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Co-Dependent
Controller
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(TCP=That Certain Person)
(TCP=That Certain Person)
For how controllers use conspiracy theories:
http://www.acts17-11.com/conspire_sum.html
For control in the home and church:
http://www.watchman.ca/spiritcontrol.com
Signs of Abuse:
http://wwww.bigpages.com/lifeskills/signs.html
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Truth must not be sacrificed for mercy;
and vice-versa.
divorced over religious differences.
He thought he was God and I didn't."
You may create lots of splashes in your life but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures," he said.
"Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles. You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both."
That was the first time I realized each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life.
I am convinced that 99 percent of us are addicted to something, whether it's eating, shopping, blaming, or taking care of other people. The simplest definition of an addiction is anything we use to fill the empty place inside of us that belongs to God alone.
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Recommended Reading
General Reading
Christian Reading
Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie
Facing Codependency:
What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
Toxic Parents and Their Hurtful Legacy by Dr.Susan Forward
Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw
Beyond Therapy, Beyond Science by Anne Wilson Schaef
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Please Don't Say You Need Me:Biblical Answers for Codependency
by Jan Silvious (Note: This is probably the best Christian book we've seen on this vital subject)
Learning To Say No Without Feeling Guilty by Roberts Liardon
The Burden of Freedom by Miles E. Munroe
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