 Self
Esteem  What is self-esteem? I looked up the word esteem in the dictionary and the definition stated was "Regard with respect." What an interesting concept. How many of us actually regard ourselves with respect? It is so much easier to regard others with respect. Our bosses, our children, our spouses, our parents and even a stranger we see on a television program. Ask yourself a few questions, What does respect mean to me? What our some of the qualities of the people I respect? Do I have some of these qualities? Do I respect myself? I believe that all people deserve some type of respect. Whether they have earned it or not. I also believe if you can not respect yourself you can have little respect for the people around you. Our self-esteem, how we respect and feel about ourselves, effects every aspect of our life. It effects our children, our work, our health, our eating habits, our intimate relationships, and even the reactions to things that happen to us. Because women our more apt to express there feelings then men, we have a higher visibility to show our respect towards ourselves. Have you ever seen a women standing in a grocery store yelling at her children? When I see something like that I have to wonder how does she feel about herself? I know that everyone has bad days. I certainly do, yet if life is throwing curve balls at me there are several different things I can do to calm myself so that I am not yelling at everyone that crosses my path. Talking about how I feel. If you I am having a bad day. Sometimes talking about what has been happening with a friend or my spouse. They do not have to give advice or any solutions but just them listening and me listening to what I am saying, alot of the time makes things not so uncontrollable. Take some time out for me. This is when a nice cup of coffee, messing with the computer and enjoying some time alone with me really comes in handy. However if you are not into computers, reading a book, going for a walk, going window shopping or anything that you can spend some time with just you and yourself. This is not the time to go grocery shopping at 5 o'clock with 3 kids. Now your probably thinking, okay I have three kids and I am a single parent how am I suppose to have some time alone. Well, the kids eventually have to go to bed, you could take it then, Or ask a friend to watch them for an hour in exchange for watching there children for an hour. You could be even more creative and take them all to the dollar movie, and let them watch the movie while you enjoy the first fifteen minutes of the movie until they get bored. (At least that would be a little time) Another suggestion is to get a bag of special items. Crayons, paper, glue sticks, newspapers, child safety scissors, and other craft stuff. Keep it out of reach until those moments arrive that you need a few minutes to yourself. This can also be used while your on the phone. Cause if your kids are like mine, they never what anything until I am on the phone. (this would also cover the talking about what is going on.) How are you doing today? Everyday I think I say this at least a dozen times in a dozen different whys. How are you? What is going on with you? or even just a smile at someone in an elevator. However very rarely do I ask my self that question. Yes there are people you ask me that, but usually they get a standard answer of...Fine, and you? How I am feeling and how I am dealing with life only become an issue when someone I trust ask me how I am. I trust myself so I need to ask myself that to. I also need to answer honestly. Sometimes I ask my self and write the answer, sometimes it is just a matter of thinking about I am doing. If I now how I feel I can usually see why I am doing what it is I am doing. And I can understand what needs to be done to take care of myself. Taking care of our selves is important. But it is not a easy thing do to all the time, especially if I do not know what it is I need. I can accomplish this by making a list of my wants, my needs, my desires and my dreams. Setting goals for the things I don't have, praising myself for things I do have, and working on the things that are not necessarily good for me. The important thing to remember is that life is not easy. It is going to throw you hard balls. If you know who you are, you respect yourself.. you can deal with anything that life throws at you. I bet you are wondering who is she to talk about self-esteem. She has no formal education on the matter. Well, to answer that question I will just tell you, that I have had life's curve balls so many times that I could be a professional hitter for any major league baseball team in the country. Some of those times I have had self-esteem, but in the beginning I did not. I have done many years of self-exploration to understand what it is I need to do to take care of me. All of this information is my own opinions, it is what works for me, it may not work for you. But because I care about people I think it is important to pass on what I have learned, in hopes that I can help one person. For some ideas on doing something
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