- The "mainstream gay cult" is very much characterized by much hedonism (look up the word). There is much promiscuousness, trashyness, low-morals. Most openly-gay person's relationships only last on the average of 6 mos. There is little long-term, long-lasting, true, committment, faithfulness, loyalty, fidelity, honestness, or wholesomeness in their [so-called] relationships. Many bed-hop, then brag about it. Often, what they refer to as a "relationship", is really an "open- relationship", because one or the other partner in the relationship is tolerated to mess around on the side, or have a "side-dish" to have sex with too. Almost always, a third person will pop up in the picture in these so-called relationships. This third person is more or less easily tolerated by the other partner in the relationship. Sometimes this third person is actually permitted within the actual confines of the so-called relationship for 3-play. This 3rd person is changed regularly. By "operational definition", this IS NOT a "relationship", but rather it is an "open-relationship". A huge difference. They wear AIDS like a "badge of honor". These are alarming statistics. They will lie, and are great at "coming off" like they are the great "salvation" for confused and desperate gays, especially kids. They often speak with a "silver-tongue", making themselves sound "sweet", "honest", "truely loving", "caring", "supportive", "embracing", "helpful", etc. Yet their lives are often filled with the lust for instant self-gratification, going from person to person for sex. To me, THESE ARE NOT VERY GOOD CHARACTERISTICS. Also, in my experience, all the gays with very long-lasting "traditional" relationships, do not like the MGC "mainstream gay cult" (me included). THEY ARE USUALLY PRETTY DISCREET TYPE GAYS. Think about that, and it will make sense to you eventually.
- With all this in mind, think about this "gay pride" thing. "ONE CAN NOT BE PROUD 'SIMPLY' BECAUSE ONE EXISTS, ONE CAN ONLY BE PROUD OF WHAT ONE 'DOES' WITH HIS EXISTENCE". And what I see the MGC doing with their existence is nothing one can be proud of. Unless, of coarse, you think narcissism, self-love, trashy behavior, bed-hopping, and the incapability of forming true long-lasting, meaningful relationships is something to be proud of. That would be tantamount to "false-pride", which historically has been the evil behind all past wars, atrocities, and even is said that that is what the devil was thrown in hell for. I'm not a bible-thumper, but I can think.
- HOMOSEXUALITY, (not bisexuality) IS GENETIC. And do not let anyone tell you differently. Scientists have identified several homosexuality genotype genes in humans, and animals, even insects! I've personally seen the experiment on the fruit-flys (no pun intended). Now this is something "every" homosexual should band together on. In time, there will be tests available to employers, insurance companies, etc., that can reveal this about you, and may result in you being treated in some patently unconstitutional way. Beware of this for the future. These findings have been muted because of the scientists fears of political implications, and readdresses from political groups (such as the MGC itself!) This is a sad state of affairs for reality-based minds.
- Bisexuality is USUALLY NOT genetic, but rather it is a "learned behavior". [Social Learning Theory perspective in psychology] [Behaviorism]
- HOMOSEXUALITY IS ENTIRELY NATURAL. Even animals, including foul, have homosexual occurrances. Do not feel like a freak. There are theories of "why" nature permits these occurances in such high numbers, about [at least] 1 in every 10 persons. I will not get into that here.
- THe "mainstream gay cult" (MGC) has turned the issue of being gay from a "sexuality freedom" issue, into a "sexual promiscuity freedom" issue. That's just great. :( That has set the real issue back decades. And this is one reason why many people don't like gays, because they do not like to identify with the MGC's lower moral standards. (Aside from lack of accurate information about homosexuality). [EDUCATION]
- THE ONLY IMPORTANT THING TO CONSIDER (especially from a mental health perspective), IS THAT YOU MUST "ADMIT" and "ACCEPT" YOUR SEXUALITY TO YOURSELF. IT DOES NOT MATTER IF OTHER PEOPLE KNOW OR NOT. (Unless you have a craving for attention, or are exhibtionistic). [SHOW OFF]
In any case, don't be frieghtened, homosexuality is really not that difficult to cope with, unless you have alot of "other" problems stacked up in your life also (Diathesis Stress Model), as often so many adolescents do have today. In such case, know your energy limits. Do not over-tax yourself. Trim "something else" out of your life. Work on solving some "other" problems, then the stress limit of being homosexual will not seem so overbearing. Remember, some people are more "resilient" than others. Some are more "vulnerable" [Biogenic Perspective in psychology]. Invariably, "E V E R Y O N E" has some burdens in life. Know your limits. Know what you can handle. Eliminate extra stuff from your life if you feel anxiety. For example, if you are involved with sports, trying to maintain an honors student status, have problems at home, work at a tough job, and have friends that are feeding stuff into your head, STOP. Think. Assess. [Equilibration] Is someone (like your parents) "pushing" you this hard? Some people can handle it, some can not. THIS IS NORMAL. Are you pushing yourself this hard? Perhaps you should cut back. Perhaps, for instance, you should just accept "B's" or even "C's" at school. Maybe quit sports. These are examples. Maybe you shouldn't be so concerned with your friend's ideas. Trim and adjust your life down to some level of manageability. Some people are naturally very vulnerable. They may only be able to handle 1 or 2 things in their life. So what. Be creative with what you do have. STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES. Walk, instead of drive sometimes. When you feel anxiety or depression, go get a vigorous physical work out somewhere. Run. Jog. Go swimming. Play tennis. Physical activity produces natural brain chemicals called catecholamines. These chemicals make you feel happy. Homosexuality should be at the bottom of your worry list. Don't think that straight people don't have hang ups about not getting enough sex, or finding the right partner too! Stop listening to others so much. Think logically. EVERYTHING IS RELATIVE! J. Paul Getty's (a billionaire) biggest dream was to go on an african safari. He never found the time. Alexander The Great, the ruler of the world, said, "Only a fool would think that he was happy anywhere." We are humans, and this is the "human-condition". Be as happy as you [can]. ______________________________________________(c)1997
