Hello, thank you for taking the time to drop me a note in my guest book at woman's touch. I appreciate it. It seems that we have similar views on sexuality, and self expression. I am a lesbian, and have to say that I have seen the treatment described here of woman that are bisexual. It enrages me. How can lesbians, gays oppress and judge any other human, considering the amount of oppression they have encountered in their life. Although when I have asked lesbians about why they seem to feel this way the response I seem to get it this. They feel that a bisexual woman can't be trusted, they are fearful that they will fall in love with her and then be left for a man. Which cracks me up because, how many lesbians have been left for another woman. Many that is for certain. Crazy that is what it is, crazy, none the less, your web site calls it as it is and makes them face the behavior they are exhibiting.
Best wishes to you.

MB

Het people think I need a boyfriend and girlfriend at once or something, and gay people dismiss me as "not a real lesbian" (subject to the limitations of all generalizations, that is, there are, naturally, lots of exceptions) which of course is true but this does not invalidate my relationship with a woman, should I have one. The point is I've gotten pretty thick-skinned about the small stuff 'cause of having dealt with plenty of big stuff.

I recently just came out as being a bisexual woman. Before, I was confused as to what sex I wanted to be with I don't mean sexually, but mentally. Then a few weeks ago I met this gorgeous lesbian and we immediately hit it off. I'm the type of person that wears my emotions on my sleeve. So, I didn't even hesitate when I told her how I felt about her. The one stipulation I was given from her was that while we are talking I won't mess around with the opposite sex while we're together. I don't have a problem with this at all because right now men seem of so ittle interest to me. I just wish everyone was as understanding as she is. SZ

I've recently become involved in african american gl activism here in Houston and it seems that black gays and lesbians dont want to bother with bisexual and transgender. i'm also trying to balance having a white male partner with my persistent desire for women and i feel like my issues betray what bisexuals are actually supposed to be speaking out against, confusion, but i do know that i love regardless of gender, women more easily than men however.
Andrea

Hi, bisexual to me means straight in the middle. Hets bend one way, like trees which the wind blows at from one side only. Gays bend the other way like trees which are blown at from the other side. Both hets & gays have more in common with each other than with us bisexuals. They've got their blinkers on and may be we can help remove those - and prevent children from acquiring them.
Vicky

I'm a 37 married, bi woman reclaiming my bisexuality after over 13 years of letting it sleep. My male partner is very supportive. I am coming out slowly, even as I'm trying to define what that means. A dear friend, a gay male, is encouraging me to define what coming out means to me. I would welcome others thoughts.
Karen

Hi. I'm a 37 yr old male somewhere between het and bi. I say this because I have had and enjoyed sex with males but don't enjoy or seek anything more from a male relationship. For me it's only a physical (or sexual thing). Is this common? Will I eventually "swing" further one way or the other? If I had to put it on a scale I would have to say I'm 85% het and 15% bi. Am I crazy or just mixed up? Any input would be really appreciated.
Robert

Being a young bisexual, I'm seen as confused about my sexuality. I think its unfair for people to think that bisexuals are confused in general. I don't see anything wrong with being attracted to both sides. Its hard being young though, with the thoughts of your family and friends' opinions weighing you down. My friends have been more accepting, but my family thinks bisexuals don't exist, they believe in the either/or idea. If they only knew and could understand how one could have a loving, emotional and mentally stimulating relationship with both genders...I don't see myself as confused or undecided, I'm just very open-minded about things... BC

Can all the men and women please give me their ballpark estimations of the current orientation breakdown in North America? Eg: het men 50%, het wom 50%, bi men 25%/ bi women 35%, gay men, gay women etc. Please don't recount Kinsey's outdated figures. I really just want to get a layman's perspective on what people place the proportions at actually being today. And yes as a sociologist, I do find it interesting so if you don't I apologize. -Fury's Passion

Wow, great page with great insights. I'm a 35 yr old Bi Female, Australian married to a great guy for 13 years, my awakening as bisexual has been a pretty recent event. I have always had my fantasy life filled with women and loved the female body but never actually felt that I was bi until a very very strong attraction to a female friend, then I realised that actually I'm attracted to both men and women, seems odd now that it never dawned on me before...must have had my head filled with all sorts of crap to block that out eh? I'm lucky my husband is supportive but just a little worried that I'm likely to run off with a woman. So I've had to do plenty of reasurance that this isn't going to happen, he has had friends who this has happened to. Anyway good luck to everyone out there have fun and enjoy life.
My page is http://geocities.datacellar.net/aussie_bifemme
Honey

I'm a 15 year old male and bisexual. I have come out to 5 or 6 people and have a Positive reactions for the most part (one was accepting, but didn't approve of bi or homosexuality religiously) I might post my E-mail at a later date.
Anonymous

Hello, I am a twenty year old bisexual- out to only two, my loving and suppotive bf of two years and my college english prof (I wrote a paper exploring bisexuality- I may post some of this on my webpage at a later date) I have known I was bisexual all my life, but few people believe this. I often feel caged because I am not straight, yet being apart of the gay community is a struggle because I am "confused" or "straight" because of my boyfriend. Hence my life is circles! My parents have yet to know, I was raised in a very religious family, and they would most likely abandon me if I came out. Anyhow, thats my life... I love your page, I can tell you put your heart into it. Stop by my page if you want (www.geocities.com/bluefairypenguin/index.html), I have Etheridge's Silent Legacy written up, bi links, and the heterosexual questionaire posted. God Bless, Kay

Really great page. It definately owes it's success to those who have visited and contributed. I'm a 24yo male. I don't describe my self as gay or bisexual or straight. I find that the biggest problem I face is trying to identify myself *-sexual. I love people (male and female), I am physically attracted to people (male and female). So not only am I bi-sexual, but more importantly, I am bi-emotional. When dealing with straight people day in and out, I feel as if it a struggle against them to allow myself to be defined against the norm. When I was a member of and LGBTQ organization, I also felt that I had to struggle to define myself against a norm. Still, I find that I feel "more" accepted by the LGBTQ community, however I will not negate the opportunites to find friends among straight allies. Open-minded people are what I enjoy, straight, gay, whatever. For my friends and for my lovers, I want people that accept me as I will accept them. Thank you. PSP

I am 22 and admitted (mainly to myself) that I was bisexual at around age 16. Now I am married to a nice young man who I have always been open about my sexuality with. He sometimes mentions that he worries that I will run away with some woman because of unfulfilled desires. I don't really see that happening, but his bringing it up and the fact that I have not had much in the way of female relationship makes me wonder, too. But, we have a child and I would not hurt our little family by doing so--I do love my husband. I tried to explain to him that for me, liking women as well as men meant no more than a man marrying a brunette when he had a thing for blondes--he wouldn't leave for that reason!! Sometimes I think I protest too much....Steff

I would just like to say that your website says it all. I wish there were more people like you in the world who would allow bisexuals to express themselves so openly. Best wishes for success in the future! Anonymous 2

Some people like sports cars. Some people like sport utility vehicles. I like both. When I'm talking about cars, nobody flinches. When I'm talking about genders, suddenly I'm confused. Nobody tries to talk you out of a twist cone at the ice cream parlor because "You have to pick one or the other and there's something wrong with you if you don't." Nobody ostracizes you when you bum a regular cigarette from someone and you normally smoke menthol. The reason nobody does these things is because these preferences don't matter ... sports cars vs. SUVs, vanilla vs. chocolate, regular vs. menthol. To the heterosexual, to the homosexual, gender does matter. Gender is not just a "whatever" preference. To the bisexual, gender doesn't matter all that much. One might slightly prefer women over men, just like one might slightly prefer blue eyes over brown ones, but in the overall picture, these things don't matter. Sibyl

SISTA,you hit it dead on the NAIL!!!!! But to combat the issue of ignorance we just have show people that we are BETTER than the "label" stamped on bisexual women. How? With continued simple honesty, never swallowing our tongues.Nia

I consider myself bisexual. I don't have yet any sexual experiences, but i really enjoy looking at male bodies. But the thing about it is that it's only for physical factors and not for relationships. Im also hoping that Ill be having a girlfriend, a partner and a wife in future time. ric

Well, I'm hoping that perhaps this will help some of the married bifemales who visit this page.

I'm 26yrs old, I've been with my husband for 8+ years now, we have 3 children. I've always know "inside" that I am bi, but growing up in a small minded town, I pushed these feelings aside for years, while quitely enjoying looking at other females and dreaming about it. I dated men growing up, and then I met, fell in love with, and married my husband. He's someone who I've been able to talk with openly about sexual feelings, and thus I was able to talk with him about my feelings. And of course as a man, he was open to me being bisexual, but the really wonderful thing about his acceptance, is this, of course he'd love to have a threesome, but he is also okay if that never happens. He understands, that I enjoy being with women as well as with him. He is secure that I will not seek an affair with another man, I love him and he full fills all my desires of heart and body as a man can. But he also understands that from time to time, I enjoy the company of another women, intimately.! And he is okay with me having a girlfriend, "on the side", as the saying goes.

