Terms and Definitions
Asexual
An individual lacking sexual attraction and/or romantic feelings towards
both sexes.
BBW
Abriviation for Big Beautifull Women
BearA
gay man that generally has one or more of the following traits; a hairy
chest and body, a beard, wide shoulders, husky build, beefy, more masculine.
The exact definition of what a bear look like varies from person to person.
A defining quality of a bear is that they do not fit into contemporary
gay culture, or the stereotypical gay image.
Bear Code
A code system that describes a bears stats.
Behr
A big guy who can't grow a beard, or just doesn't grow one, but has a mustache.
BHM
Abriviation for Big Hanson Men
Big Bear
A chubby bear/a hairy chub (fat man).
Bisexual or Bi
A man or woman that has sexual and/or romantic feelings towards both sexes.
Bondage (BD)
Restraining or being restrained in a sexual act.
Breeders
A derogatory term used to describe heterosexuals.
Bulk
(i.e. bulky, husky, heavy etc.) Often used in place of chub.
Butch
Distinct masculine pronunciation. (1)A lesbian that enjoys
looking and dressing like a male. Ain't fussy about hair, usually has it
cropped, might not shave her legs, doesn't like make up, ain't into dresses.
(2)Traditionally masculine gay
men. Bears are often described as butch, and butches occasionally as bears.
Cherophobia
Fear of gaiety.
Chicken Hawk
An older guy that goes after a young guy.
Chubby Chaser
Or Just Chaser. A gay man that finds big bears or chubbies attractive.
Chub/Chubbies
A chubby or overweight gay man.
Chub Envy:
When someone is obsessed with wanting chub, either on themselves or partner.
Coming Out(1)
The process of telling people that you are gay/bi/les/queer. (2)
The process of accepting one's sexuality.
Corpse
Nasty old men that hit on young guys.
Commitment CeremonyA
ceremony where two partners come together and commit themselves to one
another for life publicly. This ceremony is equivilant to a marriage
ceremony.
Cub
A younger bear, usually lacking a beard/full beard, may be shorter or smooth
and/or lack other bear elements. Also refers to a younger bear that may
be lacking experience and/or submissive.
Encourager Likes
to plump up his man.
FA Abriviation
for Fat Admieres
Gainer
Someone who gains weight, and/or wants to gain more weight because he finds
it sexual appealing.
Grizzly Bear
A hairy, well proportioned husky bear of a man.
Daddy
An older or more mature gay man who goes for a younger or less mature partner
and/or is domineering. The bear equivalent is Daddy Bear.
Denim SceneOften
associated with the leather scene. Those who are part of the denim
scene like to wear denim jeans, shirts and jackets over anything else,
or at least when possible. They might also wear leather with their denim.
Drag Show
A drag queen who performs a song and dance and/or karaoke show.
Drag Queen
A man that dresses up as a woman, and/or performs drag shows.
Dyke
Slang for lesbian.
Fag
Slang term for a gay man that is generally (but not always) meant in a derogatory manner. Other rarely used meanings are in the dic. Note: the root word faggot - bundles of sticks used in burning people at the stake.
Fag Hag
A woman that hangs around gay men, and may want to try converting or sedusing them.
Gay/Homosexual
Refers to gay men, but can also be used to refer to anyone queer. A gay
man being: A man that is sexually attracted and/or has romantic feelings
towards other men.
GaydarThe
ability to tell if other people are gay.
This skill can be developed
by anyone who spends time around gay people, and/or who watches lots of
gay movies (porno's don't count).
Hanky Code
A code system of different coloured hankies and other objects defining
ones sexual interests.
Heterosexism(1)
The believe that everyone is straight or heterosexual by default. (2)
The belief that gender dictates sexual attraction and not that sexual orientation
exists separately. (3) The belief that heterosexuality
is the superior, or only true sexual orientation.
Heterosexual
Being or a person who is attracted to the opposite sex. i.e. Straight.
Hermaphrodite
An individual with both male and female sex organs or physical characteristics.
Hirsute
A man that has excessive body hair to the point that it looks like a suit.
