Ok, what is Polyamory, and what it isn't...

This is the definition from the alt.polyamory page

Polyamory means "loving more than one". This love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the individuals involved, but you needn't wear yourself out trying to figure out ways to fit fondness for apple pie, or filial piety, or a passion for the Saint Paul Saints baseball club into it. "Polyamorous" is also used as a descriptive term by people who are open to more than one relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one. (Heck, some are involved in less than one.) Some people think the definition is a bit loose, but it's got to be fairly roomy to fit the wide range of poly arrangements out there.

So what does this mean (at least to me)?

It means that you can love more than one person at one time, and not feel bad about it, so long as everyone is open and honest with each other. You have love your friends, male or female, and let them know it, without feeling ashamed or concerned about labels. And it's not cheating if everyone is comfortable, open, and honest with their ability to love other people.

It does not mean "swinging", swapping partners, or other such things. It is an open and honest set of relationships, where you can truly love people, and no one feels uncomfortable with the arrangement.

Personally, I'm heterosexual. I love my friends, I just don't want to have sex with my guy friends. My female friends, it depends, some of them maybe, some maybe not. The point being, I can tell them this, and relax and have fun, and not have to worry about what people think. I can tell my guy friends that they mean a lot to me, and no one freaks, because I care about them as they were my own blood. They know that I'm not going to bail on them, and I won't do stuff that will cause them suffering, and that I truly love them as I love myself. And my female friends can feel good about me because they know I am open with how I feel, and that all my ulterior motives are out in the open.

Currently, I'm single; I left a primary relationship about a year ago. I left a secondary relationship about 7 months ago. For the most part, I've just been floating about, not worrying about things, but am starting to jump into the pool again. So if anyone in interested, let me know.

For more info on Polyamory, check the alt.polyamory discussion group FAQ, and appropriate links.