So yes I guess I do have the best of both worlds, I have a man who loves me and understands me, and is okay with my sexuality.

No, I have not come "out" to my family and friends, with exception of one cousin who is very understanding, and my best friend who may not agree, but doesn't condemn. No I don't think, I'll ever come out to my family, at least not in the near future. I see no reason to upset them, when there really isn't a need. They live across the country from me, I have a wonderful family with my children, in a very small town, and I don't see any need, to put them through difficulties because of my sexuality, so long as I am happily married to their father. I don't forsee a divorce, however, if my marriage ever did fall apart, at that time, I guess, if I fell in love with a women, and chose to make a life with her, then I would come out at that time.

I'm telling you this because, I want other bifemales, who are married or getting married to understand, that yes, you can be married to a loving man, if you chose to be, and can still be bisexual and enjoy relationships with women, so long as you and your spouse, have an understanding and loving relationship, please, don't let a husband insist that if you are going to be with a woman that he has to be too, for that unless it is your choice, is undermining who you are. Just because you're bisexual, doesn't mean that you have to "swing", for lack of a better term.

Best wishes for all us, who are simply being who we are. Keri

I consider myself bisexual because as a male to female transexual, it's the only category that really fits. For those of us whose gender identity lies outside the traditional definitions, terms like "straight" and "gay" become ambiguous. If I am straight I like men. If im a lesbian I like women. If im gay, the context gets lost and it's unclear who I like. Since I like men and other transexuals like myself, I consider myself bisexual. Vera

For the past two years, I've labeled myself as a bisexual being. It seems the only way to sufficiently acknowledge to the rest of society of my taboo sexuality. Sadly, labels are seemingly useless. They are used to discriminate, seperate, and organize individuals into some kind of systematic classification. Me being bisexual doesn't initially represent my sexual basis. It has alot to do with how I present myself, and my thoughts to the public. I neither favor nor criticize people until first recognizing their real, indisputable attributes. But it seems to me that the majority of mankind has an issue with that. And I'm sure even the more partial individual can accept the fact that humanity has it's way with things it can neither understand or discern withouth first confirming a source of action, usually a retalitation of some sort. In most cases, violent ones. So in a very abstract manner, bisexuals have a favorable virtue that most either don't care to reali! ze or don't plan on acquiring. "The irrationalized thoughts of a 17 year old." Enjoy... Floyd

Great web site! I totally agree with all that you've said concerning the prejudices against bisexuality. I'm in Missouri, in the buckle of the bible belt, and if I'm not getting grief from disapproving un-Christians, I'm getting grief from lesbians because I have a b/f. So many bisexuals get treated like the lowest caste of sexual society. I also get tired of women telling me about the "bisexual who screwed me over". Why immediately assume I'm a carbon copy of someone else, and besides that, 9 times out of 10, the woman wasn't screwed over by a bisexual, she was screwed over by a "sexual tourist" - someone who just wants to experiment and move on. I'm NOT bi-curious, and I hate it when the first date turns into an interview to tally up my sexual experiences to "make sure" I have had some "adequate number" of experiences with women. What is THAT about?!? Kelly

It's always nice to see a bi site. i'm a bi male in a relationship with a bi woman. i think the cutting edge of bisexuality is acceptance of bi men. 2 men together remains our society's biggest sexual taboo. it's been very hard for me to break. eric

Maybe lesbians react with hostility towards bisexuals or bisexual relationship is that they are afraid or feel threatened--a bisexual could run off with a member of the opposite sex (ultimate betrayal) anytime. And she is able to sort of kind of fit into mainstream culture (or at least is perceived as able to, more so than a lesbian female), so lesbians may question the depth of her ties to queer culture & the queer community. . . Liz

I love people...I hate people! Talk about a battle of internal contemplation. Its seems like my whole life circles the question of my uncertainity of a secure sexual idenity. I dont care if Im gay or straight, or bi, I do care however about alienating myself from my guy friends and never approaching girls in a confidently male fashion, do ya follow? I go through bats of hypocondriacism(if thats a word?)and homophobia! weird eh? Lets not get too funny here, I love life and I love people but soon I will find a happy medium. I have to make a point although>> I do believe there is absolutley no problem with deviating sexual preference, I dont understand some of those who try and advocate that there is no chance of being somewhat permiscuous, to reiterate, to say that there isnt a part of them that is unsure that there true soul mate and lover may be found in the opposing sex that most of their relationships are. I dont think that all bi's are straight up with themselves to attempt to feel stable and everlasting in there relationships. They get confused about the typical straight persons view's and outlook's in "thier" relationships and lose sight sometimes about how their own should be or is. Bisexual is a great word and people should share it in their lives instead of hiding behing a wall of insecurity and fear of being labelled. I hope I didnt offend anyone! Ben

We are a couple, married 5 years. We are both bisexual and we are extemely close and VERY married. We would never have "an affair." We have fun with others and it pleases us both. If there are gay or lesbian people out there that think we are "outside the box," then so be it. We really don't care. We love each other very much and we have been able to easily seperate "love" from "sex." Is that so difficult? It isn't if you have the trust, mentality and communication to make your relationship whole in the first place. Both of us were married before to jackasses and both of us know what it's like to be dicks. Mikey

It is very unfortunate that the world has to have everything in a "box". Why can't we just accept people for their character insteadof their sexual orientation. Personally, I think that anyone who steadfastly sticks to one way or the other and gets fanatical about itis wating a lot of opportunity to enjoy BOTH ways. After 21 years in the military, having to keep my bi-sexuality secret. I am happy that I can say "I go both ways". I equally enjoy sex with women and men, though I don't get the opportunity to enjoy men as often as I'd like. Loosen up world, there are far too many other problems that need to be addressed instead of which sex someone likes to go to bed with. As Dennis Miller says, "Of course, that's just my opinion. I could be wrong." Jim

I am a 51yr.old Bi Male and I relise when Bi your really not wanted by anyone whose not Bi themselves. That narrows the playing field quite a bit. But your Bi friends are just that - FRIENDS tramp06660

I like that site, I find it really helps to get other peoples opinions about being bi. As for me I'm an 18 year old bisexual living in a rural part of the UK. Because of the -sometimes intense prejudeces- I havent told anyone yet. I personally see myself as someone who can fall in love with a person from either sex, though I'm monogomous. I don't beleive that when I'm with a woman I should have a man on the side, or vice versa. I see that as a diferent kind of bisexuality, feeling that you have to be with both rather than simply being able to love either. One last thing- I think the whole attitude of the public in general was summed up by a friend of mine who said (jokingly): "I don't mind gays or straights but bisexuals are just plain greedy!" Andy

We are a bicouple. We enjoy 3 somes most with either a male or female. (4 somes are fun too but 3 somes have seemed to work better.) I can't really say which we prefer, m or f. Depends on the mood. We also go to a swingers club but all the swingers clubs we know of kind of frown on the bi-male, but almost all the women at the clubs are bi. Kind of a double standard, don't you think?

i have been bisexual for like 2 years now i am 18 years old my parents dont understand my friends are ok with it and i am looking for that special girl to complete me. Grace

I AM A 27 YEAR OLD MARRIED BI-SEXUAL FEMALE. MY HUSBAND IS FINE WITH IT. THE THING IS THE TIMES I HAVE BEEN WITH OTHER FEMALES,THEY HAVE ALWAYS APPROACHED ME,AND I HAVE REALLY NO IDEA HOW TO . HOW DO YOU KNOW WHO TO COME ON TO AND WHO NOT.AND WHERE IS THE USUAL PLACES TO MEET SOMEONE? CONFUSED Kayla

