1. You have the right to all those good times that you longed for all those years and didn't have.

2. You have a right to joy in this life, right here, right now - not just a momentary rush of euphoria but something more substantial.

3. You have a right to relax and have fun in a without being judged or shunned.

4. You have a right to say no whenever you feel something is not safe or you're not ready.

5. You have a right to actively pursue people, places, and situations that will help you in achieving a good life.

6. You have the right to not participate in either the active or passive 'crazy-making' behavior of parents, of siblings, or of others.

7. You have a right to take calculated risks and to experiment with new strategies.

8. You have the right to change your tune, your strategy, and your funny equations.

9. You have a right to 'mess up', to make mistakes, to 'blow it', to disappoint yourself, and to fall short of the mark.

10. You have a right to leave the company of people who deliberately or inadvertently put your down, lay a guilt trip on you, manipulate or humiliate you, including your ''associated' parents/member(s) or any other member of your family.

11. You have a right to put an end to conversations with people who make you feel put down and humiliated.

12. You have a right to all your feelings.

13. You have a right to trust your feelings, your judgment, your hunches, your intuition.

14. You have a right to develop yourself as a whole person emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically, and psychologically.

15. You have a right to express all your feelings in a nondestructive way and at a safe time and place.

16. You have a right to as much time as you need to experiment with this new information and these new ideas and to initiate changes in your life.

17. You have a right to sort out the bill of goods your parents/family sold you - to take the acceptable and to dump the unacceptable.

18. You have the right to a mentally healthy, sane way of existence, though it will deviate in part, or all, from your parents'/family's prescribed philosophy of life.

19. You have a right to carve out your place in this world.

20. You have a right to follow any of the above rights, to live your life the way you want to, and not wait until the parent/family gets out, gets happy, seeks help, or admits there is a problem.