Homophobia
Hate or fear of homosexuals and homosexuality.
Homosexual-n.
Being or attracted to the same sex.a.--Homosexuality
Being or attracted to the same sex.
Leather Scene
Those who take part in the leather community like to wear leather clothing
and accessories, i.e. vests, jackets, pants, jock straps, britches, and
stuff that looks like it came out of a Xena, Hercules, or Conan sex show.
Lesbian or Les
A woman that is sexually attracted and/or has romantic feelings towards
other women.
Lipstick Lesbian
A lesbian that likes to dress up like a Barbie doll, or femininely i.e.
make up, long hair, wears a dress.
Masturbation
The self stimulation of ones sexual organs. It's a normal behavior that
both men and women engage in and it is has no harmful side effects. You
can not go blind or get hairy palms from jerking off.
Otter
A hairy gay man that's slender, a slender bear, a bear lacking a husky
or stocky build while still retaining hairy bear features bear.
Out
A term used to describe an individual that is openly gay/bi/les/queer.
Pansexual
Encompassing of all sexual orientations. In addition, a way people might
describe themselves as not being straight without saying they have a distinct
sexual orientation.
PartnerA
socially correct word to describe your lover, significant other, boyfriend
or girlfriend on a public level.
It is social correct for both gay and
straight people to use this gender and sexual neutral term, as it eliminates
differences between gay and straight couples.
Penis Envy
(1) When a man is obsessed with wanting a larger penis , either on themselves
or partner. (2) When a woman is obsessed with wanting a penis, or a larger
penis on their partner. (3) Women thinking men are better just because
of thier penis.
Polar Bear
An older bear who has gone gray.
Queeny
Used to describes a power hungry flamboyant bitch of a fag.
Queer
Referring to homosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transvestite, and transgendered
persons.
Sadism-Masochism (S&M)
Inflicting pain on others for sexual gratification (Sadism)
and receiving pain or humiliation for sexual gratification (Masochism).
Sexual Orientation
The direction to which ones sexual attractions are geared towards.
Significant OtherA
socially correct way to describe your lover, partner, boyfriend or girlfriend,
husband or wife on a public level. It is social correct for both gay
and straight people to use this gender and sexual neutral term, as it eliminates
differences between gay and straight couples.
Smurf
A short gay man.
STD's
Sexually Transmitted Diseases. These are diseases that can be transmitted
through sexual contact (i.e. AIDS, herpes, hepatitis, etc.). Some have
horrible life threatening effects that can't be cured. Others cause little
problems at all. It is best to talk to your doctor or visit a men's or
teen walk in health clinic if you have any concerns.
Sodomy
Anal or oral copulation, generally referring to anal intercourse.
Son
Younger or less mature partner that goes after Daddies, and/or is submissive.
Straight Acting
A famous gay classified add descriptor meaning
that the gay person in question acts straight. Or rather simply does not
act/appear blatantly gay or effeminate in speech or actions. This can mean
hiding their sexual identify to the extremes of behavior alterations, and/or
it can simply mean they don't look like they fit into the "stereotypical
effeminate gay image", and thus seem more straight than gay.
Transvestite
A man (gay or straight) that enjoys dressing as a woman for pleasure, entertainment
or because it makes him feel comfortable.
Transgendered/Transsexual
Individuals (Heterosexual or homosexual) who feel more comfortable dressing
up as the opposite sex and/or would rather be the opposite sex. These
individuals occasionally have sex changes.
Twink
The stereotypical figure of a gay male who has a slim build, smooth, youthful,
and stylish/trendy.
Ursine
ur.sine \'*r-.si-n\ aj [L ursinus, fr. ursus bear - more at ARCTIC] : of,
relating to, or resembling a bear or the bear family (Ursidae)
Ursophile
A young smooth slender gay man that loves bears.
Wanabe Breeder A
derogatory term for gay idividuals who lead a dual life with an opposite
sex partner.
Woof
A hot bear would be "woofy", you could woof at a hot bear. It can also
be used like the term "you go girl" or "ohmigod".