So many times in my life I've come across the issue of what I love. I am sure I love women and men. I have had relationships with both. There is something about a women that just reaches me to the core. Being bi-sexual in my opinon can be a very lonely state of being/ so many thoughts and people to deal with . Out of everthing , I am not ashamed to say that women are just simply beautiful. I am not sure where this path will lead...I guess I just wanted to vent. So many times I notice a beautiful women before even considering the man, I just want to be held and kissed softly, someone telling me that I am their number one..... Just Real love. Peace Nikki

hello im 24yo bi girl-or should i say plain "sexual"? ive never had a problem with myself or my sexuality, the problems came only with others but thanks to my supportive friends it wasnt a big deal. of course many people dont know about me, cos i live in a country where id b lucky to b considered "undecisive" & not perverted! homosexuality is still a big issue in my country, let alone bisexuality, cos everyone excludes u. one of my friends believed me when i told her i was het & she supported me, when i told her i was lesb. the situation was the same, but when i told her i liked both sexes she didnt believe me & told me i had to make up my mind. as if a het/gay person decides to be what they r! this is not an xperiment 4 me, i enjoy men&women both sexually&emotionally. they simply attract me & thats fine 4 me cos as i said i was always at ease with myself & my sexuality. however its hard 4 me to b open as i live in Yugoslavia, which is not THAT bad but still, we have a! lot of problems with some fascist "sects" which make a lot of trouble 4 us "perverts". during our last (&first) gay parade they beat the participants even those who were not gay. its not wise to b bi here either. ur site is very good&clever&interesting & i hope itll stay that way. good luck 2 u all from Belgrade, Yugoslavia. Bosie

First, let me say your sight is great. I am 23, engaged and a mom. I have thought I was bi or maybe gay for about 4 or 5 years. I have gradually become very uninterested in having sex with my fiance. We do have our problems, but I don't think that's all that's causing my disinterest. It's funny because we'll be watching a movie and we'll both be commenting on what the women look like. I just think there are some really hot women out there! Anyway, this is not something that I can share with my fiance because he's 8 years older than me and is very homophobic. I don't know what to do! Chelle

I have always said that gays are confused hets are in denial and I'm just looking for "love" I am 19 yr old and I have known for many years that I'm bi. I think that if you connet with some one (even for just sex) it does not matter what they are male female its all good. And if any one has a problem with that that can go $&%^ themselves. love who you want cause its the mind and heart that counts. the body is just there for fun. James

Just wanted to say first that this is a great page because I love to sit and read other people's thoughts and get a whole range of opinions. I used to define myself as a bi-girl to the ends of the earth, but as of late I have been using the 'ambigious' term as I like the slippery nature of it. The term bisexual though it's the best thing people can understand, still comes short of explaining my sexuality.

I guess Im not too sure what I am these days. I was out of the country in a very traditional place for about a year and a half and didn't date anyone, lived in a very straight culture. Prior to this I lived in Canada (where i am now) and worked in at an aids service agency. I hang out at the gay bar in town every weekend and have numerous gay/les friends, my best friend is bi and dating a lesbian. Since I've gotten back I've had soo many lesbians hit on me. I was just about to come out as 'almost straight' when I got back (given my lack of interest for women, and men for that matter) and then this girl kissed me and my knees went weak... I have also been having sex with this one girl and it's great, but in the morning when the sex is done I don't know how to 'be', I mean emotionally be with her. I don't know if i'm not emotionally bisexual, and it's just a sexual thing, or if it's not the right time/person/situation.. I don't tell people I'm confused because i hate it when bisexual is equated with confusion. But what happens when you are???? Any advice would be great. Lovin' all ya bi-women.. Lena

Bisexuals are the radicals sitting on the fence that separates the gender inclusive population. Pookey

I'm a 31 yr. old married bisexual woman. My husband knows I'm bisexual and is supportive of it. I struggled with my sexual identity for awhile, and it was with his help that I was able to realize my feelings and know myself better. For me, being bisexual means that I am capable of being attracted to either gender, tho the female persuasion certainly gains more stares from me than the men do. I do notice a few good looking men, but overall, I look more at the women. LOL. My husband thinks it's cute to catch me looking too. Anyway, just because I feel attracted to women, doesn't mean I "have to" leave my man, or be with a woman. I am very happily married, and love my husband. And yea, he makes me hot! He has allowed my involvement with one woman, saying I needed to explore my newfound sexuality.. but I have not been with another since her. We moved away, and I have yet to find a "girlfriend". If I never have another girlfriend, I would be fine with that. I ! never believed in having an "open marriage", and am completely happy with remaining monogomous. However, I will not regret the chance I had to experience making love to a woman. I am not out to my family, I don't see the point. I am married, and unless something happens to us, and I wind up with a woman, why should they need to know? I have a friend that knows, and she is totally cool about it. She still considers me to be her best friend. There are just a few others that know, but mostly by accident, and I've had no backlash from it. I only hope that as my children grow up, that if they learn the truth about me, that they will still feel the same about me as always. I know if any of my kids were to tell me they were gay or bisexual, I'd be supportive. I know now how important that is.Peg

Friday, November 2, 2001 I am a 34 year old women who is married to a man for 15 years and I also am very bi.I have a female partner that I consider as much my wife as my husband is my other spouse. I ahve been out with my sexuality for 3 years now.I have known I've been bi for over 12 years now.My life is now very complete with my husband and my wife.We are all fulltime partners all living together and all very much in love.My wife is also married to a man for 13 years.Both our husbands are very supportive of us and our "female" needs.We have 3 kids between us and all are one happy family.We recently bought a house together and live near the beach.Our kids are all cool with things and love the other set of adults as there second set of parents. I guess you could say we have our cake and can eat it too.I consider myself very lucky to have it all.Valarie

November 13, 2001 Lesbians discriminate against bisexual women just as they were discriminated against in the past for being homosexual. Thirty years ago lesbians were told they only liked women because they haven't met the right man. Now I'm told I'm only bisexual because I haven't found the right woman... that my lifestyle is a 'cop-out'. Being bisexual ISN'T a 'cop-out'. It's who and what I am. I like making love to men and I like making love to women. Each fills an entirely different need. Lisa

Saturday, November 17, 2001 I am struggling right now.. with my sexuality.. I have tried to put it on the back-burner..but I find myself wanting to explore these different urges and temptations..However, I feel so incredibly guilty..I feel ashamed of myself.. I want to be with women.. but at the same time men still appeal to me..Is it just my age( I'm 20) CAN ANYONE GIVE THIS MIS-GUIDED GIRL SOME ADVICE??..I need a pen-pal something.. e-mail me please at Samantha Tran

Wednesday, November 21, 2001 Well this is the first time I have done something like this, but I feel I should express my feelings. I am attracted to some men, but mostly I feel myself wanting to be with women more. Women that I go out with feel threatened by my sexuality and they feel I would leave them to go with a man, and men just think that being a bisexual means they can have a threesome. Sometimes I feel threatened by men. When I was 16 I was raped by my step father, afterwards I went to the only place that felt like a home...my bestfriend's house. The warmth and love I felt there was like nothing I had ever felt with any guy. I feel safer around women, like they would never try to hurt me. Railina

Wednesday, December 5, 2001 My secret life wants so much to come to the forefront, i've been married for ten years now. My choice seems to be more toward men. So why am i scared to leave and explore. Michael

Friday, December 14, 2001 Nice to see a friendly and informative site. thanks. I am 33 and in a steady and secure relationship with a bi curious man. Kira

Date: Thursday, December 20, 2001 Wow! I don't know how I fell into this page, but I will be eternally grateful for the absolutely beautiful comments from the perspective of a bi-female. Since my wife came out to me about a year ago, we have had marital problems that inched us closer to divorce and farther away from the reason why I wanted to be with her for the rest of my life. The trust and security that I promised her on the alter was missing badly on my past and I became the sole reason for her unhappiness. She continually tried to convince me that she truly loved me and never wanted to hurt me, but I only saw my happiness and challenged her claims. My stubborness to make decisions for her in her life has left me alone and ashamed. Always fearing that she would leave me for another woman or never return the love that I once gave to her, our marriage seeks professional advice only 4 years into it. Gone are the days when I was her best friend. Crushed is the trust that was built up in the ! 10 years that I've gotten to know her the person, not "her the bisexual". I must thank Steff, Honey, Kay, and Keri for their tremendous courage to tell their story and relay it in terms so that a husband could understand what his spouse is going through. I will thank them personally in time and hope that my wife will forgive the treatment I've shown her and the husband/best friend I'd forgotten to be to her. Thank you all. Julian

Thursday, December 27, 2001 WOW!! THIS IS IMPRESIVE, READING ALL THIS COMMENTS MAKES ME THINK ALOT, BUT YET, STILL CONFUSED!! I REALLY THINK THAT BEING BISEXUAL, IS REALLY BEING CONFUSED. I'M A 19 YEAR OLD MALE THAT FEELS CONFUSED ABOUT MY SEXUAL PREFERENCE. I REALLY LOVE WOMEN, BUT THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT MEN THAT JUST MAKES ME FEEL BI. I REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE BI, BUT I AM REALISTIC. MY ONLY WORRIES ARE MY PARENTS, I DON'T WANT THEM TO KNOW,AND OF COURSE THEY DON'T NEED TO KNOW, IS JUST SIMPLY CONFUSING!!! SNIF SNIF =0( ANGEL

