About Steve

 Kiss me silly

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My thoughts are somewhat fragmented at points here, but it is difficult to describe myself, as I am complex and dynamic, but with simple romantic core values.

Hi, my name is Steve. I am 6'-3" (191cm) tall barefoot, average 185 pounds (83kg), with eyes of steel blue. Both of my nipples and my ears are pierced.

Hear my voice by clicking on the speaker:

I'm a sometimes overly verbose, fun-loving gay male living in Tampa, Florida, USA. I've been looking to no avail for a kewl dude for a lover for a while now. It's difficult to find someone with whom there is intense chemistry, romance and a mutual excitement for each other for the right reasons. Persistence will hopefully pay off someday. But the old woman's saying of: "All the good men are either married or gay", should really be, "All of the good men are either married or straight!" Here is a funny way of describing my ideal lover, read this for some fun.

I enjoy too many things to list them all here, but hanging out with sincere and warm friends, meeting new friends (especially other longhaired guys), traveling to fun and different places, photography, taking pictures of my friends, video, art, antiques, architecture, music of all sorts (heavy metal, hard rock, pop, dance, jazz, even classical when I'm in that mood), concerts, sunning, swimming, dancing, walking, biking, hiking, sports cars, aviation (I'm a Private Pilot), electronics, computers and graphics, graphic design, yada yada yada, and a nice sense of humor with a healthy dash of sarcasm are just a few of the many things that make me who I am. Oh, and did I happen to mention that I just LOVE other longhaired men... But you may have already guessed this, somehow? Hummmmm...

I'm a very intensely passionate guy, and act upon the feelings of my heart. When I encounter someone who starts to press those magical buttons inside of me I sometimes charge in too fast. You can be successful by being on-time or early, but never if you're too late. I am intense with those I feel a strong friendship with, and even more so with those I am feeling a strong romantic attraction too. Sometimes I may be too blunt and honest about things. I can be very provocative at times. I do have a playful side and will go to extremes to share a laugh or smile. I can be a tease too, but if I offer praise, it is sincere. But please do not be offended if you are not my type in the physical attraction department. I am only physically attracted to a very small set of men, and there is also a small set that are attracted to me. It can be a cold truth, and I don't like hurt anyone's feelings, but I don't want to lead anyone on either. It's better to deal with it rather than to build false expectations, as lingering pain is the worst kind of pain and does cause prolonged misery.

I love to wear interesting jewelry and clothing, anything from tight jeans, leather, PVC, and unique clothes of all types. My favorite colors are black and reds. I like to always be me. I'm not a trendy prissy-assed gay clone queen. I like others that have the ballz to be themselves, even if it is different than the clone crowd. But I'm not stuck-up either, and I do greatly respect everyone else's right to be what they want to be in our community, even if it lacks any imagination or individuality.

I'm not into the gaymes that are all too frequently played either. I value sincere and honest people who tell it like it is, not what you want to hear, but what they feel. If you don't take the risks, you will not find life's greatest rewards.

I am optimistic, somewhat shy, a sincere and loyal friend, and I love to make my friends laugh and share in a good time. I like to express myself, even if it comes off as off the wall at times. I'm confidant in myself and my abilities, but also feel that I have humility as well. None of us is perfect in this world, I accept my own faults as well as those of others, and don't keep score. We all have shit happen in our lives that can affect our moods and make us less cool or even rude at times, but hey, it's a fact of life. If one of my friends is trying to get out of their shit, I'm happy to help them do it, but if they just want company down there, forget it, ain't goin there. I can't help those not trying to help themselves, that's way beyond my abilities.

It's not about the problems, the model of car, the CD or movie collection, furniture, art, cash or debts that either of us may have, it's about the wonderful things that we may share in life with each other if we have the right mutual attraction and compatible interests. It's difficult to find those with whom there is some form of deeper connection. One day I'll find the right guy who feels everything for me that I feel for him. But in the mean time, I always welcome new friends into my life.

I've tried to make my site fun and interesting. Sure, there are lots of pictures of me, they are there to hopefully illustrate my path, style (or lack there of) and choices in life, and not as a tribute to my vanity. I am not the most beautiful man in the world, nor am I the most ugly. I am somewhere in between, and where that is, is up to each of you to decide. My bet is somewhere in the middle... I'm just your average longhaired gay dude, krusin through life, making the best of what comes my way, and enjoying it all.

I enjoy all modes of travel, whether flying at 35,000 feet in an airliner or cruisin down the streetz in a car rockin to some kewl tunez. I do especially love to travel with my friends to see new and interesting places.

Romantically speaking, I am very passionate and what I would consider to be an intense lover. When it comes to a relationship, anything is possible with the right dude who adds the right chemistry to ignite the intense magic. Location is unimportant, compatibility, attraction and chemistry are the keys.

