Introduction
Introduction
My name is Dee Dee Tomomi (toe-moe-mee). Tomomi is actually my femme middle name and means "friend" in Japanese (thank you Ryoko Mizuno for suggesting it). I am an Asian-American person of "mixed gender." I was born with a male body but in my head, I am both male and female.
Physical Statistics
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Age | Old enough to lie (39+) |
| Height (without heels) | 5'6" (1.68 m) | |
| Weight | 110 pounds (50 kg) | |
| Measurements (with padded bra, natural waist) | 33A-26-33 | |
| Eyes | Brown | |
| Hair | Black (yes, that's my own hair) | |
| Clothes Size (U.S.) | 0-3 | |
| Shoe Size (U.S.) | 7-1/2 |
Classification
Some people hate labels but when you're trying to figure out where you fit in the world, labels can be useful. This is how I feel the various terms and definitions apply to me:- Transgender
- 1. Someone who crosses gender lines. I definitely fit this broad definition of the word transgender. 2. Someone who lives as the gender opposite to their birth sex but without undergoing sex-change surgery. I live part-time as a woman and part-time as a man.
- Crossdresser
- Someone who wears the clothing of the opposite sex. Technically, that's what I do. Yet, somehow, I don't feel like this term applies to me anymore. Putting on a dress, makeup and heels feels just as natural as putting on shirts and slacks. It's not like I'm doing anything that's opposite to the way I feel. I do feel better about myself, though, when I am dressed as a woman.
- Transvestite
- 1. Someone who wears the clothing of the opposite sex. Same definition as crossdresser, same answer. 2. Someone who crossdresses for sexual pleasure. I stopped doing it for the sexual thrill a long time ago.
- Transsexual
- Someone who wants to become the opposite sex. There was a time when I felt definitively that I wasn't a transsexual. Now, I've come to accept the possibility that I am a transsexual. I'm not ready to label myself as such but I do seem to be on the path of transsexuality. I'm certainly not the stereotypical "woman trapped in a man's body" transsexual. I don't totally feel like a woman but my dual life is becoming increasingly painful.
Q&A
- Do you go out?
- Yes, once or twice a week.
I go to TG clubs or TG friendly establishments and I shop for all my girl things as a woman.
- Do you have any lingerie photos?
- I once took lingerie photos and even posted a few here on my website but it
took only one negative comment (I believe the word "slutty" was used) for me to
realize that I didn't want to portray that kind of image.
- Do you like men? Do you date?
- I have been struggling with the first question for several years.
I certainly love the way men make me feel but am I genuinely attracted to men?
I didn't when I first emerged on the Internet and out in public.
With time, I've come to realize that I am bisexual and that I am attracted to some men.
Now that I have a boyfriend, of course I don't date anyone else.
- Do you take hormones? Are you considering sex-reassignment surgery?
- I'm not currently taking hormones and I would be lying if I said I don't think about surgery. But right now, none of that is in my plans for the future.