Hold in mind: all dominant-submissive love play must be consensual; therefore, don't force your man into a situation he might not enjoy. How do you learn his likes and dislikes, his "limits"? The process of discovery can be your first step towards domination. For instance, order your beau to write a list of his erotic fantasies, and then use that list to guide you in your new role of dominatrix.

Advance slowly, however. No need to chain the man upside down from the rafters, at least not initially. How do you start? The following activities are good for women first experimenting with dominant-submissive erotica.

1) Instruct your man to remove your shoes and stockings and to "worship" your feet, to caress them and kiss them. Make sure you give him stern orders all the while: "Faster! Slower! Harder! Softer! You'd better do a good job on the toes or else....!"

2) Send the man a pair of your pre-worn panties and command him to sleep with them beneath his pillow.

3) Tell him when he may masturbate, and when he may not.

4) When out on a date, take your man's wallet and control the money.

5) Make him wear ladies' panties beneath his britches.

6) Strap a dog collar 'round his neck and tell him you own him.

7) Make the man ask permission to use the bathroom--and don't always grant him permission.

8) Attach a frilly apron to an otherwise naked gent and order him to sweep the floors or vacuum.

9) Tie--tightly--a piece of rawhide around the base of your man's penis, to remind him of his submission to you. (Don't leave the rawhide there more than 10 minutes, however.)

10) Shave your man's pubic area--a straight razor with oil works best--and tell him what a good little boy he is now that he's smooth and soft.

Dr. Roy F. Braumeister, in his article 'Masochism: An Alternative Intimacy' (Spectator, Vol. 22, No: 14, June 30-July 6, 1989) states:

Ladies, isn't it time we took control?