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Understanding pain! | This is a wild example of bondage - not something for the beginers, not for some time, ok? |
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We've got a lot to talk about, but i'm going to try to fit this on one page. If there are parts you don't understand then read the entire series (or at least some of it) and then if you still don't get it please write to me with questions, ok?
Pain in bondage is not used like they seem to show it on TV, few things are. It's easy to get the wrong impression. i like to draw bondage illustrations and i usually use expressions of happyness, joy, delight, playfulness, fufillment, and rapture. When you do bondage sometimes it is fun to play a role. Maybe you want to be the kidnapped cheerleader. Are you going to act happy, joyful, delighted, playful, fufilled, or like you are in rapture then?Probably not.
One time i did a scene with a guy where he pretended to kidnapp me and i giggled all the way through it - which proves you could be the kidnapped cheerleader and act happy, joyful, delighted, playful, fufilled, or like you are in rapture. The point is you can do better sometimes acting afraid, misserable, or even angry.
What bondage apears to look like on the outside isn't what is going on inside. This is something that is hard to understand so give yourself some time to let it sink in and take a peak with me at some of the parts of bondage that look and even sound bad, but they are good. Heck, it's scary just looking at a pair of handcuffs, right?
- PAIN IS THE BODY'S WAY OF REPORTING INJURY
Kinda...
- We all have it kinda soft. What most of us call pain is just the sensation of touch. Pinch your arm and it hurts. That's what we call pain. Pinch your arm and cause a bruise and that's real pain. Most of us won't do that to ourselves (i won't) or allow someone else to do that to us. This is good. Hopefully we are all thinking adults and none of us are self-destructive.
- We can experience pain without injury, but what fun is that? Glad you asked. There are two ways to get good from pain that i want to mention right now. You get tied up in some kind of uncomfortable position for as long as you can stand it (good things may be going on overriding the pain) and then you get untied. That feels good, right?
There's this story about this homeless person who helps a millionare who's broke down on the side of the road. The millionare asks how he can help the homeless person in return. The homeless person asks for some expensive boots that are two sizes two small. He explains that if the boots are too tight they will feel good to take off at the end of each day (so he will feel the reward everyday), and if they are expensive he'll never leave them behind.- Pain when it relates to bondage: i am NOT talking about punishments here (that's covered elsewhere.) Punishments are not to be enjoyed! And pain for pain's sake isn't really a good idea either. The kind of pain i am talking about is the pain we can harness to serve us - non-injury pain. Pain used constructively!
i have a real simple point to make here, but i'm going to have to pound away at this for a bit to make sure everyone is together on this... Please bear with me.
i am not trying to make you into a bondage bimbo! i'm not one and i hope that you aren't either. There is no need to defame ourselves.This is the clothes pin part. You could get a clothes pin and follow along with me, but i'd rather you had your attention on what i'm talking about - just imagine you are me or something. ok?
i'm going to describe putting a clothes pin on my chest (yeah, that part of my chest - the end part.) At first the pictures i saw of it were... disgusting! What woman would allow that to be done to herself? It looked very self destructive and perverted. It intrigued me though and i kept seeing pictures of people doing it.
i am a happy person, happy with myself, happy with life. i would never do something to hurt myself, really. i am proud of my body and i take good care of it. i exercise and eat right (despite a passion for chocolate.) i am proud of my chest too and while i'm not big i have nice perky ones that are easy enough to notice. And i was considering putting a clothes pin on one of them!
This was back when i used to go to the chatrooms. i had a cyber lover and we chatted every chance we got. My schedule was a bit more hectic than his so sometimes he would be in a chat without me and sometimes i would be late. i had missed being on time twice and decided it was time for me to offer up some punishment to atone for being late. It was my idea to wear a clothes pin for him.
We were chatting and i was in my handcuffs (hands front - i can type with my hands behind me and using a pencil in my mouth) and it was time. i told him what i intended to do and while he didn't ask me to do it and didn't much like the idea he areed to let me do it. Punishments are not to be enjoyed by either party!
i had already decided that 15 minutes would be tops for how long i would wear the clothes pin and i had streached it open so that the full tension was lost. i did not want to maim myself!
Carefully with cuffed hands i put it in place and slowly let it clamp down onto me. It seemed like i would never get to the point where it would ever stop getting tighter and when i couldn't stand it any longer i let go of it and let the clothes pin bite me as hard as it would.
The body forgets pain. The brain doesn't remember it. Each time we feel pain it is like for the very first time. My eyes were already closed tightly when, for the first time, i saw stars! It was not at all like i thought it would be! It hurt! No joy, no revelation, just solid cold hurt!
It took awhile for it to slow down and for me to be able to open my eyes and sit up in my chair. This was not something i wanted! One thing did feel good though, i had shown my cyber-Master that i was willing to suffer that much pain if he would please please please forgive me for being late. i can be very subserviant...
As the circulation stopped, thanks to the clothes pin, the pain too eased off. It didn't stop, it was like when you get a cut fixing super and then you clean it up, put a bandage on it and wait for it to heal. You get used to it and finally it goes away. Kinda like that, except i still had that clothes pin on me - and when i took it off the blood was going to revive the nerves and... well it hurt more than putting the clothes pin on! Not the "seeing stars" kind of pain, just BIG pain. i think that nip stayed sore about four days, maybe longer. It was a delight for something to touch it and remind me of what i'd done though. It was a good pain!
Ok, take a break, get some coffee - but read the rest! This is where it get's better! Ready? Here we go...
i had learned that pain does not mean injury. Now the idea was to turn it into a good thing. Anything can be good or bad. The trick is to take the good and leave the bad behind. This is the important part and it is shorter than all the jazz i had to use to get here...i hate that!
Imagine this scene, imagine doing it.
Your lover ties you up. The two of you are going to have sex. You are excited and want sex. Either something happened before you got tied up or after he tied you up. You are ready, ok?
This is the wild stuff. The part where we are going to take the pain that a common clothes pin can cause and turn it upside down and make that pain pleasure AND we are going to add that pleasure ON TOP OF an ogasm, or two or three or more...
He puts the clothes pin on (use two to double the effect) and the pain is different right off. Like before it is pain felt for the first time, but his time your nips are hard and engorged with blood because you are very much turned on. He gives you time to adjust and then the love making begins. You are tied up, making love, you feel it, the want builds and builds and builds and finally you begin to feel that first sweet, exciting orgasm and then... he removes both clothes pins at the same time!
If you didn't feel a rush just reading this then you don't know that the brain gets confused durring sex. It wants all the sensation it can get and the pain of the clothes pins coming off is interpreted as pleasure! Good orgasm? You betcha'! AND since the pain caused by the blood returning to your nips is not short lived the period when ogasms occur is prolonged (read that to mean that you get many intense orgasms.)
Worth a try? Yes! Only wait until you have grown enough in bondage to try this. It is a giant leap of faith to accept pain for pleasure. Don't be in too big of a hurry to get here, ok? Just know that if you want it then it can be in your future. Since your nips will be tender for a week be prepared to be nicely turned on during this period.
CAUTIONS: If you try a clothes pin (or two) and find the pain too intense then perhaps you are getting an injury. Everone's body is different. Exercise caution! i have a rule for myself on this that you may want to adopt; i limit this use of my breasts to only a handful of times per year. i have no desire to end up with some nips that look like the dog has been chewing on them!
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