Does size matter?

In Men's Fitness Online's ongoing quest to unravel the mysteries of women, we present the results of our second sex survey. This time, the women answered one of the oldest questions to plague man since Adam and Eve dropped their fig leaves: Does size really matter?
All participants took this question seriously, considering the delicacy of the topic. Here are their honest-but sometimes humorous-responses:

Jennifer, 28, married
It's kind of like Goldilocks and the three bears: Too big and too small are a problem. I was once with a very well-endowed guy. While this size had its charms, I really felt like he was poking my spleen or something. Also, while I wouldn't mind if my husband was a tiny bit bigger, I would never in a million years let him know that. He gets the job done just fine.

Kelly, 34, single
Size is just an added bonus if the guy is already responsive and aware. I need to be turned on by his creativity. If he's sexually athletic and we're both totally into each other, size doesn't really matter. However, if he moves too fast and is focused on his own pleasure, whatever his size, it won't be fulfilling.

Mindy, 28, single
Size only matters in the extreme. Generally, if we're speaking about pleasure, I think thickness matters more than length. I've been with guys who were an inch or two above or below the average length, and I could never really feel much of a difference.
    Of course, size is not as much of an issue as how a man uses his penis. And let's not forget stamina. I don't want him drifting off to dreamland when I've only just begun!

Caroline, 25, engaged
When I hear that "size doesn't matter" I think that's just a nice way of softening a crushing blow to a man's fragile ego. The reality is, yes, size matters. But what's desirable depends on the woman.
    In the case of one well-endowed man, I found that I needed to tell him to be more gentle, though it was a turn-on. He was very understanding, and we had a great sex life. We also had a very open, loving and long-term relationship besides that.
    I was once with a man who had a small penis. (At full size, it was two inches.) The emphasis should be on "once." I had no desire to continue the relationship after that one experience. However, that's probably because I didn't see the relationship going past a sexual one in the first place. Had I more interest in him as a person I might've been more willing to work with him.

Sue, 28, single
First, the bad news: Of course it matters. And the good news: The range of acceptable sizes is relatively large. The bottom line is that small (and I'm talking tiny) is horrible. It's hard to overcome your extreme embarrassment for the guy. Trust me, I saw one of these once . . . and then it was over.
    Too big is scary and uncomfortable, too. You find yourself wondering if his picture is on a porn video box in some dimly lit back room of a video store. It's like really large breasts on a woman-you can't help but stare, though you don't necessarily find it appealing.
    Obviously, things like hygiene and technique are infinitely more important. But size is not irrelevant. Sorry, guys.

Christine, 30, single
Not in the way most men think. For example, bigger is not better, it's just painful. I'd say the best size is average. What's way more important is how well he pays attention to my preferences. I like to see if he pays attention to and remembers where I like to be touched, in what way and for how long. It shows an appreciation of sharing the moment, not just getting in, getting what you want and getting out.

Miriam, 29, divorced, long-time cohabitator
No, as long as it's within what the medical community calls "normal limits," which probably includes about 99 percent of the male population. Men should keep in mind that length is pretty much irrelevant; if any dimension is important, girth would be it. The longest one I ever had a firsthand experience with was pretty much wasted because its owner was uninspired (and uninspiring) and lazy. There's something to be said for trying harder. As someone once sang, "It ain't the meat, it's the motion."

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