WHAT SHOULD A MASTER BE?
What should a Master be? The question can only be answered
individually by both Masters and fledglings alike.
The Master is a strong man, a dominate man. He is sure of himself, confident in
his place in society. He cherishes males, revels by their presence. he is giving, caring, Loving and understanding.
When the Master takes on a new fledgling, he worships him, discovers him, slowly possesses him. He gently pushes him, always ready to
show him that he is strong, that his limits are not what he believes them to
be, that he can be taken farther. In this, the Master reveals to the fledgling his
own confidence, his own levels of self esteem.
As the Master learns his new fledgling, an understanding takes place. He senses
his desires, his needs, his passions. With this new
knowledge, the Master takes care of the fledgling, always giving what the
fledgling needs but not necessarily what he presumes he needs.
It is the Master's responsibility to care for, protect and love his fledgling.
If he is sick, he will feed him. If he is exhausted, he will allow him to rest,
stroking his hair and he does so. If he is scared, he will confront him. If he
needs affection, he will hold him. These things he does willingly, because he
knows him. He understands him as no one else does. He has seen into his soul
and held it in his hands. His mind is his to read, to know. His body is his to
feel. His heart is his to caress. He becomes his possession.
The Master does not take away the fledglings identity, but allows him to grow
into his own being, his own likeness, his submission
to him is not a vehicle of punishment or hatred, but one of love and
development. He is given the room to come into his own, under his Master's
care, like a flower that flourished under the sun's warmth. He radiates from
his love and devotion. He becomes a rose; a beautiful being that knows he is
loved and cared for.
There is the profile of a Master: strong, able, confident, loving, caring,
encouraging, and gentle. "What about punishment and discipline?" you
may be asking. Punishment is handed out lovingly yet firmly. The Master is not angry, there is no place for anger with punishment. The
Master is teaching. Punishment and discipline need not be physical, it can be
psychological. It is not done out of harshness or hostility, it is done out of
love and forgiveness.
In conclusion, I believe a Master does not mold a sub into what he feels he
should be, but allows him the freedom to live and grow under his loving care. He
becomes the man he has always been, deep within his spirit. He takes his gift
of submission seriously, knowing that it is not given freely or lightly. He
always remembers how precious the gift is, how rare it is, how beautiful it is.
For he has given him something that cannot be taken for granted; he has given
him the gift of his soul.
The fledgling is a man, firm in his masculinity/femininity. He offers himself
to a Master freely, of his own choosing. He gives the gift of his submission in
exchange for his protection, care and love. He is obedient because he chooses
to be, net because he is forced to be. His first priority is pleasing his
Master. He will do whatever he asks in order to meet his desires.
He comes to him a man, but unsure of his place. With his guidance, he quickly
learns what is expected of him. With this learning, he begins to give more of himself,
of his soul, until he has given his all to his Master. There is no power given
up, no control taken away. He gives what he wants to give and his Master holds
the gift in his heart, always sharing, always giving back what he needs. An
immense measure of trust is built between the two: the fledgling must trust his
Master completely in order to give him so much of himself and the Master must
trust the fledgling in order for him to
accept it.
"Training" of the fledgling is just the process of learning what the
Master desires. The fledgling must learn when to kneel, how to sit to please his
Master, how to address his Master, and so on, as much as the Master deems
necessary. He does these things because he wants to: he aims to please his
Master in all ways possible. Even the most "bratty: fledgling comes to
know just what is expected of him and what his Master's limits are. He may in
play push him so far, but to exceed that limit, would be to displease his
Master, something all fledglings attempt to avoid.
The fledgling seemingly has no responsibilities, but a deeper observation shows
otherwise. It could be said, and has been said by many, that the Master holds
all the responsibilities: however, many of the fledglings
responsibilities are subtle enough to be overlooked. Of course, as mentioned
above, an extremely important one is to please his Master. Perhaps more
important, however, is the amount of faith the fledgling must have in his
Master. He must believe and trust that what he does if for the good of all
concerned and learn to NEVER question his motives. If he orders him to do
something, he will do so happily, and without embarrassment, because that is
what his Master wants. He will not harbor any sentiments or guilt from this
action. He trust that his Master knows what is bet for
them both.
As I said before, this is MY definition of the Master, fledgling relationship
and it is only with that knowledge that I embark on the topic of "safewords". I feel that there are no
need for safewords if the fledgling truly
trust the Master and the Master truly knows the fledgling. The Master may
understand that the fledgling can go farther that he thought and, without the
use of safewords, he is able to take him there. If,
however, a safeword is used and the Master does not
heed the fledgling's perceived limit, than an important trust is broken. Of course, in a new relationship. it
must be taken slowly, so that the trust and understanding are able to grow.
With perseverance, however, the two can reach a point where the Master knows
how far the fledgling can physically, emotionally, and spiritually go and the
fledgling can trust his Master's decisions.
The fledgling is a wonderful role to live with the right Master. With him, he
will grow emotionally and spiritually into his soul. He will become what he is
deep within, and learn to love freely and unconditionally. The Master also
becomes the man he feels within his soul and the two embark on a journey that
will take them out of the realms and limits of society and into the timeless
dimensions of the universe.