My ideal guy is one who is spiritual, or has good morals/values. He is a learner and discoverer of truth.
With his body, he honors me above anyone else. With my body, I honor him above anyone else. He is a guy who knows that romantic and sexual fidelity with one partner can be exciting and liberating. We are reflections of the creator and have minds and imaginations that are made to express creativity and that done creatively. He is a good kisser, and loves for us to practice new techniques on each other.
He is a family man, always strong and sometimes bold in his identity as a guy who loves and is committed to me. He relishes my own strength and boldness as a guy who loves and is committed to him.
He's young at heart and active. No eating, drinking and sitting in front of the idiot box (television) all the time. He is in decent shape and enjoys getting into or being in better physical shape. Together, he and I can create a healthy home and family. He will like to do at least some of the following: take a good walk in the morning or evening, a gym workout or a few during the week, a bike ride, a swim, team sports, a hike, or a myriad of other activities.
He likes it when he brings me flowers, and in genuine joy I exclaim how much I truly love him. He learns what life is like living on the edge of the next romantic suprise I have in store for him. He likes knowing what is true, that he is my one and only, and lets me know that he's happy to keep coming back to make me his one and only.
He lets me dress him up sometimes so we can go to the symphony or a sacred choral or organ concert. He reaches for my hand as the lights dim within the music hall. I dress him up again and we head down to an arena or sports field, a circus, a fair, or just to see a movie. He tells me to sit right next to him even if there's empty seats in our row. Why? Because we're together, "Because it's no body's business so leave us alone".
He makes me laugh with his hilarious imaginings, and he laughs at my own. He likes it when I wrap an arm around his waist and pull him to myself as we play cat and mouse, one moment he's the cat, another moment he's the mouse. He likes to hug and kiss a lot. His eyes sparkle in the candlelight of a special dinner as we reach hands across the table and say a grace on the food and our relationship.
He knows how to stimulate my mind and heart with good conversation and ideas. He likes to stimulate me and be stimulated by me in many ways. He wants to be a teammate and a soulmate in mind body and spirit, not just a roommate in a house.
He takes mini-vacations with me. He expresses that we should slow down our sometimes-frantic schedules, cancel appointments or re-arrange obligations to make love to each other with our time, our attention, and our concern. On a Friday evening, after dinner at home, or eating out, we move to the couch, or to a quiet part of a waterfront. Either one of us might say to the other, "Come here baby" as he or I reach out and wrap the other one of us in our arms. Praise Music, or smooth meditative classical or jazz tunes play from the radio we've brought along, or our home stereo system. We talk about stresses of the week and what we need to release them during our time together.
He cheers me on to my dreams and goals, and lets me know how glad he is that I'm there to cheer him on to his own.
