Mom's Wisdom

Hi~ Here are some of the lectures, quotes, philosophies, sermons or anything else that's on my mom's mind when it comes to me...Maybe you could relate to some of these...if you have something similar to these that you want to share or if you want comment on any of these, please e-mail me at sophiechoi@yahoo.com. I'll add your mom's wisdom to my collection and give credit where it's due :)

"A girl could eat in many different restaurants but should sleep in only one place...home with your family or after marriage, with your husband"
     This is what my mom told me when I pleaded for sleep over at my friend Sarah's house. Usually, she will say no because the house I want to sleep over has either father, brother or some guy....she says you can't be too careful...so I don't bother to ask her anymore when it's that kind of situation...but this time, Sarah was home alone and her parents were in Korea. I thought she would say "yes" but as usual she told me "no" with reasons stated above and that two girls in a house all by themselves is too dangerous. Can't win at all with my mom :(

"Once you break a china, you can't put it back together"
     Usually, I hear this quote when my mom wants to emphasize the need to be careful in any kind of situation. She views the girls as fragile china which can break with slightest incident. Last time I tried to be a smart mouth by replying that I could mend it back with a crazy glue or something and she solemnly said "even with a crazy glue, broken china has already lost it's value" arhhh...she can be so maddening sometimes but more I grow older, more I understand the need for carefulness.

"Generations come and go but there's only one truth"
     I went out with bunch of friends tonight and came home later than I expected. My mom was disappointed that I broke my word and told me how my dad doesn't understand me coming home late. Apparently, he never came home late when he was young. He doesn't even understand when I come home late from school studying. When I complained to my mom that dad doesn't understand me because of the generation gap, she told me that truth never changes...no matter what happens in this world. I do agree with her but it sure does complicate my social life(that is if I have one...)

When I was deciding on which university to go, I really wanted to go to Queens University. I wanted to live in dormitory and have some freedom away from home. My mom drove me crazy before I accepted the universities offer and SHE eventually settled on University of Toronto where she could keep an eye on me. Even though I didn't get my way, I still wanted some freedom so I asked my mom if I could go to rez. She replied "NO" and that if I do want to go, I have to pay my own way. Since I had some money saved from my part time work, I told her then I will be going to rez for first year of university. I thought she accepted my decision and thought everything was settled...Boy, was I wrong....My mom was telling me how it would be waste of money to go to rez when I'm in the same city. She suggested how it would be a lot smarter to use that money to visit Europe. She knew how much I wanted to travel but every single time I wanted to go somewhere, she always stopped me. My dad is so different from her when it comes to traveling and stuff. If I told him I wanted to go somewhere to learn or to travel, he will give me money or offer to give me a ride to wherever I want to go. But my mom always objected to our plan...Anyway, so you could imagine how excited I was about the prospect of going to Europe. So I asked her if I could go next summer and she said "NO, it's too dangerous to go by yourself". Thinking that's reasonable objection, I asked "Can I go to Europe with Sue(my best friend)?". You know what she said? She said "NO, too dangerous for girls to be alone in Europe." arhhh....just to goad her more, I asked "So, if I go with bunch of guys, that will be okay, right?". She practically jumped up and said "Of course not! What kind of mother would I be if I let you go on a long trip with whole bunch of guys?". Since she turned down all my choice of companion, I asked her again "Then who am I suppose to go Europe with?" and my mom replied "With your husband. On your honeymoon, of course". Don't know why I bothered to think she was serious about me going to Europe. You know what I did with the money, right? Yeah I went to rez :)

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