Hey!, Wanna See Some Sin?
"Cry aloud, spare not, lift up your voice like a trumpet and show my people their transgressions and . . . their sins." Isa. 58:1
The Sex Sins
1. Adultery and Fornication:
Number of Americans involved
Definitions
Details and sources
The cost of sexual sins
Where to get help and more information
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Number of Americans involved:
(annually unless noted otherwise)
1.a. Adultery and fornication: 10,244,000 (annually)
Married committing adultery: 3,500,000
Adult males who have used prostitutes: 70,000,000
(at least once)
Adult males who frequent prostitutes: 15,000,000
Unmarried cohabitation: 8,500,000
1.b. Polyamory, (wife swapping, swinging, hedonism, sex parties, sex clubs,
swing parties, multiple partners, open marriages) --more than 10,000,000Women (who consider sex with strangers appealing) 10,804,563
Women (who consider group sex appealing) 9,724,107
2. Female prostitutes:(ages 15-up) 1,874,658
( includes one-timers)
3. Male prostitutes: 937,329
4. Child prostitutes: (under age 16) 600,000 (1981)
Male prostitutes (under age 16) 300,000
5. Pre-teen and teen sex, unmarried: 13,308,675 (ages 5-17)
Unwed teen pregnancy: 790,000
6. Total rapes: (est.) 683,000
Children raped: 113,333
Date rapes: 217,000 to 465,000
(variation due to under-reporting).
Wives raped by husbands: 71,030
Males who are raped (non-prison) 32,700
Males who are raped (prison)
According to prison officials 0 to 50 per yr., per state -- 0 to 2,500
Est. totals based on small scale studies 3% to 22%: -- 53,319 to 391,008 (victims)
According to guards 20% - 355,462 (victims)
According to prisoners -- 1,066,380 to 7,820,160 (rapes/year)
(includes gang rapes and repetitive raping of "sex slaves")
7. Child molestation, total : 17,529,000 to 59,529,000
(variation due to under-reporting).
Girls under age 14: 7,500,000
Girls under age 19: 13,150,000
Boys under age 19: 4,379,000 to 13,150,000
(estimated due to under-reporting).
Incest victims, girls: 28,000,000
(estimated due to under-reporting).
Incest victims, boys: 14,000,000
(estimated due to under-reporting).
Children ages 4 to 7: 41,580
Child abuse claims (against all churches) 3,640
(ave. 70/wk) (known to be considerably underreported)
Current claims in litigation (Catholic only) 400-500 (est., 1992)8. Human trafficking in USA (sexual slavery): 50,000
(imported each year)
9. Americans taking sex tours abroad: (est. to be in the thousands).10. Brothels, houses of prostitution (legal) 34
(legal in Nevada only)11. Brothels (illegal) ("incall") (several thousand) (total to be included later)
(illegal, but often pretending to be a legal business, escort, massage, bar, etc.)12. Women committing rape and sexual abuse:
(est. in the thousands)(These are acts by women against men, against male and females teens, against male and female pre-teens, and by teen girls and preteen girls against boys younger than themselves. Most are not reported.)
13. Sex addiction: 14,000,000
14. Pornography and Lust
Visits to sex oriented web pages (per month) 22,900,000 (people)
Pornographic magazines purchased each year in U.S. (est.) 250,000,000 (magazines)
Pornographic video rentals each year in U.S. 1,000,000,000 (approx.)
Men who have viewed porn videos (35% of all men) 35,347,900
Women who have viewed porn videos (20% of all women) 21,626,800
Internet users online to view porn (35% of all users) 50,050,000 (2001)Strip clubs (dozens in most major cities, several in most minor cities) (total to be included later)
15. Self gratification (masturbation)
(There is much debate, even within the religious communities, over whether this is a sin or not. In most cases there is probably an overlap with porn and/or lust, and the sin of lust is being committed.
Technically, married intercourse could be described as a form of mutual masturbation which would not be sin.
Any intercourse, even married, without love would be a "selfish" gratification and could meet the definition of sin. Therefore we are including the following statistics, without judgment, and for informational purposes only.)Teenage males who masturbate (50%) 9,983,260
Teenage females who masturbate (25%) 5,195,370
Adult males who masturbate (25%) 25,248,590
Adult females who masturbate (8%) 8,650,698
Married men (15%) 11,820,000
Married women (5%) 3,940,000http://www.sxmd.com/cgi-bin/sx.cgi?T13
http://factfinder.census.gov/servlet/BasicFactsServlet?_lang=en
16. Homosexuality and Lesbianism:
Homosexuals and Lesbians (est. 10% of pop.) 20,912,809 (18 and over)
Bisexual (est. 33% of pop.) 69,012,240 (18 and over)
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Definitions:
All adultery is by definition, fornication. In the Greek, fornication, or porneia, includes adultery and incest. Christ explained that adultery also includes lust and lasciviousness.
"You have heard that it was said by them of old time, You shall not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart." (Mat. 5:27-28)The Greek words shown below are from the teachings of Christ, the apostles and the writers of the New Testament. The Hebrew words are from God, the prophets and the writers of the Old Testament. The scriptures are given where these words are used and show the context.
adultery: [Strong's 3431] Greek, moicheuo - to commit adultery. (Mat. 5:27-28)
Dictionary definition - sex between a married person and someone other than his/her spouse.
Hebrew - 5003, na'aph - to commit adultery, fig. to apostatize (Ex.20:14)
fornication: 4202, Gk. porneia - harlotry (includes adultery and incest); fig. idolatry. (Gal. 5:19).
Dict. - sex between two persons not married to each other.