Tuesday, January 22, 2002 Well it's good to see another intelligent page on bi-sexuals. I am a 22yr old bi sexual female. Since i was about 12yrs old i have been attracted to females. While all my school friends sat & drooled over Peter Andre & Marcus Graham, I sat back & quietly drooled over Wendy James. Years went on & i watched girls at school being bashed & ridiculed for being lesbians. (which i have to add they weren't even bi let alone lesbians). It scares you when your young & impressionable. Once i left school & moved away from all the petty crap, i let myself be free. I opened myself up to the whole other world. Now i'm in a relationship with the best man anyone could ever ask for. We have threesomes from time to time. It's fun & if you can both get over the jelousy, it really can be good for all aspects of your relationship. I love my man, but if i ever found myself single again I know I would always be open to either sex. So many people can't understand how i can love a man or a w! oman. I tell them it's simple. You can't help your feelings. What difference does it really make. magikefex

Thursday, January 24, 2002 HI ALL, i am indian girl.my age is 20.i am most like lesbian relationship because this is safe and more pleausure for every girl.when my age 15 i am started lesbian relationship with my bhabhi.she is godd partner for me and she teach me how make relationship with lesbian partner.and then after i have many exep of lesbian relationship with my classmates.i like mo most most.i am favourable this relationship. SHUSHMA

Thursday, February 14, 2002 I'm brazilian, married and bissexual...since I was 14 I've been doing sex with boys n girls and I think this can be the way the human being will find the balance between love, sex, health and sin. rossi

Tuesday, March 26, 2002 I'm 18 years old and i have been looking for a girl around the same age to experiment with. I have a boyfriend and i love him very much but i really want to experience being with a woman. if anyone wants a discreet relationship, one night or more email me!Jen

Thursday, April 4, 2002 I doubt I will hear from anyone, but.... my ex-girlfriend who just broke up with me was bi-sexual, and we ahd the best sex ever and she wanted to have a threesome (which had never crossed my mind before her). When she broke up to live with her girlfriend, now I want to find a bi-sexual girlfriend who might be willing to have a threesome (2 girls and a guy... me). I am clean (had an aids test recently). If anyone erads this and is interested, my email is latinogringo941 at hotmail . com and my name is Paul.. I have blond hair, blue eyes, mustache, 6 feet tall, 190 pounds, and well endowed (almost 9 inches). Thank you.Paul

Friday, April 5, 2002 I'm a 22 year old bisexual guy. When I was first coming out in college, a lot of gay guys tried to trivialize my being bi as "gay but afraid to admit it." That kind of mistreatment has helped me become thicker skinned and encouraged me to research the subject of bisexuality further than I would have otherwise. Jaron

Sunday, April 14, 2002 Hi there all. I am just comming out of my closet with my ideas of maybe beeing Bisexual. It is not a frithening thougth for me. I just think I ma furtunated with having this gift! I would like to meet a girl who is bisexual and are as much atractive to boys as girls. I am 19 soon 20 and I come from Sweden! Please email me as soon as you can! Love to hear from you girls out there! Leelene

Friday, April 19, 2002 I am a 35 year old male. I have been married for 12 years and have two children. I have been reading most of the post and find that a lot of people are dealing with some of the things I am. I guess I have known about my bi feelings for along time. I finally acted on them a few days ago. My problem is I have no one to talk to about them. My wife that I love very much would never consider hearing this. Any thoughts? Mark

Monday, May 6, 2002 Myself, being a "Bi" male, feel the same way as some others do about the fact that people try to label what they don't understand for their own sanity and mental comfort. Personally,I like the company of both sexes and it is not all about sex with me, but I am highly sexual. To me, people need to learn to be honest with themselves and take time to understand someone before making a quick decision or catagorizing someone or thing. frankalexander

Friday, May 17, 2002. This is a really great page to have on your web site about different views and opinions on bisexuality. I have really enjoyed reading through it (although I am not done yet). I am a 27-year-old bisexual female that came out about a year ago but have felt this way since childhood. Well, when I say out I mean to close friends I have confided in and my parents know. Luckily, I have not experienced judgemental opinions from the gay community as yet like some others here have. I didn't really quite understand much about my "bi" side until I started to educate myself about it and this sort of prejudice is coming from people who should know better. Being bisexual is not a "cop out" or a "phase" as so many people think. Bisexuals have to deal with queerphobia, discrimination and queerbashing. And we get biphobia from lesbians and gays to top it all off. The point that gays and lesbians usually forget is that straight society is not more lenient! on bisexuals, it is as harsh, if not harsher. So how can bisexuality be a 'cop-out?' Steretypes are for busting. Luckily, after a long struggle with this my husband is finally starting to understand me being a bisexual woman. It has been a long struggle, but knowledge is power. Peace, Holly

Date: Friday, June 28, 2002 http://www.cosmicduckling.com/bisexuality.html <---my little rant on omnivorousness :-) To paraphrase the biggest point I made: My male partner does not feel threatened by my orientation, or lack thereof, the same way my dinner salad doesn't feel threatened because I "also like steak". I feel bad for people who can't appreciate Denise Richards AND Jude Law! :-p ;-) Farfalla

Tuesday, July 16, 2002 Alot of people dont take me seriously I mean I know im young but I know im bi i like women and me and im not ashamed people tell me im crazy im afraid to tell me parents i know them more than anyone and im afraid there going to be ashamed of me kick me out my brothers make fun of me and than theres school so can u please I know im young but please email me Anna

Date: Thursday, July 18, 2002 I am a nineteen year old female that recently has admitted to herself that she is bisexual. You cannot know the weight that has come off my shoulders. Sometimes I wanna run and shout, " I am me and I love men and I love women !". But eventually the clouds form and rain on my parade. The fact is I haven't told my parents. One of my sisters knows and I love her for understanding and loving me for me ( because I have not changed). I am scared of what to do with myself now. I mean I have limited experience with males and zero experience with females. Now it's like where do I go from here now that I know a little more about who I am ? I am not confused about my sexuality. I am confused about what role my sexuality will play in my life now. J A

Date: Monday, August 5, 2002 I'm a 22 y/o male, i have never been with a man but enjoy watching two men, not interested in a relationship, only for pure pleasure. I have used some of my girlfriends sex toys on myself and enjoyed the feelings but would never try it with a man. jimmy

Date: Tuesday, August 6, 2002 First time i visited your site,im married we live in a small town,ive not been able to find male friend that enjoys a man,im also 60 yrs old ,im not into young men ,i like the older ones as they seem to know what to do,would like to find a male in oklahoma.close to okmulgee ok,thanks for listining peter p cerda jr

Friday, August 9, 2002 I'm glad that you make this website for bisexuals, as for me I havn't been involved with anyone before, but hopefully I be looking forward with someone in the future...yes I feel some of you people what you been going though and the same with me as a bi person, cause we are the people who been mostly judge and discriminated by gays and striaght people but worser than gays in the society cause it is hard for most of us to be excepted by different people, like homosexuals do, because of the religion, family negative issues of false communications and all that type of stuff, because being a bisexual is tough as it is a heterosexual and a homosexual have to go through regardless of your race, age, color, religion and gender in society and we deserve to be excepted and we are not confuse, you know in my opinion I rather be a bisexual than a heterosexual and a homosexual, because it's all about choices, when it comes to gender, on who you choose to be involved with in the relationship and how we feel more emotionally, mentally and sexually, because people deserve to feel confortable with their sexuality, when it comes to having realtionships with adults and other adults who is old enough to be involved with one another normally and maturly. Some bisexuals have be involved with 2 people just to be in that catergory, but that's not really how it goes, it's who you involved in the relationships with either sexes wheather it's male or female. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE BOTH JUST FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE WANTING TO INVOLVED FOR A 3SOME RELATIONSHIP!, now that makes some of us bi's really kinda screw up in a way that we could get stereotype at any type and other excuses, because of what people say or do. Just because the person who been heterosexual all their life and never been involved witha Man, Woman or neither before and become attractive to Women Or Men or both as a Bisexual instead of heterosexual doesn't mean that they can't be what they are and couldn't be accepted, when really and truly that their sexuality is very important in their nature and their reality no matter who they are involved in wheather they are involved in someone before or not, and it's not a test. To give you this important message to some bisexuals for real to be what they are, you don't have to act, dress, or do any kinds of way of your self just to be in that catergory in your sexuality and YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE 2 PEOPLE OR HAVING TO BE INVOLVED WITH ONE PERSON BEFORE TEMPORARILY BEFORE THE OTHER OR WHATEVER, because of your sexuality, just be be that way....Just be yourself and be who you are if you feel proud for what you are and your not ashame of it because of what you feel wheather you are a heterosexual, Gay, Transgender or a Bisexual, feel proud of it and don't let anyone stands or get in your way because of what you are, because you deserve it wheather god created you that way or not or wheather you choices it or not, it's your life and your lifestyle and appriciate of being you as a person and if your family, friends, or your religious folks don't except you or whoever, than go to the GLBT Support system for them to support you for civil rights to fight for your freedom rights, so you can life the kind of life that you deserve Thank you and god bless you.
Peace!
Evelyn

