My how things can change over the period of years in ones life. A perfect example is the life of yours truly. I suppose a few years back I could have easily been referred to as a biggot or whatever one might choose to call me. Today of course I look back and regret that I was ever that way. One cannot change the past, but one can change the future.

Most of the ladies that frequet our little home #crossdress know little about me, perhaps it is time they know me for who I am. I like others have my good points along with my bad. I can only hope that the good ones can outweigh the bad.

I was born in Jellico, Tn a small community on the border of Tennessee and Kentucky. I was raised by a poor family and brought up to believe in the good book, according to the Southern Baptist way of thought. I lived a content but secluded life, Having no need to know what was going on around me. Not seeing nor meeting of all the wonders and all the lovely people, unlike myself, who lived in this wonderful world of ours. In the early seventies, I was just eighteen, in the Navy, and stationed in San Diego. In my adventures and loneliness I was fortunate to meet a lovely young lady working in a theater. For months I constantly flirted with the sweet lady. I was not bold enough to ask her for a date.

One evening while in the park in front of the theater an old gentleman approached me to chat. In our conversation the gentleman informed me of my flirtations with this lady. He said "Son you are young and do not realize what you are dealing with."

I was totally confused with this remark. "Why" I asked in return.

His reply burns in my mind today. "She is not as she appears son, your little sweetheart is a man!"

I was shocked, and very confused, I had no reply for the old man. I knew not what to say, I had never heard of such. I never went back to the theater. To this day it still haunts me. For as the years have passed and I have grew older, I understand things a little clearer now. Yes I have regrets. The young lady might have well been the best thing that ever happened to me. I had abandoned a golden opportunity, whatever it may have been. I realize this now. After spending hours reading web-pages, and chatting with these lovely ladies on IRC, I would have not made the same mistake. I have a better understanding today than I did in the early seventies.

I have found the girls of the trangendered community to be some of the most loving and caring people that I have ever met. Some call me an admirer. That may be true to a certain extent. However I prefer to be known as a supporter or a big brother. Transgendered ladies go though more pain, more ups & downs in one month than most will go though in a lifetime. There are the constant questions to be answered. Do I pass, will my family approve, and what of my friends?

There is the long road that is ahead for those who seek SRS, the numerous doctors visits, the treatments, the zapping. For some I suppose, it must feel like they will never make it. So admire...,yes, I do admire them. For they must be the strongest hearted ladies that I will ever know. I will always accept them for whom they are. I will try to be by their side if they need a shoulder to cry on. For their journey is long and the road can be rough at times, but their hearts are true and they struggle onward toward their goal. Then maybe, just maybe, someday they will complete their journey to what they were truly born to be.

But ladies you are actually most of the way there already. You are a woman, born in a mans body, but your heart and soul is that of a lady. In Gods eyes you are one on his own creations, a special creature born of both genders. In this you should rejoice, for you know the feelings that others such as myself can never feel. I feel that you are special in God's heart and was put here for a reason. Being one of God's special creations, you must endure the tribunes and the pains of this position, but your strength can see you though. Some of you may never make SRS for reasons of money, fear of a ruined relationship, or maybe just because you wish not to go that far. Its makes no difference. You are who you are, and never let anyone or any group tell you that you are wrong. You will always be a lady! Nothing can change that. Someday, the time will come when the people of the world accept their brothers and sisters, and all those caught in between, for who they are. People will love one another as God meant for us to love each other. Let not anyone ever convince you that you are a mistake, God makes no mistakes. He created us all in his own image. It is my prayer, in time, families, spouses, lovers, and friends will understand, as I have grew to understand. We are all children of God! All of us deserve the love and respect of each other. The mistake I made years ago, I cannot correct, it is in my past. I can and will, stand by my sisters and watch them grow. I will give a loving hug if they need it and a compliment from time to time. You, as sisters need to do the same for each other. Stand up for your sisters in their time of need and they will be there for you.

And yes, NOW I Can See........

Special thanks to **Barbie Lee** for editing this page:)

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