"You can't separate peace from freedom because no one can be at peace unless he has his freedom."

Would you please give me some advice? I have the mother-in-law from hell.

My husband and I have been married for five years now (this is my second marriage), and we have two beautiful daughters. I have one daughter from my first marriage and we have a nine-month old daughter together. When my husband and I first started dating, we would have long conversations about our family. I would always explain to him how close I was to my mother (We still are very close). He later explained that he and his mother were not close and that as a child growing up she would favor his oldest brother. My husband also stated that his mother would always tell him that she did not want to have him, but because he was her son she still loved him. When my husband told this to me I was shocked. I said "she can't be that bad". Well I was wrong and he was right!

While still dating at the time, we would visit his mother on occasions. She would constantly bring up my husband's old girlfriends, it didn't bother me because I knew were I stood with my then boyfriend. His mother would even invite my husband's old girlfriends over when we had family gatherings. But, I still remain respectful to her and I never let on that it bothered me. Here we are now, and we are happily married (smile) and his mother is still trying to start drama. Even at our wedding, she always had something negative to say. It got to the point when my husband would confront her with all the tricks she tried to play. She would cry and apologize, but as soon as we thought she would change, she would be back to her old tricks again. I have even confronted her on several occasions, but again she has not changed.

She is very color struck, the only thing that matters to her is complexion and hair texture. When my second daughter was born, she always made comments on her complexion, "Oh! she starting to get a little brown". Even with my 11-year old daughter she has made comments in reference to her complexion and hair (of course we had drag our fights about this). My husband and I are at the point where we just keep our distance from her. She is welcome to come to our house to visit the kids, but my husband and I will not allow her to take the kids to her home. My mother and I have discussed this issue. My Mom says to leave it in God's hands and he will take care of it. I have come to the conclusion that a person this evil can only be helped through God. This woman attends church every Saturday. I can't understand how a person who claims to be a Christian can mistreat her child, and grandkids this way. I refuse to let this woman poison our lives. We are a young couple and we have a beautiful family. We both work hard to take care of our daughters and we have a beautiful home. My husband is closer to my mother than to his own mother. Doesn't his mother realize that she is missing out on the beautiful relationship she could have with us. Please give me some advice.

Thank you a lot!

Nia

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