Ending Abusive Relationships
Steps for Healing

  1. As soon as I recognize that I am in an abusive relationship (physical, emotional, verbal, sexual), I will acknowledge that I don't deserve it, and I will decide to do something about it.
  2. I will use all legal options available to protect myself and my children, if any, including obtaining an Order of Protection*, signing complaints,etc.
  3. I will educate myself to understand the cycle of violence and how I became a victim.
  4. I will utilize support systems including groups and individual counseling as I find it necessary to my personal growth.
  5. I will take responsibility for myself and my actions - I can only change myself, not my abuser.
  6. I will seek a sponsor/friend who has experienced domestic violence and whom I can call when I need support during my healing process.
  7. I will note my feelings in a daily journal in order to get to know myself better.
  8. I will learn to take better care of myself.
  9. I will try to make a daily plan to organize and carry out my priorities.
  10. I will try not to focus on the past, but will look ahead to a positive future and acknowledge my progress and successes.
  11. I will get in touch with my own sense of sexual and spiritual feelings and needs.
  12. I will form new relationships based on mutual respect.

Prepared by the Monday Night Support Group of Family Shelter Service, December 1988

*a court order known by different names in different states.
ie. PA. has a Protection From Abuse Order

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This page was last updated Thursday, December 4, 1997 8:38:32 AM
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