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Ryan was very active on the Internet contacting new couples. We met with lots of couples and learned about as many different agendas as you can imagine. One couple that Ryan responded to stated quite frankly that they were into the pain scene a little. Since we were so new at the whole thing, this looked interesting from a new experience point of view. We agreed to meet with them at a lounge to see in person what they were all about. I can’t state this strongly enough. The number one rule to remember, even if it is the only rule you remember; always trust your first instincts when meeting new people. I was disappointed to see that this couple was not at all what I was expecting. When I had spoken to the girl on the phone, she had the sweetest softest voice, which allowed my mind to picture a demure housewife looking for a little bit of fun. What I saw before me was one of the roughest looking females I’d seen in a long time. She had long thick bleached blonde hair, brown eyes and had on a sleazy outfit. Both Ryan and I enjoy sleazy outfits but there is a time and a place. It was very out of place in this respectable hotel lounge. Because of the image I had created of her in mind, I wore an outfit was more suited for a virginal schoolgirl than a 39 year old swinger! However the situation soon lost its humor for me.
We talked and got to know each other somewhat. They actually were very friendly and open people. He was in the entertainment industry and we found out that she was a bartender and occasionally helped him with his business. Ryan and I had talked about this before hand, and both wanted assurances that a little actually meant a little when it came to the rough stuff. We carefully explained that we occasional tie each other up in very loose knots and occasionally slap each other on the butt when we are highly aroused. Other than that we were not into pain or abuse. This couple emphatically stated that that’s all they were into. She stated several times that she would "go easy" on me. A statement that I greatly appreciated hearing from her. Her hubby was an easy-going sort, so I did not especially feel leery of him. We left stating that we would consider their offer, but that we thought that it would probably be a go. Ryan and I talked and he left it in my hands as to whether we would go ahead. I hummed and hawed for awhile and then said yes.
At this point I now know that if I need to think about it or if in any way feel uncomfortable, that automatic answer should be NO!! I certainly follow that rule now, but not before a very hard lesson was learned.