Heb. 2181, zanah, to commit adultery, fig. commit idolatry (Eze. 16:26).lust: 1937, Gk. epithumeo, to set the heart upon, i.e. long for: covet, desire, lust after. (Mat. 5:28).
Dict. - usually intense or unbridled sexual desire, an intense longing, lasciviousness
Heb.2530, chamad, to delight in , covet, desire, lust, (Pro. 6:25, also Pro. 5:1-6:35).
Also Job 31:9-12.whoremonger: 4205, Gk. pornos, a (male) prostitute, i.e. (by anal.) a debauchee (libertine): fornicator, whoremonger. (Eph. 5:5; Rev. 21:8, 22:15).
Dict. - (whoremaster) a man consorting with whores or given to lechery.
- lechery - inordinate indulgence in sexual activity : lasciviousness.
A person who has sex with multiple partners.
"Lord give me chastity - but not yet." -- Saint Augustinewhoredoms: Heb. 2184, zenuwth, adultery, (fig.) idolatry, infidelity. (Num. 14:33).
whore: Heb. 2184, zenuwth, adultery, i.e. (fig.) infidelity, idolatry, whoredom. (Jer. 3:1-3).
Dict. - a woman who engages in sexual acts for money : prostitute; a promiscuous or immoral woman; a male who engages in sexual acts for money, a gigolo.
lasciviousness: 766, Gk. aselgeia - licentiousness, (sometimes including other vices); filthy, lasciviousness, wantonness. (Gal. 5:19).
Dict. - lewd; lustful; exciting sensual emotions.
In other words, the use of words or actions to incite lust in others (e.g. by songs, dress, behavior, lewd dancing, nudism, performances, etc.). This would include prostitution, fornication, hedonism, pornography. Also, the use of any means to incite these feelings in oneself.inordinate affection: 3806 pathos, prop. suffering, (subj.) a passion: lust (Col. 3:5).
evil concupiscence: 1939 epithumia, a longing (esp. for what is forbidden): concupiscence, desire, lust (after). (Col. 3:5).sexual addiction:
A condition characterized by excessive preoccupation with sex that creates a compulsive search for a sexual stimulation, the compulsion to have sex no matter the cost or risk, and a feeling of utter hopelessness and an inability to control one's own compulsion
http://www.sexualcounselling.com/Glossary/Glossarya.htm
rape:
Dict. -- a: sexual intercourse with a woman by a man without her consent and chiefly by force or deception, b: unlawful sexual intercourse by force or threat other than by a man with a woman [i.e. men raping men, women raping women, women raping men].
"But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die:
But unto the damsel you shall do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man rises against his neighbour, and slays him, even so is this matter:
For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her."
(Deu. 22:25-27)
Note that God considers rape equal to murder and prescribed the death penalty for it.force, 2388, Heb. chazaq, to fasten upon; hence to seize, to bind , restrain.
lie, 7901, Heb. shakab, to lie down (for sex, or any other reason)
If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. (Deu. 22:28-29)
hold, 8610, Heb. taphas, to manipulate, i.e. seize; to captureDict.- manipulate -- to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means especially to one's own advantage
found 4672, Heb. matsa, prop. to come forth, i.e. to appear or exist; fig. to occur; catch.
lie, 7901, (same as above)Note in this case the clause, "they be found [out]" or be "discovered", indicating that while the man "manipulated" the events or forced a seduction, the woman was a willing party to the secrecy and did not resist, say "no" or "cry out" as in the first example.
incest:
"None of you shall have sex with a close relative." Lev. 18:6, paraphrased.
Close relatives include parents, step-parents, siblings, step-siblings, children, grandchildren, aunts, uncles, and "in-laws" (anyone related to you by marriage), Lev. 18:6-18.
Also Lev. 20:11-12, 14, 17, 19-21; Deu. 22:30, 27:20, 22-23; Eze 22:10-11; 1 Cor. 5:1.
homosexuality and lesbianism:
"You [men] shall not lie [have sex] with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination." Lev. 18:22.
"If a man also lie [have sex] with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them." Lev. 20:13.
"Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet." Rom. 1:24, 26-27.
Also Gen. 19:5-8; Judg. 19:19-30; 1 Kings 14:24, 15:12, 22:46, 23:7; 1 Cor. 6:9-10; Deu. 23;17-18.[Note: This entry is quoted without any editorializing. If this entry causes any offense, please take it up with the One who declared it to be an "abomination" (Heb. 8441, to'ebah, "disgusting") and don't bother to flame the editors, as we are simply passing on the message, not acting as judges.]
"Several major studies have indicated that up to 10% of the population are primarily or exclusively gay or lesbian. And up to one-third of the population may be bisexual."
http://healthydevil.studentaffairs.duke.edu/info/sex/gay.html
The 2000 Census shows a population of 209,128,094 adults ages 18 and over. This would mean that there are 20,912,809 gays and lesbians and 69,012,240 who are bisexual. These numbers could be underreported due to those who have not "come out" or because homosexual acts are still illegal in some states, or they could be overly exaggerated due to favorable predjudice by those who conducted the studies.
beastiality, zoophilia:
"Neither shall you lie [have sex] with any beast to defile yourself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion [Heb. mixture, unnatural]." Lev. 18:23.
"Whosoever lieth with a beast shall surely be put to death." Ex. 22:19.
