Many people assume that the sexes are very obviously physically different. Yet so many people go to so much effort to manufacture physical gender differences. Many men and women adopt hairstyles and clothes designed to differentiate their gender. There are gender codes dictating the wearing of make-up and perfume/ aftershave. There are gender codes dictating body language, movement, posture and "appropriate" behaviour. Many women remove underarm, leg and body hair so as to appear "female". If the sexes are as naturally different as some would have us believe, why would we have to go to so much effort to manufacture those differences?

Let's leave aside for the moment intersexed humans and others born with other than the two standard sex chromosome combinations.

Let's look just at the humans who are born with XY chromosomes and with what at puberty will be fertile male (sperm producing) genitalia, and the humans born with XX chromosomes with what at puberty will be fertile female (ova producing) genitals.

As startling as the physical differences may be, the similarities may be very surprising. Not so surprising, perhaps, if we remember that male and female humans are not different species, but members of the same species with slight variations.

Those variations do not become at all obvious until the human embryo has been growing for five months. The sex organs are undifferentiated until this time. That is, the sex gonads are equally proto-ovaries or proto-testes, and the phallic organ is equally a proto-clitoris or a proto-penis.

Then a reaction from the Y chromosomes in what will be male children causes those parts to develop differently. Until then, the foetal shape is basically female, complete with vaginal opening and labia. If the normal reaction follows from the presence of Y chromosomes, the proto-ovaries/testes become testes and drop into the proto-vaginal lips which have sealed and become the scrotum. The seam where the proto-vaginal lips fused together can still be seen on the male human perineum and scrotum.

A female to male trany who takes male hormones finds that their clitoris not only enlarges but develops in shape to become a perfect miniature penis.

There are several other corresponding organs that may at first appear dissimilar between the sexes. Nipples are perhaps the most obvious example. Male to female tranys who take female hormones will have breast development much like a normal females. Even without hormone therapy, many men find that their nipples are as capable of erotic pleasure as women's nipples are.

There's also the G spot, which you may be surprised to learn is common to both sexes. The glands that develop in normal females behind the clitoris into the Cowpers glands, producing lubricating fluid, are the same glands that develop in normal males into the prostate gland, producing the fluid of semen.

Just as the origin and fluids produced by the glands are similar, so are the orgasmic sensations they produce when stimulated. In short, both men and women have two sets of very orgasmic organs: the penis/ clitoris, and the prostate/ G-spot. In my opinion, making love to a man without touching his prostate is as rude as making love to a woman without touching her clitoris.

The female G-spot may be found by inserting a finger in the vagina and pressing the underside of the clitoris. The skin texture will feel different, like the inside of the facial cheeks, and is about the circumference of a five cent piece unaroused, and a twenty cent piece when aroused.

Many men discover their prostate glands through being anally entered, but the male "G-spot" can be accessed without this entry. Follow the erectile tissues from the penis down past the scrotum, where they curve back into the body. Press in here, on the perineum, just before the anus. This is where the prostate can be pleasurably stimulated.

Of course, human erotic responses vary enormously between individuals, and even in the same individual in different circumstances. My point is that our physical, structural, and erotic similarities are more important that our superficial differences.

1. Apart from the fact that the urethra is external to it, since it wopuld only have been internalised if the proto-clitoris/penis had developed into a penis in vitro. [click here to return to text]

2. Sperm, of course, is produced from the testes, but the otherwise clear fluid they travel in is produced by the prostate. [click to return to text]