I decided to write only from a male’s perspective. I wanted to write something specifically for us guys. But the ideas might be usable in the female-female relation as well. Also, these are not the "Ten Commandments of Romancing Your Man", but they’re close. While I crafted this list mostly for fun, it hopefully contains ideas that will not only bring romance to your relationship, but will help create a spiritual-bond between you, your sweetheart and even God = a trinity of sorts. And as such, you might not find some of these ideas anywhere else in gay media.
- Love notes: You remember them don’t you? Puppy love and all that? An email message is nice, but he can’t touch it. Give him something he can not only see, but feel. Do: Spray a little of his favorite scent on for good measure. Don’t: Send him a ‘canned message’.
- Canned Message: These are cards you buy at the store or over the Internet (electronic cards or e-cards). If you give him one of these, use it as an aside to numbers 3 - 8.
- Picnic in the Park: This is great for you who live in warm, sunny climates. But you might live in a place like Seattle where it rains 9 months of the year (kidding) – what should you do? Car picnic, like car camping! Trap yourself and your guy in a car with some take-out, pop in his favorite "atmosphere" (and you know the kind I’m talking about) tape or CD and watch the waves lap at the shore. Okay, so you live in Omaha Nebraska – then er…., watch the airplanes land at Omaha International.
- Save the World: It’s the holidays! If none or your relatives are in need – or if you no-longer have a relationship with relatives – call up a charity or shelter and the both of you – together – sponsor a needy child or a family. Maybe two holiday meals, or thrift store blankets, socks, and shoes is all you can afford. Whatever it is, together, your money will go further than the both of you giving alone. What better feeling is there than the feeling of you and your lover side-by-side, saving the world?
- Family night: Perhaps you have gotten to the point where your relationship is much more serious. It’s time for "family night." You both should work out the schedule and frequency on this. Maybe it will end up being once a month, or then again, once a week. Whatever works for both of you. On this night, it’s just you and him – no one else. If you go out on the town, keep the contact with other people at a minimum. What we want to create here is your own world just for a few hours.
- Enchanted Bathroom: This is the one in your own home or apartment. You’ll need at least one candle, burning incense... Oh heck, sounds like I’m Martha Stewart! Just whip out the can of scented air spray. Turn off bright glaring lights and presto! Oh yea, that little walkie-talkie thing you call a bathroom radio won’t do. Grab that nice boom-box and get some good groove tunes going. This is especially nice if you do not live in a dream-home with individual speakers in all the rooms. Whatever your preference (tub or shower) this can be a very stimulating experience.
- Pray together: Though this is the seventh suggestion, it is in NO way the least important. I saved it for seven because it is the perfect number. Some of you "not into religion" might freak out at the site or sound of the word "pray". You want to be sure that it is talking about survival of the fittest. Well in a way it is. (snicker) One thing I have found extremely stimulating emotionally and spiritually, and even physically, is to hold the hand of my sweetheart and pray. It is likely that few things will help you feel that your relationship is "out of this world", than to pray together, for each other and for your relationship.
Perhaps you and yours will prefer to just take a moment and hold each other. And while you're doing this, you each think about the other, your day, extended family and friends or an issue that is bringing you joy or distress. Talk about these things. Both of you share what you hope for in all these things.
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