My name is Vivien and I'm a newly out Lesbian. "Better Late than Never!" Unlike most Lesbians coming out later in life; I didn't have an interest in women until I was 38 years old.
I stayed very far away emotionally and physically from any Lesbian until I was 38. I have had many gay male friends, but was always afraid of being around Lesbians. Looking back, it's really not that hard to understand why I was so afraid of being around gay women.
I grew up in San Francisco and went to Lowell High School. Even growing up in San Francisco, any deviation of preference as a teenager made you an out cast. I remember an assembly at Lowell High School where the gays speaking were booed and called hideous names. I remember consoling a friend who was really upset about the event. Although, at the time, I couldn't understand his stance "on free-speech".
I applaud the gay youth around the country. To stand up and be different (from the mold you are cast ) is not an easy thing to do; even in the San Francisco Bay Area.
I went on to U.C. Berkeley. I have lived in the East Bay (where the sun actually shines) since 1975.
I married in 1979 and had my first child in my senior year of college. I have three sons, 19, 17, and 13.
The children are readjusting to their mom being a lesbian. Mostly, the older teenagers want to keep me in the closet. But I'm hoping they will eventually they will let go of their homophobia and meet other children who have same sex parents.
There is a really good video which is only ten minutes long which is called "Both My Moms Are Named Judy". It focuses on the child's perspective.
In 1988, I decided to go to law school. I attended John F. Kennedy School of Law at night and worked full time. When I came to the realization there just wasn't enough time in the day to go to work, take care of three children as a single mother, and go to school and study for school. I decided to only be a mother and student!!! Otherwise, I was going to die of exhaustion, and who knows what else.
I finished law school in June of 1993. Although I have taken the Bar Exam twice I have not passed the exam successfully.
I enjoy meeting new friends, dancing, shooting pool and going to events. I have a passion for for IRC -- Internet Relay Chat!!!
I hang out in such rooms as #Leschat and #Lesfriends. My friends have accepted the fact that I'm a computer geek. And I believe they forgive me because I do venture out of the house...
I have made some wonderful friends at the Rainbow Community Center in Pleasant Hill. Here, I have been able to openly communicate with other lesbian mothers and their partners on wonders and woes of bringing up children. The children have a chance to meet other children of same sex parents. The parenting group meets every 2nd and 4th Thursday each month at 7:00pm.
Along with social events the Rainbow Community Center Parenting Group meets to raise the consciousness of the community educating ourselves and those around us!!! Hope to see you there soon!!!
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