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AVOID DISAPPOINTMENTS
by Dero Pedero
Disappointments are part and parcel of life. In this circus of
existence, you cannot have your way all the time. Things change; people
change. Events and results have an unpredictable and uncontrollable way
of happening. To keep yourself from being utterly frustrated and
dismayed, here are some things to avoid or at least soften the pangs of
great disappointment:
1. Expect the best but be ready for the worst.
When you work hard on something, it's natural to expect the best
results. And the most glorious rewards. But sometimes things don't turn
out the way you want them to. To keep from being dreadfully dismayed,
expect the best, but at the same time, psyche yourself up for the worst.
Then you'll be ready for any nexpected turn of events!
2. Give it your best shot.
Much of the frustration that follows a failure is the big disappointment
you feel towards yourself. When you do not try hard enough, you are
overcome with guilt and regret. In whatever you are doing, do your best,
give it your best shot. Then you'll know you did all you can and you
should be proud for trying.
3. Realize that you cannot own people.
We often expect people to act or be a certain way that would be
congruous to how we want them to be. Realize that you do not and can not
own people. Each person has his own mind and the natural right to free
will. Give others the gift of space and freedom. Remember that when you
lose someone, whatever you were expecting was not meant to be.
4. Realize that we are just temporary stewards of things.
When you lose material things, whether they are stolen from you or
gutted down by a fire, minimize your grief by realizing that we are just
temporary keepers of what we own. They will finally find their way to
where they were destined to be. Besides, when you finally go, you cannot
take a single thing with you.
5. Never expect anything back.
People get bitterly disappointed when they don't get back what they give
to others. People always expect (some even demand!) repayment. This is a
major cause of extreme frustration. When you help someone (especially
financially) do not expect anything back. Think of it as a gift of love
that's given freely and completely with no strings attached.
6. Don't pin your life on one person.
You would be doing yourself a great injustice if you pinned your life on
one person. No one person should take control, importance or dominance
over your existence. People come and go in our lives. If you depend too
much on someone, you will feel so shattered, helpless and hopeless if
you lose him. Make sure you can stand on your own two feet. And live
your own dreams, not other people's.
7. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
To avoid disappointment from losing anything, don't put all your eggs in
one basket. It's a good practice to have more than one project happening
so that when one fails, you have others to look forward to. Regarding
financial investment, it is wise to diversify. The more things you have
going, the less the chance of losing it all.
8. Realize that success is a combination of many factors.
You do not have full control over the outcome of things. Even with all
the necessary preparations and precautions, things may end up
differently from how you want them to. There are many factors and
variables that determine how something or an event will turn out. And
that includes the weather!
9. Realize that you will always get another chance.
If you don't succeed now, there will always be another time. Tell
yourself that maybe it just isn't the right time yet for what you
desire. Keep in mind that you will always get another chance to get a
crack at it. Never lose hope. Hope springs eternal.
10. Realize that without defeat, victory won't be as sweet.
You have to feel the bitterness of failure to be able to savor the
sweetness of success. Failures make you strong and powerful. Use them as
a challenge for more determination to go after your dreams next time.
Analyze why you failed and learn from your mistakes.
11. Realize that the universe has its own divine plan.
Yes indeed, the universe has a divine design. It has its own
unchangeable, unique plan which may be very different from yours. You
may not understand it at all for now, but it is something you have to
force yourself to live with. Going against the current will just
frustrate you. Do what the Zen masters preach: Go with the flow!
12. When things turn out awry, it's not the end of the world.
The world will not end just because something did not turn out the way
you expected it to. It will keep on turning even if you cried a bathtub
of tears in your own little dark corner. So dry your eyes and erase
those disappointments. Hey, Friends! flash on a smile! Tomorrow is
another day.
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