Also Lev. 20:15-16; Deu. 27:21.
other "alternative" sexual practices:
Some "alternative activities" listed on an internet web site for BDSM personals, advertising 3,775 members:
Erotic email exchange
Phone fantasies
Performing only (little/no contact)
Watching only (little/no contact)
Active participation
age play
a-- (anal) play
asphyxiaphilia (breath play)
blindfolds
blood (menstrual)
body hair
bondage
branding
breast torture
caging
candle wax
chastity devices
chains
chinese balls
cling film
(male genitals) torture
collar and lead
crossdressing
cupping (suction of the skin)
coprophilia (excrement play)
diaper fetishes
discipline
dildos
domination (and submission)
douching/enema, klismaphilia
exhibitionism
electrotorture
feathers
fisting (in penetration)
gangbangs
handcuffs/shackles
hair pulling
high heels
knife play
lace
latex
leather
masks
masochism (receiving pain)
masturbation
nipples
nurse/doctor fetish
oral fixation
pain
paddling/spanking
play piercing
play rape
piercings
power exchange
the rack (torture or play)
religious (nunplay, priestplay)
shaving
shoes or boots
rimming (anal)
roleplaying
rubber
sadism (giving pain)
scent
slave/master
tongue fetish
"toys"
transvestism (cross-dressing)
watersports (urine), urophilia
vibrators
voyerism
whipsAdditional "alternative interests" not shown in this list (perhaps because of illegality and active prosecution by authorities) but easily found on the Internet, include:
-prepubescent children (including preteens, toddlers and infants), pedophila or paraphilia
-ephebophilia (sexual attraction toward teenagers and adolescents)
-beastiality (sex with animals), zoophilia, (dogs, horses, cows, sheep, pigs, snakes, monkeys)
-necrophilia (sex and death, real or fantasy)
-telephone scatologia, (obscene phone calls)
-transsexuals (sex change)
-Frotteurism (rubbing up against a stranger in a public place)
-fetishism (using objects for sexual pleasure)
-paraphilia (unusual form of fantasy and/or stimulation)
A sexual behavior characterized by intense recurrent sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies lasting at least 6 months and involving nonhuman objects or parts of human objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner, or children or other nonconsenting individuals.
-upskirt videotaping (using a hidden camera , such as in a bag, to film up women's skirts in public places)
-zoosadism--Dependence on inflicting pain on animals to derive sexual arousa
More "alternative interests":
-bi-sexuality -- "Bisexuality refers to a state of being in which an individual is able to be attracted to members of either sex. It does not require equal attraction to both, gender-blindness, or nonmonogamy, though it can include all of these. An alternative expression that can be used as an identification is pansensuality, which does not require a partner, an 'other' to define itself upon, but rather defines by looking at the individual's sexuality. . . . Basically, bisexual people have the capacity for attraction of some degree to members of either sex. They may wish to express this by marrying 'heterosexually', or having a 'homosexual' partner; by being a member of a group marriage, or single;. . ."
http://www.csun.edu/~hbant024/bi.html
-asphyxiophilia--A sexual preference for activities that involve oxygen deprivation.
-autoerotic asphyxia--A form of sexual behavior in which the individual masturbates while depriving him or herself of oxygen through hanging, strangulation, or other means. This activity is incredibly dangerous and causes many inadvertent deaths each year.-cybersex--Using a computer in some way to enhance sexual stimulation
-fetishistic transvestism--A paraphilia in which a man becomes sexually excited by cross-dressing. This is in contrast to non-fetishistic transvestism, in which the motivation is not sexual excitement.
-partialism--A fetish in which a person is sexually attracted to a specific body part exclusive of the person
-sadomasochism (S&M)--A popular, nonclinical term for behaviors that involve both sexual sadism as well as masochism, often in a consensual, role-playing manner
-satyriasis--A pejorative, unscientific term that is used to refer to sexual behavior or desire in men that is considered "excessive" or "abnormal.". It is the male analogue of the more common term "nymphomania."-sexual harassment--The use of status and/or power for sexual ends
How much sex?
How much sex is on the Internet? For the word "sex", Google yielded 79,900,000 sites out of 2,073,418,204 web pages. That equals 3.8% or about one out of every 27 sites. By comparison "God" yielded only 31.6 million, or less than half as many, and "religion" only 12.3 million.
Granted, some of these "sex" pages contain health, educational or anti-porn material (for instance, this page). And some of those pages referring to "God" or "religion" are neither reverent nor religious. But according to the people who track such things, porn is the largest and most popular subject on the Internet.One estimate is that there are 30,000 porn sites on the Internet.
Sex Sites and Self-Regulation (1998)
http://www.wired.com/news/politics/0,1283,14315,00.htmlLog-On Data Corporation reports that there are 72,000 sexually explicit sites on the Internet, and that an estimated 266 new porn sites are added every day; August, 1997 survey.
http://www.saveright.com/tru.htm
David Burt, a spokesman for the N2H2 filtering software company, said they have documented a 350 percent increase in pornography this past year."We filter about four million sites, and about 300,000 of them are pornography sites," Burt said.
Number of Internet Porn Sites, Victims Rising, February 28, 2002
http://www.family.org/cforum/fnif/news/a0019869.html
". . . Net Ratings, tracks the number of visitors to porn Web sites. It says that in April 2001, there were 22.9 million unique visitors to porn sites.
Porn business on the Internet alone is estimated to be in excess of $1 billion. But many sites are free or have free pages.
How Big Is Porn?, Dan Ackman, 05.25.01
http://www.forbes.com/2001/05/25/0524porn.html
Note that this report says 22.9 million visitors per month, not per year!A search on Google for "pictures of naked women" yielded 339,000 sites. Of the first 300 listings, only 6, or 2%, were not offering porn. That indicates more than 332,000 are porn sites. A search for "naked teens" yielded 63,100, and "nude males" resulted in 28,700. "Animal sex" yielded 114,000 sites.
