Before retirement, my life style really focused on Work. First thing which perplexed me after retirement is how to spend plenty hours without going to work.

For last 30 years, I have suffered from busy working life. However I found myself also enjoyed such busy hours, because it was only way of life I knew.

Suddenly after retirement, I realized that I did not even know what my wife's true hobby is and her objectives of life are. She seemed to me like a stranger sitting next to me. However, it was myself who was actually a stranger in the community. Our married life became miserable rapidly.

this seems to show our desolate mental situation
 

My wife is essentially a typical optimist and this attribute of her has been precious relief for me.

In Japan, I mean good old Japan, wives were supposed to be patient and obedient. In another words, men should protect and be responsible for them and their attached living things.

In this context, men should have devoted to work and if not, he would have been blamed for as not been a manly man.

Man should ride stern waves.
 
 

But my technique used for riding business waves did not work to kill long meaningless hours. In second new life, almost of my business techniques were denied their effectiveness completely. 　

For example, talking to the point is regarded as brusque manner, avoiding long meaningless chatter is considered as unsociable attitude.

These were just some of rules to be complied with in order to associate with neighbors, which I could not stand. As I was quite stubborn, even my optimistic wife gave up me on associating in neighborhood.

Through this kind of process, our marriage life was facing with more and more difficulties.

(To be continued......）

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