Wednesday, August 14, 2002 I think I first realized something was "wrong with" me when I first saw hardcore pornography, on the internet, when I was 12 or 13. I enjoyed looking at the guy in the picture as much as the girl. Years later, I discovered the music of Queen and found out that Freddie Mercury was bisexual. When my girlfriend (who lives in Germany) broke up with me in my senior year of high school, I admitted to myself for the first time that I was bisexual, when I realized my enormous crush on the late Freddie Mercury. Six months later, I came out to my best friend, a male. He asked if I wanted to have sex with him. I said, "No," and he said, "Then I don't care." Who knew assigning a label to a state of mind could be so troubling? My Catholic upbringing surely didn't help matters, and I've since abandoned organized religion for self-exploration and personalized soul-searching. I still don't know what makes me tick. My girlfriend and I are back together, for a year now. Sh! ortly after getting back together, she told me for the first time, in a letter, that her mom is a lesbian. I came out to her in my reply. We discussed it on the phone, and she's fine with it. She likes to tease me about cute guys we see. She and all my friends who know are great with it, and they all treat me the same as ever. But still, I am not happy with myself. I don't know why, but I shall continue searching. I can't help thinking, though, that if the day ever comes when there is no need for labels of "straight" or "gay" or "lesbian" or "bisexual," I'll be closer to finding the answers.DJ

Tuesday, August 20, 2002 I am a 28 year old bisexual woman in a very happy healthy relationship with a great guy. We have been together almost 5 years now and he was the first person I talked to about my sexual feelings towards women. He was very understanding. Eventually I did have experiences with 2 other women ( within a year from each other ) He is still ok with this, if I feel the need to be with another woman he says its ok. Of course yeah the idea of a threesome is in the back of his mind at all times but thats something he says I will have to decide, he will never pressure me about doing it. Hes a great guy. I love the best of both worlds and its great! Only a few of my friends know and they are very accepting, one of them I found out is also bi and she finally can get all her feelings off her chest now that she can talk to me. Anyways..I love your site!! Faith

Date: Friday, September 13, 2002 Wow! What a great site. I have been "bisexual" to myself for many years, ever since I was 23 and my first marriage was breaking up (I am 41 now and at the end of my second marriage). At that time, I had bisexual fantasies, and was already planning on moving to San Francisco to start a rock and roll band with a friend of mine. I thought I would take advantage of living in SF to "experiment," but it was the height of AIDS and bathhouses closing left and right, and the time never did seem ideal, nor did the opportunity present itself. I met lots of gay men but they wanted nothing to do with me (as I was perceived as straight). It was during my second marriage when my wife and I were not communicating well and sex was vitually non-existent between us, that I began finding myself fantasizing about sex with men again. And as my fantasies got more and more realistic, I started to find that the thought of making love to another man (or better yet, two or three men) was the hottest fantasy I had: it never failed to get me so hot I would see stars when I came. No straight sex much less hetero fantasy could do the same. When my second wife left, I thought it was finally time to explore this fantasy. I had already convinced myself I was bisexual, though still without one significant experience. I met a supportive woman with whom I could share my fantasies and it looked as if we would have an "open" relationship where we could bring others into our bedroom (she was interested in lesbian sex herself) one day. Unfortunately, that relationship fell apart after a year. I was back on the scene, so to speak. Now I was certain the time was right. But then I met my present girlfriend. And she is okay with me being bi, but she definitely does not support my seeking out a male lover. So it is back to being a fantasy again. And though I am okay with that, because I love her and don't begrudge her the exclusivity, I wonder sometimes in the wee small hours if I can forever do without living out this fantasy. I still find that imagining a threesome with two hot guys to be the absolute biggest turn-on. I want to suck a cock and taste a man's come as he pumps down my throat. I want to lick him from behind, squirm my tongue into his recesses. I want to suck his toes, and run my hands over his hairy body (doesn't have to be too hairy, but hair is better than slick). And most of all, I want to know how sexy it feels to have two men make love to me, to be double-loved, filled in both holes, front and back. I want one sexy guy holding me open by he ankles as another fills me up. Lips and tongues leaving wet traces all over my naked skin. I don't think I could ever feel "love" for a man, my emotional life is all for women. But sex with a man turns me on so much that I cannot keep from touching myself even writing about it. I am also heartened by the fact that more and more men seem to be bucking society's dictates and coming to grips with their lust for other men. This is definitely the last taboo. Keep it up. Bill

Date: Friday, September 20, 2002 I had my first bisexual experience at age 13 with my female "best friend". We sat in her soft feather bed and mutually masturbated to orgasm. I'll never forget her soft sighs and the sweet musk of her perfume. Renee

Date: Tuesday, September 24, 2002 i am 18 years old, a college student at SUNY new paltz, female, in an amazing relationship with my boyfriend of nearly a year, reasonably smart, have a mohawk, and am bisexual. none of that shocks anyone till they get to the last one- the ywonder how i can like girls and still be so obsessed with my boyfriend. because he is my life, he is my soulmate, i would love him if he was a girl and he has told me that if i was a guy he would love me. the thing is i have never had a sexual encounter with a girl. and i am desperately wanting to . my boy has the typical male fantasy of having a threesome, and i would do that for him but first i want to have a girl sexual encounter without him. i have ALOT of lesbian fantasies. in fact i would say that the only boy i am attracted to anymore is my boyfriend, and that is definitly more love than lust. i think i would enjoy a threesome- really i do- but i want- i want to kiss a girl- sometimes the urge is so strong- if any of my friends found out i was attracted to them they would freak. i try not to get caught staring at thier bodies but they are just so beautiful- i do want to be married someday- very much so- but- i want to have at least one sexual encounter with a girl before that- at least one- i am not confused, this is something i know:i know i love my boyfriend and would die before i made him unhappy. i also know i would love to be with a girl. i am fairly certain that i would very much enjoy being with a girl and my boyfriend. three things i could do if i could find a willing, attractive(to me, not barbie doll type, curves are what make women beautiful), understanding girl. i hope i can find her.Faye

Thursday, October 3, 2002 This page is such an inspiration....I am a 32 year old married Bi-sexual female...I have been in a relationship with a woman for six months now, and she is by far the best that has ever happened to me....She is the first female to have a relationship with and I hope her to be the last..I feel so complete in both worlds...My husband is very supportive and is happy because I am happy.....Best of luck to you all out there, and my prayers go out to us all to bring some light over those whom judge us.... tammy

Thursday, October 10, 2002 you have no idea how fantastic it is to hear other people as confused as I am. I am 24, married with two children, but feel something is missing. I think I'm bisexual, I've had a couple of relationships with women and always seem to get approached by women when I go out! Is that instinctive? would like to hear from anyone with similar experiences or who might be able to help. I'm putting my marriage on the line here!! p.s only ever been able to act with a man!!.Michelle

Sunday, October 20, 2002 im 43yr old married male, my birthday today actually, and yesterday i had my first experiance with a gay man, ive had these feelings for more than 20yrs, and just recentley ive been thinking about nothing else,so before i get any older i decided to do something about it, and ive always wondered what it would be like to have sex with a guy, it wasent wonderful but as soon as i put his cock in my mouth i just thought wow im glad this is over, the thought of what it would be like wether i would enjoy it or not, and i did, and i swallowed as well and i enjoyed that, but was disapointed because he didnt return the favour,he just masturbated me,it was all over within 10 to 15 mins, so it was a bit dissapointing, but id do it again,im just glad its over. i dont consider myself gay or bi im just like women and not homophobic perhaps im just greedy,but i cant be that greedy cos its took me all that time to get round to it.steve

Date: Sunday, October 20, 2002 I'm 56, male and have had different feelings about guys and their penises for many, many years. Always curious and wondering what it is to make love to another man. I have had two experiences in my life. Now, I am looking for a friend who is bisexual, also. I don't consider being a handicap or a perversion. I see it as a greater capacity for loving people and an acceptance of me and my sexuality. I don't know if I will ever "come out", but I am looking for that perfect friend. John

Tuesday, November 5, 2002 hey this is a great site. My story is that i am 16 years old female and am battling day and nite with my situation i know im bi but it is a matter of accepting it and fear of being accepted. my best friend is a senior and she is the one that i am truly in love with yet cant tell her if anyone has advice please help me.LM

