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Inspirations Inspirations for your femme personality can leap out from anywhere - whether it be magazines like the "Playboy Book of Lingerie", a simple dress catalogue or even a Television advertisement. The main thing to remember is that you are supposed to be enjoying yourself... Don't set unrealistic expectations for yourself - this is one of the quickest paths to disappointment. There are very few men who are lucky enough to have a girlish figure with hips to match. Remember that the "little black cocktail dress" in the shop window probably won't suit you (just as it wouldn't suit the majority of 'real' women). Elegance and simple style will always carry the day and leave you with a sense of pride and achievement. Building a wardrobe can be expensive and time consuming - take it slowly and use your common sense. If you buy an item such as a classic black skirt, then next time look for a blouse to coordinate it with. Cast a critical eye upon the women in your life and those you meet day to day (just don't stare - it is enough to make anyone nervous !). Learn from the fashion sense of the women who look good - and equally learn what to avoid from those women who get it wrong. One thing which all transvestites seem to go through is the tendency to 'purge' their wardrobe from time to time. In my case this happened fairly regularly in my early years - usually after a cross dressing session when I would let the guilt get on top of me. There was some sort of catharthis involved in disposing of my femme clothes, but the "relief" was always only temporary. Usually after a few short months I would find myself looking through the department store lingerie catalogues or wandering through the women's wear section of K-Mart. I did a lot of reading and research in my late teens and early twenties about cross dressing. At that stage there weren't many books other than psych texts and there certainly wasn't the 'web' full of home pages by other girls 'just like me'. In the late 70's I did all the usual things and ended up questioning my sexuality pretty deeply. As a result, I can now accept that my cross dressing is just a part of being "me" and I am a straight male with a lovely wife and son. Thanks to my wife's understanding, I can now avoid all the stupid guilt that I carried as baggage for so many years. If you are a T* girl too then I hope you can do the same - be yourself, accept your femme side (and don't purge your wardrobe!). Not only will purging ultimately fail to answer your needs, it is also a very expensive way to gain temporary relief... It is far better to put your things carefully and lovingly away for the time being and bring out your femme side again when you feel the need :^)