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Hello it's Sherrie.

The following is something one of my sons teachers gave me.It helps explain how I feel about my boys.

"I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared this unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel is like this....

"When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning for a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guidebooks and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum, The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

"After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" You say. "What do you mean Holland? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my live I've dreamed of going to Italy.""

"But there's been a change of flight plans. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

"The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horriable, disqusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a diffrent place.

"So you must go out and buy new guidebooks. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you never would have met.

"It's just a diffrent place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. but after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around, and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills, Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

"But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy, and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life you will say, "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

"And the pain of that will never, ever, ever go away, because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.

"But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland."

By Emily Pearl Kingsley