I,
as well as friends of mine, have developed crushes on
good friends. Keep in mind that friends are extremely
precious and you should always be mindful of their
feelings. If you develop feelings for a friend of
yours, let him or her know. Much like asking somebody
out, you will never know if mutual feeligns exist
unless you put your feelings out there.
If
you find yourself on the other side of this
potentially awkward scenario, be honest and be
considerate. If your feelings are not as strong as
your friend's, let him or her down easily. Be
sensitive--in all likelihood, your friend has had
these feelings bottled up for a long time.
I
had a huge crush on one of my friends in high school.
She didn't feel the same way and instead of letting
me know she wasn't interested, she avoided the issue.
Unfotunately, this bred a lingering feeling of "possibility"
in my mind. It would have hurt a lot less if she had
been forthright, honest and sensitive.
Sometimes
you can get involved with a friend only to have the
relationship not work out. Things can go
back to the way they were before you two became
involved. I have become involved with friends of mine
in the past and even though the relationship didn't
work out, we were able to go back to our close
friendship. We just realized we weren't right for
each other and we were better off as friends. We
remain close to this day.
Unrequited Love
