NO. 

Support can be a place/program designed to help you to identify trouble spots in your current day life (ie jobs, relationships, intimacy, etc.) and to help you learn where your troublesome patterns originated and how to change them.

It's a program about change.  It is about identifying abuse and neglect in your past, yes, but it doesn’t stop there.  It can help you to see how that abuse affected you, what you learned about yourself and the world and how those learned beliefs are damaging your life today.

In a sense, it can be said that a support program is about learning the meaning of the serenity prayer, "Accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."

In accepting the truth of our lives when we were abused, we free ourselves from the burden of carrying a lie.  We free ourselves from the burden of having to keep silent about all of our family/religious secrets.  We cannot change how things were.

The courage to change the things I can change in my life today is important. A part of this courage comes simply from knowing we can change things.  Learning we do have choices.  Learning how to identify and use those choices is a very important part of recovery.
 
 

For those born into the abusive faith:

Children are natural students.  They learn in many ways.  Children learn through their experiences, by observation, and from people around them who are all their teachers.

In our dysfunctional families of origin, we learned many things. Many things about the world, people and ourselves.  Not all of them were true and much of what we learned was harmful to us.  Some of us learned we were bad.  Some of us learned we were to be used a punching bag, physically and/or emotionally.  Others of us learned we were totally responsible for anything and everything that went wrong.  Some of us leaned we were totally alone in the world.  Many of us learned we had to "earn" any love that came our way.  Most of us learned we were "not good enough" or worthless, and many of us learned we didn’t exist at all.

On the other hand, many children who grow up in healthy functional, emotionally secure homes often learn things we had no opportunity whatsoever to learn.  Many things are learned through osmosis in a healthy home that we have never had contact with; things we need to function well and to take care of ourselves physically and emotionally as adults.  Many of us never learned we had any right at all.  Many of us never learned how to defend ourselves.   Many of us never learned how to say "no".  Many of us never learned what it feels like to feel safe.  Some of us never learned that promises were meant to be kept.  Most of us never learned we have worth.