Monday, November 11, 2002 I am a happily married 34 year old woman with 2 kids and wouldn't change that for the world. But I have this fantasy about having a close personal relationship with a woman. Although I have never had an experience, I have met women in the past to whom I was attracted to and if they would have made a move at the right time I am quite sure I would have responded. I am somewhat embarrassed about my feelings/fantasy and would never be so selfish as to ruin my family's life for personal pleasure. But I would be interested in an online relationship with a woman in a similar situation. Cathy

Date: Wednesday, November 20, 2002 I am a happily married 45 year old woman and have had my first experience with a woman. I have had fantasies for a long time and didn't really think it was going to happen. Then I met a gay woman. It took about a year of flirtations for "it" to happen, but it did. My husband is aware and is supportive. (He does cooking too). This gay woman is also in a relationship with another woman (she doesn't know) so I feel it is emtionally "safe" for me. Why I am writing is because I do believe that everyone has the propensity of bisexuality, the minority actually act on it. I love the uniqueness of both male and female... each has its own special pleasures. It is wonderful to "have your cake and eat it too" I realize that I am very lucky that my husband allows me to explore this side of me. I am sure he is curious about "things" but as this stage he is not willing to admit. Linda

Friday, November 29, 2002 I am a 16 year old female who has just recently become bi-curious. I can't express it with my friends because they would never understand. I have to live my life as a lie. Please if there is anyone willing to talk to me, let me know. Sara

Saturday, December 21, 2002 Hi, Everyone, I would have to say in all honesty, not having my first experience, is that people are who they choose to identify themselves as. I enjoy relationships with men and I'm very curious about women. I have been turned on by both genders. Robbi

Monday, December 23, 2002 I am 16 and my friend, who's also 16, has recently come out to some of our friends that she is bisexual. She told me a long time ago, but now that she's telling other people, it's making me more uncomfortable because she's flirting a lot more with other girls and it makes them nervous and I don't want people to think that we're together because we're really good friends. I just want to know how I can relax about it all!! Katelyn

Monday, January 6, 2003 Hi everyone....Well about three months ago I had sent to this page...And so much has been going on since my post...I am still with LC and it is a beautiful relationship...She makes me so happy, and warm inside...She is my partner, companion, best friend, lover, MY WORLD!!!! Just wanted to let the world know that!!!!tammy

Thursday, January 16, 2003 I'm a bi guy looking for love and I think the only way to find it is in here.Brice

Saturday, January 18, 2003 I have recently started identifying myself as bicurious from past identification as straight. At first, my political orientation as feminist and my frustration toward straight men had me in turmoil because I couldn't separate my desire from my beliefs. But then maybe that was a catalyst? I find women just as sexually attractive as men, if not more. I go through "phases" where I feel slightly more attracted one gender than the other. I have very queer-supportive friends who are queer themselves (bi, lesbian, gay, questioning) so I'm in good space. I'm feeling more comfortable with my sexuality now that I don't have to confine myself to one "camp"!Helen

Date: Tuesday, February 4, 2003 Hello all....Well my last two posts I just read were so happy and I was like on such a cloud...Today I ended my relationship after 9 months....I am so miserable and hoping I did the right thing...I just dont' think I am cut out to be married and carry on another relationship at the same time....Knowing that neither one of us would leave our spouses and the anger and rage I have inside towards her spouse just got the best of me and made it difficult to focus on her and I..LXXX by far was the best thing to ever happen to me, and I will forever love her in my heart and soul...I wish her a happy and healthy life with her family, and that one day on the other side I still hope her to be there....XOXOXOtammy

Sunday, February 9, 2003 Wow! We ran across this site and began reading the comments, and found ourselves just drawn in. Both my wife and I are bi, and have known this about ourselves for quite some time (since our teens). We came out to each other early in our relationship. Both of us enjoy both the physical intimacy and the emotional support of people like us. What we have encountered is that many people in the gay community don't take bisexuality seriously, and many people in the straight community seem to find it very confusing. I've heard the "a bi man is only a man on his way to being gay" routine. At first I found it frustrating, and now I find it tedious. I once saw a button at a local Pridefest: "I have made up my mind. I'm bisexual." Loved it and bought it. I find my bisexuality to be liberating not only sexually but also from a world perception standpoint. I don't feel locked into a "male" (i.e. manly man) way of being. An I can certainly appreciate a woman's sometimes stated perception that men just don't get it. (Being a man, I must admit that sometimes I don't.) From my wife's point of view, she has said that she feels frustrated at finding a woman to be in relationship with. This may be because of her marital status and the perception that what she's asking for is a 3-some. Not so. In fact, the 3-some thing gets in the way a great deal. There are too many couples looking for that fantasy encounter, and that's just not getting it. (Ever notice how the bisexuality sought is usually between the women -- the straight guy's standard fantasy?) She would simply like to be with a woman, and to develop something special with her. I don't find this threatening, since I too am bisexual and understand the desires. More importantly, with us it is a 2-way street. I suppose we'll have more to say in the future, but for now we can only say that our bisexuality allows us to be creative and fluid in all aspects of our lives.richard

Wednesday, February 19, 2003 I am 32 and in the past i have tried to have relationships with girls but have not been very lucky with the pulling aspects!
Lately, i am convinced that i may not enjoy sex with a girl as much as a boy, but will not go gay until i am 100% convinced this is the case,i.e have been with a girl and find it wrong.
I want girls in what feels like a non sexual feeling i.e. there beauty,the facts it a woman to go on holiday, have a life with but i'm scared that sexually it won't work. If i want to be straight and i am gay,have people ever turned to being straight or is there some previous sicological thing which is mixing me up.Please help,cheers. STU

Date: Thursday, March 6, 2003 WOW****** This page has soo much depth. it has touched on feelings and emotions that friends nor family have been able to help me get to the heart of. So to all of those who have submitted - especially the host THANX! It can be truely a challenged being dueally attracted. Hungering for the strong grasp of a man and longing for the gentle touch and sweet sentiments of a woman. For me I have recently given my permission to want or be attracted, or drawn to whomever I deem. feminine

Thursday, March 6, 2003 My story...the abridged version (lol). As far as I knew I always been attracted to males only until i met this new friend. she was like a storm-agressive, volutuous, intelligent, rude, sooo kind (pretty much to me only), beyond considerate and thoughtful (to me only again). Now let me say. She never professed to be gay but everyone in every circle she had ever entered believed her to be. Now they believed her to be in love with. Well crazy i thought at first but after serveral months of being together 5 days or more each week, hundreds of home cooked meals and serveral token gifts of lingerie - i was convinced but what was even more scary was i was totally into her too. but what now i had a boyfriend she was dating this one and that one and of course - we were both "supposed to b straight". Despite that we would hang out at all of the bi/gay spots - where we would dance together, even touch and play. But when the pary was over, it was back business as usual - living straight as an arrow. My focus was now centered on her. damn what was happening. i was confused and soo dure of what i wanted all at once (WHOAAAA). So what did i do??? eventuallly we took a break from each other for a few months and i stepped out and had a very special experience with another women (which actually came very naturally much to my surprise). But still even after a year of exploartion with this other person, after having offers for both women and men of every background, financial profile, complexion, age. i am still so drawn to her soo much that i question whether it all about womwn or about this woman and the permeable hold that she willingly or unwillingly has on me. ok i know that was a lot. so please click and drop me a line to share some advise or insite. lol feminine

Date: Wednesday, March 26, 2003 I think with all that has been said, it is impossible for anyone to know what they are or what put them in that spot. For me, as long as I can remember, I have always thought that women were the "stronger, better" sex. I have no idea why this should be so, just that I believe it to be true. I have been involved equally with men and women all my life and my best, most fulfilling times are when the person I am with allows me to experience everything I need. Do I consider this a bad or good thing? No it is a great thing and I am thankful that the people I choose to surround my self with allow me my sexual freedom. michele

Date: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 I am a 24 yr old married bi female. This is the first time I've ever put this in writing. I will probably never tell my parents, and it doesn't really ever come up. I was not overwhelmed by the feelings I have had about women unlike some others. It was just the way I felt. I knew it was considered "wrong" to be "gay or bi" but it didn't register that it was wrong to feel what I felt. I didn't connect the term to the definition.
I was asked one day by a bi couple if I was bi. I had never really thought about it, but after analyzing everything in my childhood, I responded with a yes. My first experience with a woman was actually 5 or 6 years later, when I fell for a coworker of mine. We were both engaged, but our fiances were both supportive. After the experience, I was effected on a deep, emotional level due to the fact that she sort of shunned me after the orgasm was over. We didn't talk for a while, and then we had an awkward conversation in which we both said everything was fine between us. I think we've talked 5 times in the 2 years since then. I lost all interest in sex and intimacy after that, and my husband has been as patient and supportive as he can be, but I'm not sure what exactly is wrong. I had a desire that couldn't be quenched, and in on evening it went out the window. Since then, I've questionned whether or not I'm bi, or if my lack of desire in my marriage meant that I was a lesbian.!
It's take these 2 years for me to realize that I am a bi-sexual being who was thrown through an emotional whirlwind by an experience with a woman who didn't want to be with me when it ended. I really loved her, and it still hurts that she won't speak to me, even as a friend. I don't have a lot of friends. I feel as if no one can truly understand me. My husband understands as much as I share with him, but I try not to burden him with all of my issues. I do worry too much. If any one would like to contact me to chat, talking to a sane bi-sexual would be wonderful. Thank you for caring enough to read the story of one lonely bi-chick. Krista

