How To Be An Ally Of Lesbians And Gay Men

Don't assume that each lesbian or gay man represents all others, or that there is one single "homosexual" lifestyle. A great deal of diversity exists within the gay and lesbian communities. Approach each individual without making assumptions.

Many lesbians and gay men are willing to answer respectful questions about their lives. Even so, please ask before assuming that an individual is willing to discuss these matters with you.

When people learn of bigotry, they often repeat it to a person from the group which is most affected. If you experience or hear of a homophobic event, please be considerate about pointing it out to a lesbian or gay man. It can sometimes hurt.

When we first come into contact with someone this culture has taught us to hate, we often tell out prejudices and assumptions to that person. Be aware of this tendency in yourself. Apologize if you catch yourself doing this.

Listen to how each person chooses to name him/herself and his or her partner (i.e. "lesbian," "gay," roommate," "lover," "companion"). Use those terms in conversation with him or her.

Interrupt offensive language, mimicking behavior, or insensitive jokes. Let people know that the language, behavior, and jokes are unacceptable -- even between gay people.

Try not to make the assumption that everyone you meet is heterosexual. Be open to the possibility that anyone may be lesbian or gay.

Understand that the expression of homophobia is an attack upon the spirit, emotions, and sometimes the actual physical being of lesbians and gay men. It is also a violation of every person's freedom and human right to be who he or she wants to be.

Reach out to lesbians and gay men. You will make new friends and enrich your life.

During the upcoming legislative session, politicians and religious leaders will be publicly making prejudiced remarks about lesbians and gay men. Contradict these statements in conversations and through letters to the editor in newspapers. You might also be surprised to know that it sometimes helps to point out if you are heterosexual. This lets our politicians know that human rights are not "special interest" topics.

Thank you for your support! It makes a difference.