A search on Alta Vista yielded 7,320,366 results for "God", 11,353,488 results for "sex" and 4,844,710 results for "porn".
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Details and sources
1.a. Adultery and Fornication:
In 1990, the Kinsey Institute of Sex Research estimated that 37% of all married men and 29% of all married women had been unfaithful to their mates. According to a recent survey 3,500,000 wives are at risk of contracting AIDS or other sexually transmitted disease because their husbands are secretly having sex with others. Some estimates go as high as 60% for both sexes, to be unfaithful at least once. One study indicates 80% of males and 50% of females cheat on their mates. So various studies estimate that from 60% to 65% of all married people commit adultery.
Based on the 2000 census estimate, that means as many as 10,244,000 people are committing adultery.[The 2000 census estimated 157,600,000 men and women over age 15 are married.]
Kinsey also estimated that 70% of adult men have had sex with a prostitute at least once.
http://www.bayswan.org/stats.htmlWith an estimated 100,000,000 adult males, that means 70,000,000 have been to a prostitute at least once.
Unmarried cohabitation:
According to the 1998 US Census, there were 8,500,000 unmarried Americans living with an opposite sex partner. Some are in a temporary stage, on their way to marriage. Some are in a long-term, committed relationship, basically "married" but without the paperwork. Some are just "shacked up" for the purpose of sex or companionship or some other physical advantage, until one or both tires of the relationship or until something or someone "better" comes along. Of course, some view marriage no differently, except for having the license. People became husband and wife long before the paperwork or licenses were invented (Adam and Eve, etc.) But sex without the long-term commitment of being a family (in the sense of being husband and wife) is adultery or fornication or both.
1.b. Polyamory --Wife swapping, swinging, the "lifestyle", "adult lifestyles", hedonism, sex parties, sex clubs, etc, or any "organized recreational sex amongst mixed-gender couples as a social activity."[One internet web site advertises, "We're the largest adult personals and swingers directory with over 10,000,000 registered members . . ."]
One "club" claims "4000 registered members" in the Philadelphia area, and offers franchises which, they say, will earn owners "over $1 million per year".
An alt.FAQ newsgroups site lists ten regional organizations, in six of the largest US cities, that "support the rights of sex workers to organize on their own behalf, work safely and without legal repression, travel without legal restrictions, have families and raise children, and enjoy the same rights, responsibilities, and privileges as other people."
" . . . works for the rights of all sex workers: strippers, phone operators, prostitutes, porn stars, etc. of all genders and persuasions. Supports programs to assist sex workers in their choice to change their occupation, works to prevent the scapegoating of sex workers for AIDS and other STDs, and to educate sex workers, their clients and the general public about safe sex."
What is Swinging?"Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships.
Swinging (otherwise known as "the lifestyle") can take a variety of different forms. Although single women are generally welcome at swinging events, the degree to which single men are accepted varies from club to club. Although female bisexuality is generally accepted in the swinging community, the degree to which male bisexuality is accepted also varies from club to club. Swing clubs can be "on-premises" (which means that one may interact sexually with others at that event) or "off-premises" (which means that one would generally go back to the home or hotel room of other couples for sex, after deciding to do so at the event). Newspapers and magazines which carry personal ads for swingers also exist, and to a slightly lesser degree these publications may also be considered an aspect of "the lifestyle." Swingers have traditionally been largely middle class and tend to blend in quite easily with the general population in terms of appearance and ideology."
http://www.sexuality.org/mgswing.html
" . . . an umbrella organization called the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) lists 326 clubs in the U.S.As far as anyone knows (5), swinging (as this community exists today, in the United States) had its roots amongst an elite group of U.S. Air Force fighter pilots during World War II. These men were wealthy enough to move their wives close to base, and the fact that their fatality rate was the highest of any branch of service led to an unusual social milieu in which non-monogamy between these pilots' wives and other pilots became acceptable.(6) These arrangements persisted near Air Force bases throughout World War II and into the Korean War.
By the time the Korean War ended, these groups (7) had spread from the bases to the nearby suburbs. The media picked up on them in 1957 and promptly dubbed the phenomenon "wife-swapping.'' (8) Although the media didn't treat this new phenomenon respectfully, the public's response made it clear that they wanted to hear more. By 1960, there were over 20 widely-available magazines which carried ``swinger'' ads. (9) These magazines provided a medium through which the first swinger parties could advertise themselves, and the first permanent clubs began appearing in the late 1960's.(10)
Organized swinging outside California was originally all "off-premises.'' (11) This was also true for New York until the legendary on-premises club "Plato's Retreat'' was founded (12); in the South, Midwest, and Northwest, dances (13) remained the most popular form of off-premises swinging. All of these clubs were completely independent entities and there were no national gatherings.
Dr. Robert McGinley founded the Lifestyles Organization in 1975, through which he began hosting the first national Lifestyles Conventions (14) along with his first efforts to improve the public image of swinging. (15) He subsequently founded the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) in 1979, with the intent that NASCA serve as a trade and standards organization for swing club owners."
". . . by 1980, attendance at these conventions would top 1000."
"The number of NASCA-affiliated swing clubs doubled to 300 between 1987 and 1997 [13]. There are also thousands of unaffiliated clubs and at least eleven major conventions each year. Attendance at the largest convention (Lifestyles) topped 3500 in 1996 [9]."
"The swinger's community continued to grow throughout the 1980's and 1990's (16), and is currently enjoying an upsurge of interest and growth.(17) Although single women are almost always welcome at today's swinging events, the degree to which single men are accepted varies from club to club. Although female bisexuality is common in the swing community, male bisexual activity is still almost non-existent at swing events.