Date: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 As I read some of the comments, I notice that many of us have gone or are going through a time of confusion about our sexuality. My understanding is that bisexuality is a fluid thing. Sometimes we are attracted more to one sex than the other. For some of us, one sex or the other always has a stronger appeal. What our particular society seems to expect is that you are either gay or straight. And that seems to hold true in both the gay and straight communities. Hey, just go with the flow -- being bi is an attitude, a sexual way of being, an appreciation of the obvious and the subtle in both sexes... Confusion is natural. Just let go, and don't worry about fitting into some idea of what is or is not "bi", "straight", or "gay". Richard

Sunday, May 4, 2003 I wish I would meet a very young bisexual girl, and we would fall in love and live together our separate lives to hilt. Please email me. Jaime Jaime

Saturday, May 31, 2003 Thanks you all very much for the great page. I'm 31 and very confused about my sexuality. I've been experimenting with Gay/Straight and sometimes transexual sex for the last 15 years. I thought it was a stage I was going through and wanted and though I would fall in love with a women and have children etc. I am recently home for a three week holiday, all my old friends are having babies and have wonderful partners. My confusion has made me scared of intimatcy and I now can't perform with a women. I am so confused I need someone to talk to. I dont know quite where I stand and its making me very depressed. Is it OK to be confused ?? Thanks for your help Fuzzy

Thursday, June 5, 2003 Great site! Married and For 28 years I fantasized about giving a bj. The opportunity presented itself and it was horrible for me. I choked, gagged and got criticized for not being any good! All this after I told him it was my first time. It was not all it was cracked up to be and I am not sure I want to try it again. Your thoughts, Roger

Monday, September 1, 2003 Hi. I want to talk about a double standard.
You know, I am a woman - consider myself hetero - but with bisexual potential. I am aroused when I see or imagine women together, just as I am aroused by anything sexual, really. And though sexually and emotionally I have alwaays connected with and fallen in love with men, I do feel that the bisexual potential is within me, as it is within most women I think, and I can enjoy it as a fantasy even if I never actually try it. (Or I may try it, who knows...)
Anyway, I have a wonderful loving boyfriend. And he - get this - had a few homosexual encounters with an older man when he was 16. Well, he's now 28, he never felt like doing it again, and before and after that experience, he was only ever with girls. He does get aroused by movies or fantasies portraying certain homosexual acts - namely penetration - but he feels he has a clear preference. Doesn't even consider himself bisexual, because he thinks of bisexual as "in the middle", and he has a strong preference.
And I find myself having a hard time coping with this. I'm so horrible! I'm applying a horrible double standard! I am allowed to explore - in fantasy - anything I want. And I understand women who prefer men but try women at some point... And yet, when my boyfriend shows the same bi-sexual potential I have, I get all homophobic, I get afraid that he is just a closeted gay man who will eventually cheat on me with men, etc. etc.
I feel so bad about myself for this. He is kind and trustworthy. And we have a great relationship. Why can't I shake this double standard that it's OK for me to enjoy all things sexual (at least in fantasy and porn etc.) but not for him?! Niki

Date: Thursday, September 25, 2003 My boyfriend who I have been dating for a year knows that I'm bisexual,but I have a big problem. I like this girl alot and want to be with her sexually,but for some reason I don't want him and her to be close like me and him. I want to be close with her and with him, but not them. The whole thought of him and another girl I can't stand. I love him and she's really hot, but I just don't want them to get close and then, they both drop me. You know I'm going to always want him regardless it's just I want to fuck her for a while and he wants to watch. I don't know what to do I need someone to help me out. I'm 17 and so is she my boyfriend is 19. Sunday, October 12, 2003 Well...I'm kinda confused not totally but kinda confused.. I'm kinda young for my high level of maturity and I'm just saying.. People are people..Who ever they might like..Who ever they might worship..See I kinda found out last year..That I like..both guys and girls... I got a boyfriend and I love him with everybone in my body it's just..There is this girl I know I like..I mean like..I'm just kinda confused right now..I need help..Blah I'm 14years old...And thinks she's a bisexual..Jennifer

Monday, November 3, 2003 I'm not really sure what I am. I mean yeah I do think guys are attractive and when i see them they turn me on but then again I see girls attractive too and they turn me on too,but my best friend is a girl and she turns me on a lot and so does my boyfriend.I do enjoy having sex with my boyfriend but I always think about having sex with my best friend. What can I do I've never been really been in a relationship with a girl? Am I really bisexual or am I just confused? MM

Sunday, November 9, 2003 Time: 8:35 PM EST Well, I've been lurking around on this site for a while...its a verrrrrry good site btw!
I just posted because i need help, and if you can read this and email me i'd appreciate it....
I have a boyfriend of almost 2yrs, and everything is doing well... Most of his friends are lesbians, although he does have a fair amount of straight friends, etc... well my question is: I've noticed in the past year that i'm definately attracted to his "girl"friends and i know i'm Bi... i have been since like 8th-9th grade but, whenever my boyfriend and i talk about this he blows up and starts talking all this crap about how i dont love him, i'm going to leave him for "her" and this that and more...
how can i be open with him without him blowing up in my face.... i love him and dont want to hurt him but, i feel the need for him to know that yes, i am Bi.... BUT, I'm scared...
please help! -lisa
p.s. its been real rough since last thursday when we went to a party for one of his friends (lesbian party) and ever since he's been harrassing me about it.... it hurts!

Thursday, November 13, 2003 I've been going out with this guy for a year and a couple of months. Ten months into our relationship, we broke up for a week. This happened once before our 6 month anniversary, but we realized that we couldn't be without eachother. When we were in the process of getting back together after 10 months, he told me he was bisexual. I didn't know how to react, but he kept on telling me that he's still the same person and he still loves me so much. It's been forever and a day since August 11th, and I'm still not comfortable with what he tole me. I get frusterated when we go out together thinking that he'll be looking at someone more attractive than me, and I'm just so religious that it's killing me inside. Recently I've been considering breaking up with him, but I just don't know what to do. Can someone PLEASE help me? I think I might turn suicidal.Lauren

Sunday, November 30, 2003 i get so confused about this alot of the time. i had a g/f a week or so ago i'm not really sure how it ended but i know i'm in love w/ her. she's the best person ever. then there's guys... so great to be with. personally, i could never go full lesbian... i would miss guys too much.Kristen

Wednesday, December 10, 2003 Ok...here is the deal...I know I am not gay...I had gay experiences...but I love woman, if I was a woman I be a lesbian....but i am curious again, my gay experiences where when i was very young and I was pretty much force to do them...I am married..and my sex life is really good, but I want more, I want to experiment...all my female friends first tough I was gay (when they first meet me) because I paint, and I take good care of my self...so aperantly I am metrosexual...i am very confuse, if I tell my wife she will freak...she once toll me she was afraid I go gay...I just want more..sparks...any way please write me and let me know what you think....by the way if you want to look at my paints... the site is www.thomasrueda.com Thomas Rueda

Monday, April 12, 2004 I am 17 and bisexual. It has taken me two years, not to realize this, but to put a lable on what I already knew. I came out slowly to my close friends over the last couple months have really started to define what this means to me; however, last night I decided to come out to my mom and share the only thing that I had kept hidden from her. Now my parents have labled me, or at least my sexual orientation as "unhealthy and unnatural", when only yesterday I was their well-rounded,successful, honor student. I hope that in time my parents can learn what this really means to me and why I felt that I needed to tell the truth. CR
Friday, May 7, 2004 It's nice to see a place where people can talk and ask questions. When I first found out I was bi I had to discover my own way. My stats: 47, married 29 yrs. have no steady female, would be nice if I did, and hubby is bi curious. Linda

Monday, September 13, 2004 Interesting and informative site. I was just surfing for Bierhday parties, and THIS page came up under matching! WEll, I wish the best to all sho are having hardtimes dealing with getting to know themselves. I know that I am not Bi, nor gay, but I will say that another female has been included in fantasies, DOes that make me Bi? No, I dont think so. GETS

