Love yourself
enough to treat yourself right. Your friends, family,
and boyfriend or girlfriend will take your lead and
treat you the way they see you treating yourself.
If you aren't
being treated with love and respect, then walk away.
I have seen so many people that I care about get
caught up in a bad relationship because they are
insecure and don't believe they deserve better. YOU
DESERVE BETTER...PERIOD.
I have also
seen my friends act on their insecurities by doing
anything they could to please their boyfriend or
girlfriend. (You know, when a person talks and always
referes to what his or her girlfriend/boyfriend wants
and you never hear that person mention his or her own
needs?) I think it is a big mistake to believe that
love means putting someone else's needs and happiness
before your own. It is great to care, but not so much
that by doing so you compromise your own needs.
I have a very
close friend who had a very controlling boyfriend.
She was always walking on eggshells, petrified of
doing something that would make him angry. He used
his "love" as a means of control, always
threatening to take it away if she didn't behave
according to his desires. It was so sad and so hard
for me to watch someone I cared about going through
this. It was like she was disappearing a little every
day and by the end of the school year she didn't even
know who she was, let alone what she needed.
She did
eventually end the relationship and it was horribly
painful for her to look back and see what she had
compromised and what she had missed by allowing
herself to be controlled by this guy. Her message to
you right now would be: If you find yourself in a
relationhip with someone who tires to control you and
make you feel like you are worthless without him or
her, get out now. That person will not change. It
will not get better if you just ________________ (fill
in the blank). That's what you get caught up in
thinking. If I treat him better then he won't be so
angry with me all the time. Or, he just loves me so
much that he can't handle it when I hang out with my
girlfriends. THAT IS NOT LOVE!!!!!
Remember that
you are perfect...you are great just the way you are
and you deserve to be treated with love and resepct.
No less...no matter what. No less...no matter
what.
Falling in Love