Estimates of the prevalence of swinging amongst U.S. couples range from 0.5% [18] to 2% [13]. This is roughly consistent with McGinley's total estimate of 3,000,000 (see [9] and [14]).One 1974 study found a prevalence of 1.7% amongst their (regionally limited) sample, but found that 6.7% of their sample "would participate if the opportunity presented itself'' [4], and a later study [20] found that 19% of males and 14% of females in their sample sometimes fantasized about group sex during intercourse.(30)"
http://www.sexuality.org/swinging.html
Sources:
5 Defense Security Service (2000). ``Information about specific sexual practices.'' Adjudicative Desk Reference, http://www.dss.mil/training/adr/sexbeh/sexT2.htm
6 Dixon, Joan K. (1984). ``The commencement of bisexual activity in swinging married women over age thirty.'' The Journal of Sex Research, 20 (1): 71-90.
7 Easton, Dossie, and Catherine A. Liszt (1998). The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Emeryville, CA: Greenery Press.
8 Gilmartin, Brian G. (1978). The Gilmartin Report. Secaucus, NJ: Citadel.
9 Gould, Terry (2000). The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers. Westport, CT: Firefly Books.
10 Greenberg, Jerrold S., Clint E. Bruess, and Debra W. Haffner (2000). Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality. Sudbury, MA: Jones and Bartlett.
11 Klein, Marty (2000). ``Pheonix orgies -- gay only, please.'' Sexual Intelligence, Issue 2. http://www.sexed.org/newsletters/issue02.html
12 Jenks, Richard J. (1985). ``Swinging: A replication and test of a theory.'' The Journal of Sex Research, 21 (2): 199-205.
13 Jenks, Richard J. (1998). ``Swinging: A review of the literature.'' Archives of Sexual Behavior, 27 (5): 507-521.
14 The Lifestyle: Swinging in America (1999). Directed by David Schisgall. Fox Lorber Films. DVD.
15 Michael, Robert T., John H. Gagnon, Edward O. Laumann, and Gina Kolata (1995). Sex in America: A Definitive Survey. New York: Warner Books [also known as the National Health and Social Life Survey -- please see http://www.norc.uchicago.edu/faqs/sex.htm for more information and a link to their dataset].
16 NASCA International (2000). International Directory: Swing Clubs, Publications & Events. Buena Park, CA: LSO, Ltd.
17 Queen, Carol (1995). Exhibitionism for the Shy. San Francisco, CA: Down There Press.
30 The 14% figure also seems consistent with a more rigorous 1992 study (which, unlike every other study referenced or mentioned in this article, was designed to be statistically representative of the entire non-incarcerated and non-homeless 18-59 year-old population in America during 1992) that discovered 10% of women aged 18-44 ``found the thought of sex with a stranger appealing'' and 9% of women aged 18-44 ``found the thought of group sex appealing.'' [15]
Using the 2000 Census, this means 10,804,563 women "found the thought of sex with a stranger appealing" and 9,724,107 "found the thought of group sex appealing".
Swinging versus Polyamory?
"There is an increasing amount of crossover between poly communities and swing communities, and every participant and local community is different. What follows is my best attempt to characterize some general tendencies that (in my observation, and at this point in time) seem to distinguish these two communities. These are my personal observations and characterizations of general tendencies that I have noticed locally, they [are] not rules, and there are always exceptions.In my experience, it is the swing community's emphasis on sex as a social and recreational activity between couples, together with the paramount importance they place on protecting the existing relationship within each participating couple, that distinguishes it from the poly cultures I have encountered.
Forming "triads,'' "quartets,'' or any other arrangement where the new relationship bonds are of the same strength and priority as one's primary relationship, is common in the poly community but rare in the swing community. Likewise, regular participation in group sex is a fundamental characteristic of the swing community that is comparatively rare in the poly community. Finally, some of the modern poly community's current cultural influences (i.e. internet culture, science fiction conventions and fandom, the SCA, and neo-paganism) have far less prominence in the swing community."
http://www.sexuality.org/swinging.html
2. Female Prostitutes:
" Back in the 1800's it was legal and socially accepted--doctors were even assigned to counties to check them for venereal diseases. This changed with the Mann Act in 1910, which gave it huge penalties. Consequently, this act started a rampage of illegalization. Prostitution was strictly prohibited almost everywhere in the country by the 1920's. Today, it is illegal in 49 of the 50 states, with Nevada being the exception."
http://www.inform.umd.edu/SCHOLAR/ac/papers97/Cugini-ac1.html
"Prostitution has been organized according to similar principles across different times and cultures. At the bottom we find street prostitution, followed by brothels, bars and clubs. Call girls and escort agencies occupy the middle to high slots, and kept women the top rungs. Higher end prostitutes are better looking, younger, and healthier; charge more per client and spend more time with each."
http://216.239.35.100/search?q=cache:B5YJE2UG1dYC:www.iies.su.se/seminars/pa
pers/Edlund.pdf+%22cost+of+prostitution%22&hl=en
As of 1987, the National Task Force on Prostitution estimated that over 1,000,000 people, or 1% of all women, have worked as prostitutes in the United States. (It is not known if this number includes male or child prostitutes.) Most, if not all large cities have public telephone listings for "escorts", "massage", "dating services", or "modeling" services which privately offer sex for sale. In Nevada, prostitution is legal.
The U.S. Department of Health consistently reports that 3%-5% of all STDs in this country are related to prostitution.
(Source: Prostitution in the United States-The Statistics, http://www.bayswan.org/stats.html)
The 1992 National Health and Social Life Survey (NHSLS) found that about 2 percent of American women had ever sold sex (Laumann [31]).
