by Phyllis Randolph Frye
(Taken from E-mail with Ms. Frye's permission By Gwen Smith)

As to restrooms, if you don't pass, stay out. Before you go somewhere, check out where the one-holers (usually gas stations) are. I have a clever friend who bought a male urinal bottle from a hospital supply and she discretely uses it in her car. Smart. Even if you have good documents, if you don't pass stay out.

BUT I HAVE A LEGAL RIGHT TO BE IN! Maybe so, and maybe you can beat the case in court, but that costs $$ and you will have to go public which most do not care to do. And the night in jail is no fun. And if you pass, go in, do your business (sitting is preferred) and get out.

Don't engage in conversations while in the other restroom. Don't take time to primp. Get in and get out. Every second you spend in there is a chance for someone to read you, panic, call the cops, and put you in jail.