Just Duckie  "Girlfriends"

by Jamie A.

Well girls, despite the byline, everything isn't always just duckie.  We
all have our ups and downs, good days and bad, happies and sad.  But one
of the few things  we need to be able to count on is one of our
girlfriends.  We transgendered girls should have learned by now that a
girlfriend is essential to our well-being.  Sometimes we don't even
recognize what a fantastic mood lift we get when that someone special
calls just to say "hello" and "I love you."  After having been married
for so many years and depending on someone, then finding that someone
not there anymore, not caring anymore, can be very devastating to ones
sense of well-being.  I now know why so many women with husbands,
family and all still cherish that special someone who visits when everyone
else is gone to work, to school, who just sits and visits over coffee or tea,
or maybe just over the telephone.  A friend who shares our ups and downs
and makes us think of the fun times we've had. even when our really
serious relationships are hurting.  I guess the moral of this story is
if you need a girlfriend, be a girlfriend.  You may save your happiness
and that of someone else with nothing more than a friendly "hello, how
are you."  In this disconnected world, those words can be priceless.

Too many of us still have a little, or a lot of, excess baggage left
over from our male side that tells us to be independent, that we don't
need this.  Treat me like a man, don't touch me, give me space.  But
believe me girls,  I don't know what this girl would do if she didn't
get an occasional call, or place an occasional call to a girl friend.
This behavior was so alien to my masculine side, I would not have
believed it possible that I would have been so completely transformed in
such a short period of time.  A friendly hug, a helpful tug, a kind
word,  these seemed so superfluous to this seemingly smart, kind, but
clueless, male person.  All the education in the world couldn't teach me
what I needed to know to find happiness.  I somehow had to feel it.  It
came from the soul, and it was so natural, I can't believe it wasn't
always there.  It must have been always there.  Something about the
upbringing of males, or who knows maybe even testosterone  poisoning,
prevents a man from feeling what is innately important to a female.  And
yet the revelation, the transformation, came so naturally, so easily, it
had to  have already been there.  I feel it in my bones, my heart, my
soul.  It was what my male self hungered for but could not find.  It is
what finally triggered my transformation.  The need, the longing finally
became unbearable.  My male life became so empty, but it filled so
easily,  all it took  was a  tug, a hug and  an "I love you" not from a
mate, a spouse, a significant other, but from a girlfriend, a bosom
buddy, one who could share my cares without feeling their weight, one
who could pull me out of the dumps with a kind word, a "lets do lunch."
If you haven't been lifted from a funk by a happy lunch, a little
shopping, it isn't necessary to buy!, then girl, you need a girlfriend.
Love, Jamie A.
 
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