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If I had to analyze as to why I allowed myself to get into that mess in the first place, I’d have to say that many things were responsible. This is one I’d like share with you, reader. In the past when we’d met various other couples, the talk invariably led to stories of dates that went awry. A recurring theme was stories of the audacity of usually the female, but occasionally the male, actually changing his or her mind just at the start of, or during, an encounter. This seemed like a very big and bad taboo thing to not do. Yes, I too bemoaned the audacity of those unfortunate incidents and wondered at the character of those persons who could possibly be so inconsiderate. Reader, are you catching the hint of sarcasm in my tone? If so, you are correct! That is to say, until you are actually the person in that situation, who are we to judge other’s actions?
There is nothing wrong with trying something new. Since this experience we have successfully enjoyed several new experiences. With all of this in mind please remember:
- Ask lots of questions
- Trust your instincts
- Have a special word for you and your partner to use to signal that you want to stop
- Be very clear when telling others what you are willing to do
- Never feel bad about saying NO or STOP
- Learn from good and bad experiences alike and use the knowledge to create enjoyable swinging experiences
