Oral Only

There are as many forms of swinging as there are swinging couples. One main segment of this is the oral only group, often referred to as soft swinging. Of this segment, there are the virgins who view this as a way to get their toes wet and then there are some very experienced swingers.

Both of us had a hard time dealing with this. A great deal of our discomfort had to do with the way we view sex. To us, having intercourse is quite easy. The act of having sex with another is generally quite natural and comfortable. Oral sex on the other hand, has always been reserved for special moments. Also, we are both clean freaks and performing oral sex on someone we had just met did not feel right.

We were also made to feel that we were the abnormal swingers. Comments from experienced swingers such as, "Oh, we only do oral" made us both feel dirty and cheap. Why??? To us this seemed drastically in reverse of what we were used to. Definitely in reverse to what we were used to doing. Don't get us wrong, we both love giving and receiving oral.

The virgins we could understand. They were comfortable going to that level. There is an impression that control is maintained until intercourse is allowed. Very understandable. So what's with the experienced swingers then? Well, a year later and we now have a better idea. The reasons are also very individual and we've attempted to list a few.

Nervousness - If a women is nervous it's not as big of a deal. The way her equipment is designed it will generally work regardless. A little oral goes a long way during these moments. A guy on the other hand, well, a little nervousness does not help the situation. The harder you try to get him up the more you will fail. As a result, oral only is non threatening and still very enjoyable. Don't believe us; try it sometime when your guy has gone limp. Mention oral and you'll see the twinkle in his eyes.

Control - Oh yes, regardless of how long some have been swinging they still won't cut loose. Generally more true for men than women. You can eat his wife and let her suck on your cock but don't even think of putting that thing inside her. To bad, she might actually enjoy the change.

BI females that prefer women - You will encounter couples where the female is BI and she prefers women. Very often they will do oral only. We think this is their way of getting what they want without having to deal with another man. Can you blame them; men can be a pain in the butt at times.

Religion - We've met some that believe if it's oral only they're not going to get in trouble with the big guy. Sorry, even Clinton will loose that case. To us, sex is sex and being picky on semantics is a waste of oral skills that can best be used elsewhere.

These are only a few of the reasons that we have discovered and we're sure there are tons more. In the end, don't feel bad about what you choose to do or not do. Just remember that it's all sex and it's all great fun. By the way, we've decided to get a hot tub so that all our playmates can be squeaky clean and we don't have to miss out on a big part of the swinging lifestyle.