'GAY FRIENDLY' OR GAY
EXPLOITATION?
There is a marked number of advertisements
these days appearing in the gay press from straight advertisers claiming to be
'gay friendly'. What does this mean? Do you think that the advertiser is
courting you as a gay consumer because you are gay, or because he is aware of
the power of the pink rand? Surely by stating that they are 'gay friendly', the
advertiser is in fact saying that we will be tolerated in his establishment, and
by tolerating us, the subtext is that there is something distasteful or
undesirable about us in the first place? After all, do you see businesses which
advertise that they are black-friendly, Muslim-friendly or Xhosa-friendly? Of
course not. Yet these ‘gay-friendly’ types see fit to advertise that we are
a separate class of individuals who are welcome in their shops. Perhaps it is a
clever marketing ploy which appeals to gay insecurity. Here at last is someone
who says that they appreciate our custom. Someone who makes us feel welcome.
Someone who is giving us permission to spend our hard earned rands in their
business. Someone who has no compunction about trading on our emotional
insecurities!
Perhaps the acid test for these businesses
is, besides taking from the gay community, what do they give back to the
gay community, in terms of community projects or gay charities? An example. If a
hypothetical leading bookstore in South Africa advertises that it is gay
friendly, and carries a fairly wide selection of gay-related books, do they
donate unsold books to the Gay & Lesbian Library when their shelf life
is up? If an estate agency claims to be gay friendly, do they make an effort to
help struggling gay service organisations find cheap or free accommodation from
which to offer their community services? In other words, is being gay friendly
only about getting gay money into your business, or does this friendliness
extend to assisting the gay community in any way? Businesses are quick to climb
on the bandwagon of high profile politically correct causes. But what about
supporting the community which supports you, when it is an invisible cause?
Excuse my scepticism of the plethora of
'gay friendly' businesses out there. Maybe I am a cynic, but I find it very
difficult to accept that Mr Straight South African, running his small business
in Edenvale really has any interest in my gayness or me as a gay person other
than what I can contribute to his bank balance. Wake up, girlfriends! Next time
you encounter a 'gay friendly' business, ask them what they do to support the
gay community. Put them on the spot to prove just how 'gay-friendly' they really
are. Maybe when they have proved their bona fides, they will become
'gay-friendly' in terms of gay people regarding them as friendly and worthy of
their support. After all, should it not be us determining which
businesses are indeed ‘gay-friendly’, and not self-styled businesses who
only have a pecuniary interest in homosexuality?
©
2000 Ken Cage