...God's will for us is the ability to live with dignity, to love ourselves and others, to laugh, and to find great joy and beauty in our surroundings."
It Works How and Why, page 112- The Goddess says: "All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals"
excerpted from the Charge of the Goddess
My friend Skip E. credits Doreen Valiente- Be here now.
Ram Dass
- If you turn it over but don't let go, you're upside down.
Unknown- Sat Nam
"Truth is my name."- Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive because your words become your actions.
Keep your actions positive because your actions become your habits.
Keep your habits positive because your habits become your beliefs.
Keep your beliefs positive because your beliefs become your values.
Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.
Mahatma Ghandi
- When you find yourself in the middle of Hell, keep moving through it.
Unknown- A child can always teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.
Paulo Coelho- The triangle of self-obsession: Resentment, anger, and fear make up the triangle of self-obsession. All of our defects of character are forms of these three reactions. If we learn to practice these [spiritual] principles in all our affairs, resentment is replaced with acceptance; anger is replaced with love; and fear is replaced with faith.
from IP No. 12 "The Triangle of Self-Obsession", copyright 1983 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc.- Eenie, meenie, mynie, mo... who's gonna strip from head to toe?
>: )
Mallard Fillmore January 8, 2003
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