In any relationship, be it friendship or otherwise, acceptance, understanding and communications are paramount for success. Keeping one's feelings bottled up inside oneself is a sure path to failure. Though there always seem to be extenuating circumstance that prevent this from happening.

It is also crucial that one be true to themselves and not try to be what they are not. We may find pieces of ourselves in another, be we can never be another person.

I try to do my best to make sure that my friends have a good time and are comfortable and relaxed. Because of this I am not usually the initiator of warmth until I know they desire it. Some of my gay friends do not like hugging and/or kissing, so I wait and let the actions of the others dictate my moves. I would rather risk not sending a strong enough signal than to make someone uncomfortable with the situation. Call me silly, but I do respect the feelings of my friends, and try to place those feelings above my own needs and desires.

Although I am looking for a dude with longhair, it is important for me to say that the hair is not the man, a man may one day lose his hair, but his spirit will always be with him. It is the spirit within the man that compelled him to grow his hair long and to have the courage to endure the wrath of the conformists with no individuality within them. It is the man that I will love with all of my heart, and the hair will just be a perk to play with and to drag across each other as we fulfill the deep warmth of each other's spirits.

Yes, I do love to have my hair played with, shampooed, conditioned, and brushed, and enjoy returning the attention that I am given. Or initiating the affection myself. I love spontaneity and the unexpected hug, passionate kiss and other forms of sharing warmth. All of these sensual activities that I enjoy, in themselves, is not a reason to rush into a relationship. There is more to a relationship than just intimate contact. I'm looking for something very special with someone who presses an undefinable set of buttons inside of me that engulfs me in a raging fire. The warmth that comes from one's spirit is essential, but so is the enjoyment of each other's company and a host of similar interests. I like to say that a partnership requires enough in common to draw us together, enough difference so that we may grow together and yet still maintain our individuality. It's complex, but wonderful with that special guy who has pressed those magical buttons.

Okay, so sue me, I'm a old fashioned romantic at heart. I do believe in love at first sight and enjoy all of that mushy stuff. I feel that it is important to always show someone how special that you feel they are. I see the purpose of sex as not only being to bring each other to an explosive climax, but also to become one with your partner and to be inside of each other in the emotional as well as the physical sense.

I do perhaps get carried away with my photography at times. I love to take pictures of interesting buildings, nature, things and people, particularly cute longhaired guys that I come in contact with. I guess that I might just drive my friends a bit nuts at times.

GET AWAY WITH THAT DAMNED CAMERA, Steve!!! - Key West, Atlantic Shores, June, 1998

I think it's awesome to visit my friends and to take their pictures for them, if they want. I do know how difficult it is to use the self-timer to do a self pic... And besides, I have the Fag's Eye...

I also enjoy writing poetry, designing creative spoof brochures, flyers, photos and other graphics to amuse and annoy (lol) my friends with. I love a challenge or anything or any dude that inspires my creative juices.

 

 How to contact me:

E-Male - LongHairedDude@Hotmail.com

Snail-Mail or Phone - I love to receive mail or speak to cute guys on the phone, so ask if you desire this information.

Send me a voice mail

Unfortunately, this is no longer available. I may have a non-toll-free number listed here soon.

Finding me online

AIM - (AOL Instant Messenger) My screen name is LongHrDude. If you are not an AOL customer and wish a free copy of AIM to use with your ISP, you should visit www.aol.com/aim/home.html. I am not on this service too often anymore.

ICQ - My ICQ number is 8508134. If you need the ICQ program, visit www.icq.com for the latest copy. ICQ is my prefered chat program as it is not as invasive as the others. It still has its share of annoying quirks though.

IRC - My usual nickname on IRC is LngHrDude, and I can be found in the #gaylonghair chat room when using this service. I have not been on IRC in ages. Warning: nicknames on IRC are not unique, so you may think that you are chatting with me and are in actuality chatting with someone else.

YIM - (Yahoo Instant Messenger) My nickname on Yahoo is LongHairedDude. Visit messenger.yahoo.com to get a copy. I do not use this program much anymore either, as it is also too disruptive to my work on the computer. I do however check the messages there periodically. Sending me an e-mail might be more reliable.

Video Conference - I also have ICUII, iVisit, NetMeeting and VDOPhone. I do not leave these online, so prior arrangement via other means in advance would be required.

NOTE: You may see me online and send me a message and not get a response. Please do not take this personally. My work heavily involves computers and computer networking, and when you are self employed, there is no such thing as defined business hours. I may be working on a project, on the telephone, or may have had to go put out a fire. If you are still online when I return I will respond. ICQ is my preferred chat program, as it will allow me to respond to you even if you are not online when I am freed up.

 

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