Thursday, October 7, 2004 I don't know if i am so how do i tell..how do i keep my gurl happy if i am x

Tuesday, December 7, 2004 i am a teen and i just found out that i am bisexual. i am somewhat happy because i amitted that i was bi the ll of my friends. i think that hardes thing is to amit to my family that i am bi.ihow would i do that? is there likea best way to tell my parents? jennifer robbins

Friday, December 17, 2004 I found other people here to read their expressions, thoughts and feelings. Its so hard to find people that are as open minded as I am here In Omaha, I totally agree that lesbians find me to be greedy and I am more accepted by men only because I can provide a sexual fantasy of a threesome. I want to find real friends that are understanding like my boyfriend of 4 years. I crave conversation with other bisexual females and males, I have gay and lesbian friends but it is so nice to know that even though its hard to physically meet someone like me here, I can find people on this awesome site to talk with and share things. Very happy to have found your site! Made my day! Leigh Ann

Friday, January 7, 2005 I am into sexual experiences with both men and women. I consider myself straight. So is their a such thing as a Straight-Bisexual? Mark

Sunday, February 6, 2005 I am a 23 bi-sexual female I do have a boyfriend who knows but my friends and family dont and Im am fine with that my boyfriend is fine with it he is great other guys that I have told have been very mean or threatend with it I am glad that I have someone who knows that sometimes I enjoy being with a women it feels good to have someone who understands Tuesday, March 8, 2005 Hello my name is laney from new jersey 44 yrs. old mom....loving the fact your site starts with the mind and not with private parts...I am deep and feel as if you need to know a persons mind and spirit and connect from there...here is a poem about my first bi- feeling inside my stomach at the age old 23 you talk about fire inside ...well I know it starts with the mind because it was never sexual it was a connection a feeling inside a fire that still burns when I hear her name:..

Poem I wrote:
True love comes around:
It began when I was young.... this very strange confusion , 
How could I explain, if I was never told... 
These forbidden feelings of someone I endured, 
My Heart was in shackles ,to afraid to be cured, 
A silent death awaits me,if I am turned away, 
my best friend, you meant everything to me, 
It was not of this world , this passion inside, 
But it was the kind of true love to deep to ever hide, 
My insides shook with doubt, and excitement, 
If it was Yes, I would experience heaven' 
when I got her response , I was totally Shattered, 
When she replied, thanks, I am really flattered, 
A nice no I don"t think so ....as she finished her meal, 
Our friendship died that day I didn't want to feel, 
If I wasn't so messed up , she might of said yes, 
If only I was stronger I wouldn't be in this mess, 
So, Know who you really are before you come out, 
Expect to be hurt expect to have doubt, 
The person you fall in-love with is wiser then you know, 
They saw you were confused, and gave you wings to grow, 
Dont be afraid to Belive,and embrace who you are, 
The Love that could have been might return and heal your scar...
.peace to alllaney

Sunday, March 20, 2005 I am a 17 year old bisexual female. I am studying on same sex marriages for a paper for school. I have been trying to come out with it. I know people who do and don't except it. I am dating a guy who is very acceptive of that. He just asks that I don't mess with females as long as we are together because it is still cheating. He and I both accept that and each other. My brother knows but the rest of my family does not. They probably would accept it but I prefer them not knowing. My bf's family does not know though. Facing the fact that you are bisexual is hard, sort of like being the middle child. I know one thing though...if same sex marriages were legal i would still be with my ex girlfriend. we split up due to not being able to marry. I miss havng a female in my life but for the first time ever i am finally accepted and I am happy with a guy...my present bnf. I will one day have kids and will raise them to accept GLBT's and even 100% accept any of them that decide to be. I am looking for support, exspecially a bi female trying to commit to a guy bc its hard and i need help... Piglet

Date: Monday, June 20, 2005I am a bi male and I love it.I enjoy sex with males and females.hey,it's the best of both worlds.Bill

Date: Wednesday, July 27, 2005 I'm a 70 yr. old man. I was married for 44yrs and had a not too great a sex partner.She was almost 35 before she started to really enjoy sex. She did not or would not give oral and thus I started looking for a dicrete Bi married male and found what I needed . I had had a male on male experiance and I must say it was better than sex with my wife..I was passive with him and although I did not give in to his asking me to give him oral, I regretted that for 40 years.. Now being single and living alone I had the oppertunity to suck a mans cock..It was all I had imagined for all those wasted years. I don't consider my self as gay because I have a steady flow of women engaging in oral and regular sex.However the urge to have sex with a man is right up there with women and I have just recently acted on the urge. It has kept me completly satisfied . I live the straight life and only have sex with Bi married males who, like me , are not "out". I have lost that nagging feeling about not having sex with a mam.I am complete.I don't know why but as of now I feel as though I have the best of two worlds..This week I will have sex with a women and a man.. JR

Tuesday, October 25, 2005 I am at a point in my life, after 30 plus years of denying a part of my sexuality..that I really enjoyed.. Now...I have no other relationship to hinder my plesure with being with another male, and female too. David

Date: Saturday, December 31, 2005I just love cute sexy girls and very much enjoy sexual contacts with them, but sometime I want to feel a man's touch. Sometimes I don't want to invest the time or energy into a sexual contact, a man know what he wants and go's for it, I like it that way at times. I'm into oral and anal sex, most women do not or will not provide me the anal stimulation I enjoy so much. So yes I'm Bi and like it that way. Pobept

Date February 19, 2006 heyy- i'm bi and proud of it. i have a boyfirend and a girl friend. but i like my bf and is deeply in love with my gf. sometimes i do feel alone because i have parents who won't support me. but i just follow my heart and both my gf and bf support me. -trish-

Date March 9, 2006 My boyfriend and I just broke up a few days ago. During our relationship he would ask me questions like "Do lesbian porn turn you on? and my response was no.. then he asked me Would you think Im gay if I have been turned on by watching male gay porn? Even though he has a morbid sense of humor we would have certain discussions about anything everything. He is a detective and I asked him have you ever been bribed by the person you are arresting for sexual favors and he would say no, but if he bribed me with oral sex I would take it and send him to jail anyway. Even though he was joking I told him that is GAy because any straight man wouldnt do that. He also said that if he needed a roommate he would room with a Gay person. I like his style of clothing but some of it doesnt look masculine at times. IF he sees a man walking the first thing he would say he has a huge butt. I dont have anything Gays or lesbians but do you think its possible he is bisexual or been with a man in the past and trying to convince himself that he loves women only MissTanyanicole

I agree with how you are perceived as a bi sexual woman. I have had bi sexual flings before i was married but always behind closed doors. I was married for 14 yrs to a man who cheated and manipulated me. After our divorce I was in a local pub and this girl started talking I knew she was gay and was instantly attracted to her not just by looks but her whole persona. We started dating and I came out to my family and the town where we live. Of course everyone accepts my girlfriend as she has been gay all her life but i was given funny looks and comments were made, we constantly get guys and girls trying for 3somes and married cpls as well. I get so cross we are in love and are due to get married soon my son adores her why cant people see this and treat us like a adoring loving cpl that we are. Ive never been so happy and loved. Society needs to change. Helen Thomas

Saturday May 12th It is 4:18 in the morning on a saturday and i am typing my thoughts on bisexuality.. i'm 16. and very confussed if i am a bisexual or not.. i live in a christian home and i've talked to my parents before about their thoughts on being bi or not and they both are homophobic and they both told me if me or my sister were to come out and say we were lesbian or bisexual they would disown us pretty much. I hate it soo much. They just don't understand it. I've even told them before i think its okay to be bi or a lesbian and they both say its a sin and its against Gods will. I use to be a very strong christian but i've faded from God because of these reasons. I had my first lesbian/bisexual experience when i was around 10 or 11. Me and my friend were inmy backyard in my pool and we had been very good friends since kindergarden and we were always joking about stuff like that and we got carried away and she kissed me. I was pretty much in shock but i wanted to do it again. After that day she kinda faded from me but we got reconnected when i was about 13 or 14. Nothing happened but i always hoped it would. Now i'm 16 and 2 monthes ago she was at my house and we were messing around and i asked her "u wanna makeout?" and she said "sure" and so we did..and from there we pretty much got carried away. It was one of the best experiences in my life and i loved it. I've always thought i was bisexual since that first kiss she gave me back in 6th grade but i never accepted it because of my parents. I'm still not sure to this day but i have bi friends now and they are the people i trust the most in telling this kinda stuff too. I'm very confussed if i am bi or not..i like guys but i like grls too. Its soo confussing and i just knew what i was. Bisexuality is a perfectly normal part of well everyone. I think somewhere in everyone's lifes they dream that one dream of lesbian sex. The person posted before me "Society needs to change." shes right..it does. Christyy