Trust in BDSM

BDSM activities are sometthing that requires a lot of trust between the participants. The thing that I have found is that trust is very difficult to come across now a days. On that rare occassion that I am able to trust my partner the activities can be fun. If I do not feel that the partner can be trusted then there is little pleasure.

To build the necessary trust up takes time. Trust is not something that can be very easily had. Instead it takes work, time, and dedication. If you feel you can trust some one after meeting them just once, or if you have just known each other on-line, I would be extremely careful. Trust is a very powerful thing, and to place it in the wrong person can be dangerous.

The time it takes to build up trust will vary. I would say that trust, in terms of BDSM, comes when you feel you can give yourself over to someone with out having to fear at all. I don't mean that you need to just feel comfortable, but you really must be able to trust that person, basically with your life.

There is a fine line between sensual BDSM and out right torture. The line between the two will also vary from person to person. If trust is missing, or if it has not been completely established things can get out of hand. For the safety of the submissive I believe that a general out line of acceptable and non-acceptable activities needs to be made. If you are really unsure how to go about this then have each party involved fill out one of my check lists. At least that way you'll get a general idea of things.

Trust is a very big part of BDSM. If you can't trust the other party(s) involved then there is a problem forming. If yo can trust all those involved then you are probably safe, or safer then in other circumstances.