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31 Edward O. Laumann, John H. Gagnon, Robert T. Michael, and Stuart Michael. The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States. Chicago University Press, Chicago, 1994
Using the 2000 Census, that translates to 1,874,658 women.
Brothels ("incall") versus street walking and other methods (e.g. "outcall"):
"The ratio of on-street prostitution to off-street (sauna, massage parlor, in call-outcall escort) varies in cities depending on local law, policy and custom. Whereas street prostitution accounts for between 10 to 20% of the prostitution in larger cities such as Los Angeles, San Francisco and New York, (3) in some smaller cities with limited indoor venues (or when indoor venues are closed down) street prostitution may account for approximately 50%.(4)"http://www.bayswan.org/stats.html
1 Priscilla Alexander, Prostitution: A Difficult Issue For Feminists, (in Frederique Delacoste and Priscilla Alexander, Sex Work: Writings by Women in the Sex Industry, San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1987.)
3 op cit., Prostitution: A Difficult Issue For Feminists.
4 In the early 1980s, after the closure of massage parlors, street prostitution escalated to comprise a majority of the prostitution in Portland, Oregon (based on first hand accounts by local service providers and prostitutes).
The National Task Force on Prostitution estimates that about 69% of males have, at one time or another, patronized a prostitute and 15% were frequent customers.
http://www.inform.umd.edu/SCHOLAR/ac/papers97/Cugini-ac1.html
3. Male Prostitutes:
Estimates in some larger cities suggest 20-30% of prostitutes are male.
In San Francisco, approximately 25% of "female" prostitutes are transgender (males changing their gender).
http://www.bayswan.org/stats.html"There are at least 300,000 male prostitutes under age 16."
Schetky, Diane H. "Child Pornography and Prostitution", Child Sexual Abuse, Brunner/Mazel, 1988
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One study found that 78% of adult prostitutes began prostitution as juveniles: 60% were16 years of age and under, and some were as young as 10.
Most children enter prostitution at the age of 14.
- 60% of child prostitutes are first recruited by peers
- 96% of prostitutes who began committing prostitution as juveniles were runaways. Most stated they had no other option for making money
- 27% of juvenile male prostitutes are involved in the pornography industry.
- 76% of prostitutes in one study came from families that regularly attended church.
- 2/3 of prostitutes in one study were from families of average or high income
4. Child Prostitution:
" End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography, and the Trafficking of Children for Sexual Exploitation (ECPAT) has estimated that there are between 100,000 and 300,000 children sexually exploited through prostitution and pornography in the United States.
(Source: End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography, and the Trafficking of Children for Sexual Exploitation (ECPAT), Europe and North America Regional Profile, issued by the World Congress Against Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children, held in Stockholm, Sweden, August 1996, p.70.)""Prostitution is a seasonal problem. It is most prevalent during the warmer months and in cities with warmer climates. During the peak seasons for prostitution in the larger cities throughout the United States, there can be as many as 500 prostitutes on the streets.
At least 25-30 percent of those prostitutes are children younger than 18."
(Source: Haggarty, Joe. Material presented at the Prostitution and Related Offenses Workshop on October 15, 1997, at the Metropolitan Police Department Training Center, Washington, DC. )Child prostitution is the most overlooked form of child abuse in the United States and the public attitude towards it needs to change. There are currently no state agencies charged with identifying and investigating juvenile prostitution and recording its existence. It is often treated as a nuisance crime by local law enforcement. There is also the misconception that juvenile prostitutes are willing participants in their own victimization.
Many prostitutes especially those between the ages of 14 and 17 can make $500-600 dollars a night. This money is often used to bail their pimps out of jail. Child prostitutes rarely see more than a $25 dollar allowance from their earnings.
(Source: Ladda Saikaew. The Report on Child Prostitution as a Form of Forced Labor: A Non-Governmental Organization Perspective. Reprinted with permission of the Bureau of International Labor Affairs of the U.S. Department of Labor. http://www.labor.gov. Office of Publications, Department of Labor, 200 Constitution Avenue, Northwest, Washington, DC 20001.)http://www.missingkids.com/html/ncmec_default_ec_prost_background.html
In 1981, the General Accounting Office estimated that there were 600,000 children under the age of 16 working as prostitutes in the United States.http://childrenofthenight.org/site/faq.html
5. Teen Sex:
Of all girls under the age of 15, one out of five have had sex, or 4,020,000. Among the boys under the age of 15, 30% have had sex, or 6,150,000.
More than one of every four teens has sex by age 15. More than one half of all teens have have sex by age 17. By age 19, the total is nearly 80%.
(Sources: 1995 National Survey of Family Growth and 1995 National Survey of Adolescent Males)
This means that 1,025,000 teens who are age 15 have had sex. By age 17, the total is 56% or 2,128,000.
Based on the 1995 survey and the 2000 census then, of all children ages 5 to 17, 28.5% or 13,308,675 have had sex."While 93% of teenage women report that their first intercourse was voluntary, one-quarter of these young women report that it was unwanted."
( Moore KA et al., A Statistical Portrait of Adolescent Sex, Contraception, and Childbearing, Washington, DC: National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, 1998, p. 11.)
http://www.agi-usa.org/pubs/fb_teen_sex.html
Unwed teen pregnancy:
"Every year, approximately 1,000,000 teenage girls become pregnant in the US. This includes about 40% of all females under the age of 20. Eighty percent or 800,000 of these are unintended pregnancies, and 790,000 are unwed at the time of birth or of termination.
These numbers are for the age group 15-19. In 1998, there were an additional 9,462 births to girls ages 10-14."The number of abortions and miscarriages in this group was not found.
