Limits in BDSM

Everyone faces limits, limits on what they will do, say, or think. This involves social activities, relationships, and personal beliefs. The limitations that people have will vary from person to person. Realizing your personal limitations, along with those of your partner(s), is rather desirable. Activities in BDSM center around trust and communication. Trust that limits will be respected, and open communication to ensure that limits are known. For the safety of the people involved lmits need to be respected. But to know the limits first involves facing your own limitations, and being honest about them.

Knowing your own limitations is the number one thing in BDSM. If you do not know your own limits it can be hard to effectively communicate with your partner(s), which can then lead to trust being placed in the wrong place. Examining what your personal limitations are should not be taken lightly. This is a very important thing that everyone should do. If you do not realize your limits, and then those lines are crossed, the results could be devastating. The goal of BDSM is not to mame or kill, but to provide a special type of pleasure.

The pleasure that BDSM provides varies by activity, which vary by relationship. The allowed activities will depend on those involved. BDSM usually involves two or more people (save for those who practice "self-bondage"). As more and more people come into the mixture, the limitations of the group become muddled This does not mean that individual limitations become second to the desires of the group. The number one thing, regardless of the number of people involved, are individual limitations.

The line that marks someone's limitations may be vague, or even crooked, but it is still present. And those limitations must be respected. In order for those limitations to be respected they must be conveyed to the necessary people. Almost always, the necessary people refers to all those involved, yourself and the other(s). This is the point where communication among the involved participants becomes important. For the only way that another can learn yor limitations is through you either telling them, or by crossing them. Through proper and honest communication the limits of those involved should never be crossed.

Respect implies honor. Honor implies trustworthiness. From these things comes the idea that limitations will be seen, understood, and respected. Through the use of communication, both with others and with oneself, a point shall come where these three values are the dominanting force. From this point all that can be done is for one to hope that you are honest. Honesty in your limitations is very important. Claiming more then you can handle is not wise. So you must be willing to admit to others and yourself, that you have limitations, and that these limitations must be respected.