BDSM

In both the mystery of God and in BDSM sex there is a Master or Dominatrix and a slave (submissive) relationship. God is our Father and our Mother, our Master and our Dominatrix. We are all God’s servants or slaves.

A slave (submissive) is at the complete mercy of the Master or Dominatrix. The Master or Dominatrix can do as he or she will with the slave (submissive) because the slave (submissive) completely surrenders to the Master or Dominatrix. The Master or Dominatrix does not misuse this surrender. Rather the Master or Dominatrix uses this surrender to help the slave (submissive) grow in love.

The Master or Dominatrix inflicts a sweet desirable pain upon the slave (submissive), desiccation which the slave (submissive) longs to have more of and begs to have more of. His or her desire is not to live without it. Then the Master or Dominatrix withdraws this agony and begins to give the slave (submissive) delirious joy, ecstasy which the slave (submissive) longs to have more of and begs to have more of. His or her desire is not to live without it.

The slave (submissive) cannot escape this manipulation of him or her by the Master or Dominatrix, nor does the slave (submissive) want to be released from this subjugation. He or she is blind to what is going on and does not know where the Master or Dominatrix is leading him or her.

The slave (submissive) only knows that he or she wants to serve the Master or Dominatrix with their whole heart and soul. The slave (submissive) further knows that the Master or Dominatrix loves him or her and would never do anything that would hurt him or her.

Many individuals believe that BDSM sex is about pain and suffering, but it is not. It is about faith, hope and love in one’s partner. The goal of the Master or Dominatrix is to increase that faith, hope and love by bringing the slave (submissive) to his or her fullest capacity and expanding it.

In every BDSM sex scene, the slave (submissive) has faith in the Master or Dominatrix that the Master or Dominatrix is not going to inflict more pain than he or she can bear (each person’s threshold of pain is different just as each person’s cross is different, 1Cor.10:13).

The slave (submissive) has hope that the Master or Dominatrix is not going to ask him or her to do something that he or she cannot or could not normally do (e.g., break the law) for each person’s abilities are different (1Cor.12:4-30).

The love that the Master or Dominatrix has for the slave (submissive) ensures to the slave (submissive) that he or she will receive joy and happiness. The Master’s or Dominatrix’s desire is to help the slave (submissive) enjoy his or her life to its fullest and to increase the slave’s (submissive’s) love.

One should note that many people in the BDSM community will disagree with the preceding paragraphs. They say that BDSM is about trust and honesty or about communication, commitment and surrendering control, or about setting limits, knowing needs and desires, or any number of feelings two people can have between themselves.

To me it’s all semantics. For it all depends upon what those involved want and need in the relationship and how they view the relationship. Getting bogged down in definitions and word games only detracts from the ultimate goal of BDSM: to deepen the love between those involved.

I say the same thing about the BDSM creed which is “as long as what one is doing is safe, sane and consensual then it is OK.” I take out the word sane and add the word non-exploitive because this is better for my needs. But in either case it all depends upon what the person in the dominate role and the person in the servile role want in the relationship.

Also, many people believe that BDSM sex is perverted. But as with art, each person defines perversion differently. For example, while engaging in sexual intercourse, some couples will pretend to be a doctor with a nurse or patient, or they may pretend to be a teacher with a student, or they will pretend to be a police officer with a suspect, or they will play at some other such light scene.

While others go to the other extreme with blindfolds, whips, clamps, ropes, vibrators and other such sex toys. Both of these are BDSM sex. The former is light BDSM and the latter is heavy BDSM. They are opposite ends of the same spectrum. In both, and in everything in between the two, there is a “slave” or “submissive” and a “Master” or “Dominatrix.” That is, one partner takes the servile role and the other partner takes the dominate role.

Many individuals also believe that a BDSM sex scene involves a situation where the Master or Dominatrix is in total control. Some believe that the Master or Dominatrix takes pleasure in dominating and inflicting pain upon the slave (submissive). But such beliefs are not true.

First of all, the scene is negotiated between the person playing the dominate role and the person playing the servile role, including the choice of a safe word. This is done BEFORE entering into the scene.

It is the slave (submissive) who has the final say so in deciding what the BDSM scene will entail and for how long it will last. The slave (submissive) also decides what “toys” will and will not be used. Thus the Master or Dominatrix does not dominate the slave (submissive). In reality, it is the other way around. For it is the slave (submissive) who makes the most basic decisions in all BDSM scenes.

Nor is there ever any real pain involved. The Master or Dominatrix never gives a greater burden to the slave (submissive) than he or she can bear. Nor does the Master or Dominatrix ever ask the slave (submissive) to do something that he or she cannot do. A BDSM scene involves the Master or Dominatrix and the slave (submissive) honestly communicating with each other, increasing their faith, hope and love for each other.

The same may be said for the mystery of God. He never gives His child a greater cross than he or she can carry. He will never ask one to do something that one cannot do. His ultimate goal is to increase our faith in Him, hope in Him and love of Him.

There are those who say that it is impossible to participate in BDSM sex and be chaste. There are those who say that it is impossible to look upon a nude person and not see sex and lust.

First of all, those who make such claims are themselves not chaste. A chaste person is someone who is pure in thought. They can look upon someone – nude or clothed – and not see sex and lust. A chaste person is someone who does not exploit sex and nudity for their own greed and selfish gain.

Secondly, I point to the scene I describe in the opening paragraphs and say that I see the crucifixion of Christ and God’s mystery, not pornography.

It is true that most people will see only sex and lust in the above scene. I am not going to deny that. But it is also true that most people never learn about God. They never learn about truth and justice. They never learn about true love. Most people learn just enough to get by and that’s it. They stop there.

They live only for the moment, not knowing where they came from or where they are going. They scorn perfection for material gains, and in doing so, they lose. They lose sight of the purpose of living: To find true perfection, true love, within them selves and to let it shine out for all to see.

In the moment that one touches true love, in the moment one touches that excellence, he or she will have just begun to touch heaven. One will then see that one’s physical body is nothing more than thought itself made in the image and likeness of God in a form that one can presently see and understand.

Finally, I am not attempting to say that one has to participate in any kind of BDSM sex in order to obtain everlasting life. I am not saying that one has to participate in BDSM during sex. Nor am I saying that only perverts participate in BDSM sex. I am just saying that BDSM sex is an excellent example to describe the mystery of God.

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