"In California, which has the second highest rate in the US, 50% of these pregnancies results in a live birth, 36% are terminated by abortion, and 14% end in a miscarriage. Approximately 20% of California teens will have more than one teen-aged pregnancy.
Studies have shown that approximately 1,000,000 additonal teen pregnancies are prevented each year by the use of contraceptives.
Babies born to teenagers are more likely to face poverty, health problems, problems in school, and to have babies themselves as teenagers. One third of pregnant teens receive inadequate prenatal care, and their babies are more likely to be low birth-weight, have health problems and require hospitalizaton that those born to older mothers. These babies are at greater risk of abuse and neglect. The health problems include mental retardation, blindness, deafness, mental illness, cerebral palsy and infant death.
Nearly 80% of teen mothers go on welfare. In California, 74.7 % of deliveries are paid for by the state. Nationally, the cost of teen pregnancies is estimated at $7,000,000,000 or $7 billion dollars.
The costs do not reflect the abandoned careers and goals, the lost productivity, family problems and alienation, psychological problems, and other complications, such as smoking, drug and alcohol use. Two-thirds of all teen mothers do not complete high school. Sons of teen mothers are 13% more likely to serve time in prison. Daughters are 22% more likely to become teen mothers themselves.
Among the fathers of teen pregnancies, 80% do not marry the mother. On average, they pay less than $800 annually in child support."
(Sources: Fact Sheet-Teen Pregnancy in California @ http://www.letsgetreal.org/english,
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy @ http://www.teenpregnancy.org,
CDC National Vital Statistics Report, April 2000 @ http://www.aspe.os.dhhs.gov/hsp/teenp/ann-rpt00/index.htm#trends)
6. Rape:
Forcible Rape, USA:
1998, FBI stats: 93,103 rapes.Research indicates that up to 85% of rapes are not reported.
http://www.u.arizona.edu/~sexasslt/arpep/1999ucr.htmlNote: this would mean that in 1998, there were actually 620,687 rapes.
In 1992, a Bureau of Justice Statistics survey estimated that 16% of all rapes were against female children under the age of 12. This means that, based on reported rapes nationwide, approximately 17,000 children were raped.
(Note: This was based only on 12 states which kept data and reported it to the BJS. States with major populations such as Texas, New York, California and many other coastal states and New England states did not submit data. Therefore the estimate may be greatly understated.)
(Source: http://www.virlib.ncjrs.org/Statistics.asp)
Many rapes go unreported, particularily those occuring within a family and often those in which a church organization exerts control over those involved. Using the 85% unreported factor from above, this would mean that 113,333 little girls and boys under the age of 12 were raped. Statistics show that 46% of these rapes are committed by a family member, 50% by a friend or non-family acquaintance, and 4% by a stranger.Twelve States reported in sufficient detail to distinguish juvenile from adult rape victims. Their 20,824 victims comprised 20% of the national total. In the 12 States, 51% of female rape victims were juveniles under age 18.
http://www.inform.umd.edu/EdRes/Topic/WomensStudies/GenderIssues/Violence+Women/child-rape"Regardless of marital or social relationship, if a woman does not consent to sexual activity, she is being sexually assaulted. In fact, 14% of women are victims of rape committed by their husband."
http://www.rapevictimadvocates.org/myths.html
Using the 85% unreported factor from above, this would mean that 138,827 girls under the age of 18 were raped.About 1 in 3 rape victims were under age 13 in Delaware, Michigan, North Dakota.
About 1 in 4 rape victims were under age 10 in Delaware, Michigan.
http://www.inform.umd.edu/EdRes/Topic/WomensStudies/GenderIssues/Violence+Women/child-rapeIn contrast to the FBI data, the Rape in America study estimates that 683,000 women are raped every year.(3)
3. National Victims Center and Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center, Rape In America: A Report to the Nation
(Arlington, VA: National Victims Center, 1992). Available from National Victims Center, 2111 Wilson Boulevard, Suite 300, Arlington, VA 22201; (703) 276-2880.
http://www.feminist.com/resources/ourbodies/viol_intro.html
Date Rape"Did you know that 35 to 75 percent of all rapes against women are committed by men that know their victims? This form of sexual assault, commonly known as date or acquaintance rape, is one of the least reported crimes. Part of the reason that this is so is because many women do not realize that they are being illegally victimized since the act is committed by someone they know.
Unfortunately, date rape is a common crime in our society, and it often occurs in a college environment. A nationwide study which was conducted on college campuses revealed some astounding findings:
- 52% of women students have experienced some form of sexual victimization.
- 1 in 8 college women have been victims of rape.
- 1 in 12 college men admitted to sexually abusing women but did not consider themselves rapists.
Of the women raped, almost 75% didn't identify it as such.
- 47% of rapes were by first or casual dates or by romantic acquaintances.
Over 1/3 of the women didn't discuss the rape with anyone, and over 90% didn't report it to the police."
http://www.usf.edu/counsel/self-hlp/daterape.htm
"College date rape statistics are horrifying. In 1985, Mary Koss, a researcher at the University of Arizona, conducted the largest study of date rape on college campuses. Koss surveyed 32 campuses for Ms. magazine, and estimated that one in six college women become victims of rape or attempted rape - that statistic has since increased to one in four. Koss found that most rapes occurred on campus, 84 percent of the women knew their assailants, but only 27 percent realized that their sexual assault fell within the legal definition of rape. Sixteen percent said they thought what happened to them was a crime, 11 percent did not feel a crime was committed and 46 percent believed they had been victims of "serious miscommunication" rather than rape."
