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What does BDSM mean to me?
In real life, BDSM has become
something special that Gwen and I share. Our on-line friend,
Sorceress, introduced Gwen to the world of BDSM by sharing some of
the finer points of domination with her. Gwen tells the story very
well on her homepage.
After Gwen learned some from
Sorceress, almost 2 years ago, she introduced me to BDSM in real
life, with a very special birthday gift. I found out how wonderful it
can be to be bound and aroused to distraction, and how being spanked
could enhance pleasure.
After that experience, Gwen and I
both became devoted students of B & D, and would eventually find
our natural roles. Today, Gwen and I are "switch" meaning
that we trade the Dominant and submissive roles with each other.
Primarily, I am Dominant, and she is mainly submissive. The exchange
of roles not only fulfills our shared fantasies, but it also broadens
our relationship and our knowledge.
We've watched our communication
improve tremendously, and I've personally felt my love for her, and
my husband deepen even more, and more quickly than I dreamed
possible. BDSM encourages that to happen, when it's practiced
correctly and in the right spirit.
BDSM, to me, means letting down
all the barriers that we as humans put up to guard our emotions, and
to do that in a careful manner, one barrier at a time, until we begin
to expose and explore new emotional, physical and mental barriers to
overcome. To do that, you must have very strong trust and faith in
your partner and in the love that you share with them. And you both
have to respect each other and each other's limits, because a lot of
bad things can happen if you or your partner pushes too hard.
It's also a good way to have a
hell of a lot of fun with someone you love.~G~
The key to it, is found in the
words "safe, sane and consensual". Nobody with any brains,
wants to be gratuitously beaten half to death, or mutilated, or
emotionally crushed. The acid test, as to the difference between BDSM
and abuse, is always a question of mutual consent. "Safe
words", and "safety checklists" do a lot to make the
practices of BDSM safer for those new to the lifestyle that are
counseled to use them.
BDSM is a strong part of my
life... it has changed my life and the lives of people I love, as
well as my relationships with them... and all for the better. To me,
BDSM is the doorway to my soul, and to the souls of my partners. |
      
E-mail me at
pgabby@softhome.net |
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