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I was directly involved with Domestic Violence. I was a victim for ten years, until I found the courage and the strength to get out. I hope to help others to do the same through my page. For a while I volunteered at a Domestic Violence program. I took call every third week on a rotating basis with other volunteers. I was there to direct individuals, to answer questions and most important, to listen. Knowing that I was helping others to understand that the situation they were in was not a good one and that it would not change as we all hope, and to show them that there were people out there that would help them get through it, made me feel good. It is hard to trust people and talk to them about what is happening in your home, I know this, I was there myself. Talking with someone who has been in a similiar situation is a little easier. Talking with those that have been there, who feel as you do, who have the same questions, is very helpful. Sometimes just listening to others, opens our eyes and we feel this strength within, where we want to help them and we can turn that strngth around and use it to help ourselves.
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To the family and friends, try to understand that the reason they do not involve you is that they are afraid harm will come to you, and they do not want that. The threats , they take very serious, because no one can afford not to take them serious. Also, please do not blame them, dwell on their mistakes or tell them, "I told you so" or "There was always something about him that I didn't like". Unfortunatly, we didn't see it and right now it doesn't matter. What matters is that they find a way to get out, the right time to do it and the strength within to do it. You also should realize that we are being told day in and day out, that we are stupid, we cannot make it on our own, that we can't do anything right and that we are nothing. We need positive reassurance, so that we feel good about ourselves and then we can believe that we can do it, we can make it on our own. Like a drop of water coming out of the faucet, is the beginning to a full glass, one step at atime is the beginning to a safer, happier, fuller life for you.
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