"One in 12 college men responding to the same survey admitted committing acts that met the legal definition of rape or attempted rape, but only 1 percent of those men saw their behavior as criminal."
http://www.richmond.edu/~journalm/magazine/4-97/features/articles/f-daterape.html
"Eighty-five percent of all rapes on college campuses are date or acquaintance rape, with the risk being four times higher for women 16-24 than any other age group.
The rape statistics for female college students reported having been a victim of rape or attempted rape during the 1996 year is one-in-six. At least 84 percent of the victims knew their attackers.
In a national statistic among 2,400 colleges participating in the reporting period mandated by the new law, approximately 1,000 rapes were reported, most of them date or acquaintance rape.
The statistics are probably higher because many times, rapes go unreported. It has been estimated that 42 percent of college women who are raped tell no one about their assault. Because of this, nearly one-third of college men said they were likely to have sex with an unwilling partner if they thought they could get away with it."This would mean that there are actually more than 1,470 college women raped each year.
"National Collegiate Date and Acquaintance Rape Statistics for 1996:
Ninety percent of date or acquaintance rapes involve alcohol.
Only 5 percent of college women who are raped report the rape to the police.
Only 5 percent of college women who are raped seek help at a rape crisis center.
Every year, hundreds of thousands of women between 16-24 years of age get pregnant from rape.
Eighty-four percent of college men who committed rape said that what they did was not rape.
More than 66 percent of college men involved in date rape had been intoxicated with alcohol or drugs.
More than 50 percent of the college women who were victims of date or acquaintance rape had been intoxicated with alcohol or drugs.
One in 15 male college students reported committing a rape or attempting to commit a rape during the preceding year.
Three in 1,000 college students are HIV-positive.
College males also fall as victims of date rape, but a majority of the time it is not reported because of the fear of people not believing them."
http://www.ulaverne.edu/~ctimes/bestoct/hall/daterape.htm
"Diana Russell (a prominent rape researcher) interviewed over 900 randomly selected women and found that, while 3% had experienced completed rape by a stranger, 8% had experienced completed rape by a husband. Wife rape was the most common type of completed rape reported. These numbers are calculated on all women, including those who haven't ever been married. If you only count women who have been married, 14% - or one in every seven married women - reported either a completed or attempted rape by a husband/ex-husband. David Finkelhor & Kersti Yllo, at the Family Research Laboratory in New Hampshire, surveyed over 300 community women in Boston and found that 10% of women who had been married reported sexual assault by a husband or ex-husband, while 3% reported sexual assaults by strangers (see reference list for these studies). Studies of battered women staying in shelters and women seeking relationship help report from one third to three quarters of those asked reported sexual assaults by their husbands or intimate partners.
A recent national survey found that 10% of all sexual assault cases reported by women involved a husband or ex-husband attacker (Rape in America, 1992, released by the National Victim Center, Arlington, VA). Because many women are less likely to label sexual assaults by a husband as rape (compared with sexual assaults by strangers or acquaintances) and so are less likely to report them, these numbers must be considered to be low estimates."
http://www.wellesley.edu/WCW/projects/mrape.html
For male survivors of sexual assault:
"Sexual assault happens to men as well as women. In fact, by most estimations, 5% to 10% of sexual assaults committed in the United States involve male victims. Some experts say that as many as 1 in 10 men will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. These numbers may sound startling because the problem of sexual assault against men isn't talked about very much.
Sexual assault against men happens in lots of different ways. Some men are assaulted by a stranger, or a group of strangers, while others may be assaulted by someone they know. Men are sometimes sexually assaulted by women but most often they are sexually assaulted by other men. Some attackers use weapons, physical force, or the threat of force to gain the upper hand. Others may use blackmail or a position of authority to threaten someone into submission. Still others use alcohol, drugs, or a combination of both, to prevent victims from fighting back. No matter how it occurs, it is a violation of a man's body and his free will and it can have lasting emotional consequences."
"By now, many college students have heard of the drug, Rohypnol, otherwise known as the "date rape drug." Street terms for this drug include "roofies" and "ropes." Although this drug is often associated with sexual assaults on females, it is being used increasingly on males, especially around college campuses."
Myth Vs. Reality
"Let's take a look at some mistaken beliefs about male sexual assault and uncover the realities behind the myths...
Myth: Men can't be sexually assaulted.
Reality: Men are sexually assaulted. Any man can be sexually assaulted regardless of size, strength, appearance or sexual orientation.Myth: Only gay men are sexually assaulted.
Reality: Heterosexual, gay and bisexual men are equally likely to be sexually assaulted. Being sexually assaulted has nothing to do with your current or future sexual orientation. Your sexuality has no more to do with being raped than being robbed.Myth: Only gay men sexually assault other men.
Reality: Most men who sexually assault other men identify themselves as heterosexual. This fact helps to highlight another reality -- that sexual assault is about violence, anger, and control over another person, not lust or sexual attraction.Myth: Men cannot be sexually assaulted by women.
Reality: Although the majority of perpetrators are male, men can also be sexually assaulted by women.Myth: Erection or ejaculation during a sexual assault means you "really wanted it" or consented to it. Reality: Erection and ejaculation are physiological responses that may result from mere physical contact or even extreme stress. These responses do not imply that you wanted or enjoyed the assault and do not indicate anything about your sexual orientation. Some rapists are aware how erection and ejaculation can confuse a victim of sexual assault -- this motivates them to manipulate their victims to the point of erection or ejaculation to increase their feelings of control and to discourage reporting of the crime."
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/maleassault/menassault.html
Male rape in U.S. prisons.
For those who think imprisonment is more humane than the death penalty, please read the personal accounts at the following web site:
http://www.hrw.org/reports/2001/prison/report.html#_1_2
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