Honor in BDSM

Honor is a noble trait that has all but disappeared in current times. Honor used to be something so respected, so desired, so longed for. Yet now a days, the mere concept of honor is nearly extinct, especially from the American culture. Even with this decline of honor socially, there are those who still hold on to the traditional values. The idea of honor is not gone, nor shall it ever truly disappear. In the world of BDSM, honor should play an important role in peoples lives. Honor should be a trait embodied by all those who would take part in such activities. As, in BDSM, trust is some necessary, there is little to base trust on other then someone's honor and personality.

If you can't trust someone then there is little hope for having a pleasant experience. If someone lacks honor, they most likely also lack trust. Just as trust between two or more people makes the activities more enjoyable, the sense of honor someone holds can aid their own personal desires. For honor is something that reflects your personality, something that you can take pride in, something that should carry great weight in your life. Is not an honorable person a more trustworthy person?

Again I say that trust is a very big part of BDSM. And I shall continue to say so. I wrote in my article "Trust in BDSM" about this issue. And again it reappears. Trust is the biggest thing, trust goes along with honor, and trust goes along with communication. If it were not for the honor of people trust would be such a distant thing.

When you know a person you are basing your knowledge of them on experience. This experience may come from interactions, conversations, or letters. In all cases you are taking it on faith that they are portraying what they truly are. You are basically depending on the persons sense of honor to guide them, to cause them to be truthful to you. In BDSM there needs to be an open and honest line of communication. If this lacks then things can go seriously wrong. When something goes wrong in these activities there can be dire consequences, including but not limited to death.

I feel that a sense of honor is a necessary part of BDSM. It works like a simple policing system. One where it is not dependant on an outside party to make the judgement calls, but instead each person is being honest both to them self and to the other(s) involved. If that is something you can not achieve then you need to rethink things. You need to understand that BDSM is based on trust, communication, and personal honor.